At what point does it make SENSE to get married?

[BadBoy89]

the last woman that asked me this was married and had an affair with me behind her husbands back.

She is also well off but lost a lot of her money when her husband took most of their money and left the country.

Why do you keep getting involved with married or divorced women?

 

[metalwater]

is there anything that you can not do or give to the woman if not married? what is it that marriage allows that you can not do without it?

it is an enforceable contract and has nothing to do with what you can do for her or her. with that contract what can you get if she defaults on the contract? NOTHING..

some special legal cases exist that other laws leverage marriage in ways that benefit you, but if none of those apply then it is just stupid for the man to sign this contract when he can get nothing for a default.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Missouri,
Our mentor Rollo,without whose support our pleasant little group would not exist,once opined on a similar thread, that the only reason would be a need to procreate ...Really says it all Old Chap!

 

[EyeBRollin]

Marry if you want kids.

If you don’t want children then don’t bother. However, I do question why so many people nowadays think life is only about traveling, drinking, and fvcking (then posting about it on social media).

 

[metalwater]

However, I do question why so many people nowadays think life is only about traveling, drinking, and fvcking (then posting about it on social media).

Do you have any theory on this? I see lots of folks doing other stuff and also some doing exactly what you tell.

about the traveling thing, those that are old and have done it usually want to stay and have a home, and those that never have traveled dream of it.

 

[fenix2021]

I'm not sure why there is so much trash talk about an institution that was with us for millennia. As men, we forget that reality is as much a construct of something tangible as what we make it out to be. As such, to get a little philosophical here, the screen you are reading this on is real partially because you give it its validity (thus producing its reality). How you perceive the other, the others, the relationship, the children (real or only sketched in the stars right now) has a huge impact on what is and isn't possible in the real world and the sort of outcome it will produce. Women understand this intuitively (women also have perverted this idea taking it to an extreme completely rejecting reality) while for man it's quite a discovery that forces adjusting our perception a great deal.

As most men are stuck in the reality-camp, while most women are stuck in anything-is-possible wonderland, there indeed seems very little possibility of a constructive dialogue, but... as one clever divorce lawyer said, with marriage you have 50% chance of a divorce. Divorce is serious - akin to being hit by a bowling bowl - why do people then risk going through this mystery gate? Because if it does work out - it's like winning the lottery. You will never experience anything better in your life than your kids (and you want them to grow up in an intact family which has MUCH higher chance of staying as such if you do get married). As other have said it, marry if you want kids but i feel it's not being stressed enough that having kid WILL be the most amazing thing that ever will happen in your life. So if you found a special woman in your life, i say, go for it!

 

[EyeBRollin]

Do you have any theory on this? I see lots of folks doing other stuff and also some doing exactly what you tell.

I have no idea. I’m in my 30s. It just seems like a lot of people my age (millennial) just want to travel and post on social media. Every year their resolution is more traveling. They’ve also gotten noticeably bigger each year (from all the drinking & lifestyle).

One girl I used to simp on 8 years ago before I found the game was a solid 7. Now she’s a shell of herself (+30 lbs). But she makes 6 figures working from home in NYC and has been to over two dozen countries. That’s the trade off. Today I wouldn’t touch her with a 10 foot pole.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I have no idea. I’m in my 30s. It just seems like a lot of people my age so (millennial) just want to travel and post on social media. Every year their resolution is more traveling. They’ve also gotten noticeably bigger each year (from all the drinking & lifestyle).

One girl I used to simp on 8 years ago before I found the game was a solid 7. Now she’s a shell of herself (+30 lbs). But she makes 6 figures working from home in NYC and has been to over two dozen countries. That’s the trade off. Today I wouldn’t touch her with a 10 foot pole.

So 30+ lb can make the difference from sexy to not sexy in them?

 

[EyeBRollin]

So 30+ lb can make the difference from sexy to not sexy in them?

Absolutely. -2 points.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Absolutely. -2 points.

Since you can see it on a female, the men here need to accept similar responsibility for themselves. Each 7lbs up or down in weight is noticeable to the outside observer.

 

[SW15]

When you are an active practitioner of a religion and want kids.

 

[plumber]

When Hell freezes over.

 

[Snag87]

I haven't read the thread, but let's you're a penniless drifter and can convince a neurosurgeon to tie the knot. That can't be a bad idea, strictly from an economic perspective, no?

 

[EyeBRollin]

I haven't read the thread, but let's you're a penniless drifter and can convince a neurosurgeon to tie the knot. That can't be a bad idea, strictly from an economic perspective, no?

No. Marriage is generally beneficial financially.

 

[Snag87]

No. Marriage is generally beneficial financially.

For men? How so?

 

[EyeBRollin]

For men? How so?

Tax benefits, prestige, and your wife can free up time otherwise needed for household duties.

Few high income millionaires are bachelors that have never been married. Almost all of your CEOs and upper management, they have wives and children.

Re: time- You either have to pay a lot of money for takeout, laundry, housecleaning, or devote time to do it yourself.

 

[Snag87]

Tax benefits, prestige, and your wife can free up time otherwise needed for household duties.

Few high income millionaires are bachelors that have never been married. Almost all of your CEOs and upper management, they have wives and children.

Re: time- You either have to pay a lot of money for takeout, laundry, housecleaning, or devote time to do it yourself.

Oh, I'm aware of those benefits. However, you have to factor in divorce risk and men generally providing more economically for the family than women.

To say that marriage is, on average, economically beneficial for men is pure insanity.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Oh, I'm aware of those benefits. However, you have to factor in divorce risk and men generally providing more economically for the family than women.

To say that marriage is, on average, economically beneficial for men is pure insanity.

Someone said men get married for validation and easy sex. For many men neither of these things happen.

 

[Snag87]

Someone said men get married for validation and easy sex. For many men neither of these things happen.

Validation is more likely than easy sex, particularly in the initial stages of the marriage.

That said, where's the validation in being dragged through the mud and subject to usury and financial devastation in divorce court?

 

[Smok1nAce]

Marry if you want kids.

If you don’t want children then don’t bother. However, I do question why so many people nowadays think life is only about traveling, drinking, and fvcking (then posting about it on social media).

Because its the easiest thing "to do" without actaully doing anything, I mean.. to travel, drink and fvk takes no real skill, just a passport and being over 21. It's like everyone being a "hiker", it takes little skill, besides having some hiking boots.