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[CaptFinnBad]

So I text my ex yesterday. Basically I still have her Disney account on my phone, I realised the new walking dead was out.

We ended on good terms and I only want to watch this season, so I text her and asked if she would be cool me still using her account.

Which was totally fine. She thanked me for reminding her walking dead was out and I thanked her for letting me use the account.

Basically three text messages exchanged in total.

Then suddenly her messenger picture changed.

She's hugging an Egyptian looking dude. She spontaneously booked and went to Egypt on holiday a week after we broke up.

I think she did it to get me jealous, which is hilarious as she's put her profile picture to posing with a blantenly ovbous holiday fling.

Anyways. Doesn't matter, I just found it super funny!


Not looking too much into this. I couldn't care less. Been dating a new girl which I like.

Just don't understand why she would embarrass herself like that.

 

[Striker_93]

Trust me, you care

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Trust me, you care

Yup. That much is obvious.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

And so what if he does care? I broke up with a multi year LTR more than a year ago and no matter how many top notch gashes I’ve slayed since I still miss her and think of her. Sometimes you all are trying so desperately to be “hard”, it seems cliché.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

And so what if he does care? I broke up with a multi year LTR more than a year ago and no matter how many top notch gashes I’ve slayed since I still miss her and think of her. Sometimes you all are trying so desperately to be “hard”, it seems cliché.

I've had that with other ex's .

I wouldn't say so with this one though.

I suppose in the sense enough to notice her picture change and note she probably did it to make me jealous.

The relationship was a rollercoaster with her. I gave it ample chances to work. I had a lot of time to know for sure that it wasn't right for me.

Basically I knew it was truly a lost cause. So I think because that clarity is there for me it's allowed me it cut any attachments.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Trust me, you care

I wouldn't say so

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Update yours with your new girl. I wonder if she'd have a change of heart on you using her account.

No mate. Why would I do that?

I really like this new girl and I'm having a lot of fun getting to know her.

 

[derby1]

your ex wont have a 2 page spread on a female dating forum.

the idea would be inane to her.

Move on, NC.

you basically dug up the body to check the pulse, and its re-traumatised you.

all for a Disney account, which is extremely emasculated.

 

[Smok1nAce]

You went wrong by asking. You should have just used it.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

She trying to get under ur skin just for kicks

 

[Barrister]

I wouldn't say so

You just made a post here about this. Obviously, you care. If you truly had a IDGAF attitude about it this thread wouldn't exist.

 

[Bokanovsky]

She's hugging an Egyptian looking dude. She spontaneously booked and went to Egypt on holiday a week after we broke up.

I think she did it to get me jealous, which is hilarious as she's put her profile picture to posing with a blantenly ovbous holiday fling.

Probably not even a fling but a photo op with some random dude who works at the hotel. The fact that she's trying to make you feel jealous shows that she still cares. And so do you, apparently.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

You just made a post here about this. Obviously, you care. If you truly had a IDGAF attitude about it this thread wouldn't exist.

Can you explain to me what I'm feeling then ?

 

[Barrister]

Can you explain to me what I'm feeling then ?

Well, I’m not a mind reader (wish I was). But I can make an educated guess about a guy posting on SS about his ex. This almost always means they aren’t over their ex. I have no reason to believe based on your OP that this isn’t the case with you. Nor am I judging you for that - we’ve all been there. But don’t act like you don’t care when it’s obvious you do.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Well, I’m not a mind reader (wish I was). But I can make an educated guess about a guy posting on SS about his ex. This almost always means they aren’t over their ex. I have no reason to believe based on your OP that this isn’t the case with you. Nor am I judging you for that - we’ve all been there. But don’t act like you don’t care when it’s obvious you do.

Ovbioulsly you guys are picking on something I'm feeling that I'm not aware of.

I'm just trying to understand what emotions your seeing I'm that feeling (that I'm not seeing)?


In all honesty. When we split as far as I was it for me (I had clarity). If I'm honest it's felt like I can breath again since the break up, like I can feel myself becoming me again .


I won't lie I've also been whoring it around with women since the break up and I have now found a women I really like.

So I'm exploring things with her. I'm also pre occupied with this and lots of things.

Gym, I'm preparing my dog for a trial, I'm currently starting a business and also focusing on making money through a side hustle.

Literally my ex doesn't even enter my mind.

Before I text her about Disney. For two weeks not even a single though about her.

Perhaps I'm repressing emotions and that's what your seeing?

I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and I'm quite good at expressing emotions.

So very interested in discussing this with you because you're seeing something that I'm not.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Another thing I've been exploring is if I do or not possess some cluster B tenencies.

I tend to do a final discard typical of cluster b's. Done this since I was a teenager.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

I don't think I was clear in my post. I meant, change your pic so that it's of you and your new girl to see if that changes the ex's mind on allowing you to use her streaming service. This would tell you if she put up the pic of her and the exotic dude to make you jealous, as you rattled her with the pic of you and your new girl.

No mate. I couldn't give a **** about what she thinks.

I'm certainly not going to put up a pic of me and the new girl I like just to rattle an ex.

If anything I'm keeping her on the down low because I really like her and want to build something slowly.

**** the ex. I just thought her changing her pic was kinda funny and manipulative (didn't work) .

Hense why I posted here.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Then why does this thread exist?

Because I thought it was manipulative behaviour.

I've basically cut her from my life and not spoken to her at all since we broke up. I got into contact because I wanted to use her Disney account.

After speaking to me she suddenly posted a pic with another man.

I'm assuming it was try to envoke emotion in me.

Could have been a coincidence, it honestly doesn't really matter.

I made the thread, because I assumed I witnessed her trying to bait me. It made my laugh.

I don't really have anyone share that with. So I thought I'd make a thread on here.


I'm kinda regretting it because everyone seems to be reading into it too much.

I'm definitely not looking for advice..

 

[BackInTheGame78]

And so what if he does care? I broke up with a multi year LTR more than a year ago and no matter how many top notch gashes I’ve slayed since I still miss her and think of her. Sometimes you all are trying so desperately to be “hard”, it seems cliché.

He is the one claiming he doesn't, we are simply pointing out that he does.