"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Art of the After-Dinner Drink

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I feel like his words were too open ended...in regards to WHAT to drink. Bourbon or whiskey seem to lend themselves to a slow, languid savor in sturdy rocks glasses. I feel like the martini glass requires too much concentration tp keep from having it spill. Especially if you are sitting in an over stuffed chair , or on a couch with a young lady.

But he hit the nail on the head about the company you are in for that drink. And that is the moment when you should be deep diving the woman at the dinner you are going to spend the night with. Most often though it is with friends and colleagues. Here is where generational wisdom gets passed down, and you are granted the trust of someone sharing their experiences and emotions.

When travelling this is the Hotel bar in the lobby or by the fireplace at the Hunting lodge, somewhere you can be comfortable, and relaxed. Not on guard, not trying to make a point or win an argument.
 

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In this short video, Wei Koh perfectly describes the After-Dinner Drink - @Modern Man Advice

THE ART OF THE AFTER-DINNER DRINK - YouTube
Great vid and subject. This goes beyond dating obviously.

I am a Whiskey guy, and will always be. But with age Gin and Tonic has become my go-to as of the last couple of years. The beauty is in its simplicity and range of flavors due to the botanicals. Needless to mention, the beauty of not waking up the next day feeling not so good.

PS: Man, he has a nice voice tonality. And dig the way he carries himself. Like he knows his worth.


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With regards to the type of drink, I love a Sazerac. It's the perfect gentleman's drink, in my opinion. Meant to be sipped and enjoyed, not guzzled.

When originally introduced to the world, it was made with Cognac. Modern interpretations are made with Rye Whiskey.

Pro tip - if you ever want to try one, only order at a fine establishment. Your neighborhood bartender will say he knows how to make a good one..... (shakes head) he does not. Also, opt for the original cognac version. Don't get it w/ whiskey....just cognac.

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Nice vid probably resonates with the more mature crowd. I am wondering if the millennials will also discover fine port and sherry like they did scotch otherwise they will die out. Which would be a sadness after 300 years of learning to get it right
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nice vid probably resonates with the more mature crowd. I am wondering if the millennials will also discover fine port and sherry like they did scotch otherwise they will die out. Which would be a sadness after 300 years of learning to get it right
That would be a shame. My late grandmother loved scotch, it's all she drank. Sipping on a good brandy after a long week....nothing like it.
 

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If you don't like sweet wines this can be life changing
 

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If you don't like sweet wines this can be life changing
It sounds great. I'll check this one out.
 

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Great vid and subject. This goes beyond dating obviously.

I am a Whiskey guy, and will always be. But with age Gin and Tonic has become my go-to as of the last couple of years. The beauty is in its simplicity and range of flavors due to the botanicals. Needless to mention, the beauty of not waking up the next day feeling not so good.
I've never in my life had a martini. After this video, I'll give one a try the next time I go out.
 

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I've been on a Manhattan kick the last couple of years. On rocks of course.

An Old Fashioned is my favorite way to drink a good Whiskey or Bourbon after dinner.

Gin & Tonic is my Daytime Drink in the summer
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I've been on a Manhattan kick the last couple of years. On rocks of course.

An Old Fashioned is my favorite way to drink a good Whiskey or Bourbon after dinner.

Gin & Tonic is my Daytime Drink in the summer
I've never had any of those. Always been a creature of habit. I'll try a few of these things the next few times I go out.

I had a sip of my girlfriend's Negroni the other night. Pretty nice drink.
 

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I think that a lot of you are falsely judging Willie Naylor .

Surely... Willie must have been a lurker that was studying Hank's posting style, and thinking to himself, "when I grow up and become a sosuave member, I want to sound just like Hank Moody."

Kidding aside, why not just admit it, Hank.
Oh sure. Some folks might give you a hard time for a week or two, but then it'll be over. As long as you continue this masquerade, you're never going to outlive the ridicule.
 
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