"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Fashion: fit or casual T-shirt?

anonymous12345

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 23, 2021
Messages
496
Reaction score
185
Age
42
Location
Sweden
I try to care about the size of my new white T-shirts, heh. Either rather well-fit/tight or more casual. In either case it’s a slim fit, I got athletic build.

In my world it’s fvck boy on one extreme, and unnoticeable casual on the other. I’m currently leaning towards the former: rather make an impression than being ordinary like others. So, rather sexy and a slight attitude. On the other hand it can come across as a try-hard, sleazy, the frat boy.

In any case, it’s not that big deal, but the devil is in the detail, as we know. How do people reason about these things?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

SW15

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2020
Messages
15,422
Reaction score
12,521
In my world it’s fvck boy on one extreme, and unnoticeable casual on the other. I’m currently leaning towards the former: rather make an impression than being ordinary like others. So, rather sexy and a slight attitude. On the other hand it can come across as a try-hard, sleazy, the frat boy.
Be a fucck boy. You'd rather be associated with being a try-hard, sleazy, frat boy than a run of the mill, unspectacular beta male.
 

IKO69

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2005
Messages
1,184
Reaction score
1,088
Age
43
Location
Miami, FL
I was teen during the 90's when loose and baggy was very in. Looking back at some of the pics I have I lol. I only wear looser shirts/pants when I work out because its comfortable. The rest of the time my clothes is more fitted, even tshirts. You honestly look better.

To each their own though
 

Velasco

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 25, 2021
Messages
1,381
Reaction score
1,579
Age
32
I was teen during the 90's when loose and baggy was very in.
Loose is very in at the moment. I own a loose black hoodie that I wear very often and gets me approached by very attractive girls. That being said my 2nd favorite top, is a tight fit, tee from psycho bunny that accomplishes the same. So basically wear whatever, when you look yourself in the mirror think, "goddamnnn I look good"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

zekko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2009
Messages
16,787
Reaction score
10,007
In my world it’s fvck boy on one extreme, and unnoticeable casual on the other.
The nice thing about casual is that it doesn't seem try hard. But as you say, it doesn't make you noticeable either. If you can make an impact with your personality, I guess that doesn't matter.
 
Top