"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tinder match...arg.... Turning into a texting buddy

Zimbabwe

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Most people using dating sites aren't even reading profiles. The majority just do the "swipe left/right" thing based on your default profile picture. Women, especially, don't usually read profiles or make first contact. It honestly doesn't even matter what your profile says since it won't be read in most cases (although you should still be honest with it since it will be read in some cases). This is also why you shouldn't take "likes" seriously, only messages matter.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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harrison9876

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Most people using dating sites aren't even reading profiles. The majority just do the "swipe left/right" thing based on your default profile picture. Women, especially, don't usually read profiles or make first contact. It honestly doesn't even matter what your profile says since it won't be read in most cases (although you should still be honest with it since it will be read in some cases). This is also why you shouldn't take "likes" seriously, only messages matter.
Yup!

Funny you say that...

My very short profile clearly states that "I am Canadian, living in LA"...after 3 or 4 messages she said, "so.....I know you are American...but where are you from?"

ummmmmmmmmmmm...okay, so someone clearly did not read my profile...hahahaha...
 

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The garmin glass ****pit is say "minimums minimums minimums" and you still don't have the runway in site. Eject!
 

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You should have deleted the match when she said that she was not comfortable. Remember, she has dozens of choices for men every week, high value men we are talking if she is hot. Whatever the reason or background, online game is a means to get the number and then plan logistics to meet. Everything else, you are giving her attention along with the several other dozens guys, even if she only messages the best looking ones, she has many more she never answers.
+1

I had a chat with some skank. Was being dumb. I went off and #next! I got a msg about her crying for days.

These girls need to be put on ice more often than not.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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