She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Pook! We summon thee!
sorry about taking this all back from so long ago but um...
That's what happened to him. He incorporated.
I'm nobody to give you advice, but uhm... Do it for yourself if you would. Not for us.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Who honestly does anything inherently for themselves?
More important things than being a benefactor to other men? Is there such a thing?
More important than banging random women. From what he said, there was never a time when he really struggled with women anyway. He said women had always been drawn to him because he was tall. So maybe it wasn't really that much of a challenge for him. He had said that a few years before he wrote his "50 lbs. of muscle" story. I always found that story puzzling because it didn't square with some of his older statements. But I didn't know he was selling a bodybuilding program, that would explain it.
It seems you didn't read "The Way of Men". Respect is tied to mastery and courage. And you have that (at least this is what I expect from anyone with 20 years of DJing). You don't need to be Pook 2.0 to be respected. You're already respected as George Gordon.
That's true. But change is something that also happens to us, not just something we do. And we not always need to change. But again, if you feel the need to change, it's for you. You feel you have to change because you are dissatisfied with your present condition. To me you look fine just the way you are lmao I/we have nothing to do with the way you perceive yourself. Or at least as DJs, we shouldn't let it affect us. Control your emotions, 'member?
My theory is he doesn't know (or knew) he is a such a benefactor to other men. Maybe he thought he was just posting on an obscure forum without realizing how far the ripples of the pebble he threw were going.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm not in the position to question 1st hand accounts of how it was like back then but the link redirects to the forum mainpage. I always thought this was on purpose, because to be a Pook and look like a Pook you gotta be in the Forum shaping yourself and others.
Nope, it originally meant: gain 50lbs of muscle mass by following Ellis' program.
I remembered the post where he talks about his gainz and went there. The link for the program also takes you to the forum mainpage.
Looks, height, and money help get you in the door. Game determines how long you stay and how far you get.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.