"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would like some opinion on that

Blacksheep

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I've met a 22yr girl on happn. She showed a high interest level, after some days she said she deleted the app. We've been dating since thursday.

She said she never had a serious relationship, only one who last 1 month. And I think she was 14yr in that one. Then I would imagine only casual dating. She seems a quiet woman.

At the second date we stayed at my car in front of her house. We have some hot kisses and she sayed to go to a dark street. I found one but I felt freaked out... It seems like I was going to be assaulted in any moment. We came back.

Yesterday I asked her why she couldn't come to my place, it is safer, we could enjoy having sex in a more comfortable way. She said she would come here if her brother didn't live in the same apartment complex as I live.

Then started that family talk. My parents would not allow that, only if we are on a serious relationship, but first you have to come here to ask them permission. And that sounds a bit weird. And thats why:

Her mother knows she is not virgin (didnt lost with me), she knows she might have some casual datings and probably are fcking on streets or even at motels.

She even suggested me to went to motel yesterday, but I personally hate those places. We went to that street again and tried to have sex, but it doesn't work.

So in my logic, wouldn't it be safer and better to be honest with her mother saying that we want to stay here, that would be safer than lying and pretending we are going out and fcking at motels or in the car?

She is showing high interest and desire for me, and she have some nice qualities like splitting the account on a restaurant, have a nice personality (for what I've known so far).

It seems like a traditional way of dating, but sometimes it seems it might be a red flag too or that there is something wrong. Could you give me some thoughts on that.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I’d advise not rushing into things (it’s difficult to step back, once you’ve moved forward too soon). Judging by what youve written. I wouldn’t close the door just yet. Most if not all women are going to be complicated in some way.

A woman that’s into you and also willing to split the tab sounds like a legit female to me. She sounds worth getting to know.
 

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I've met a 22yr girl on happn. She showed a high interest level, after some days she said she deleted the app. We've been dating since thursday.

She said she never had a serious relationship, only one who last 1 month. And I think she was 14yr in that one. Then I would imagine only casual dating. She seems a quiet woman.

At the second date we stayed at my car in front of her house. We have some hot kisses and she sayed to go to a dark street. I found one but I felt freaked out... It seems like I was going to be assaulted in any moment. We came back.

Yesterday I asked her why she couldn't come to my place, it is safer, we could enjoy having sex in a more comfortable way. She said she would come here if her brother didn't live in the same apartment complex as I live.

Then started that family talk. My parents would not allow that, only if we are on a serious relationship, but first you have to come here to ask them permission. And that sounds a bit weird. And thats why:

Her mother knows she is not virgin (didnt lost with me), she knows she might have some casual datings and probably are fcking on streets or even at motels.

She even suggested me to went to motel yesterday, but I personally hate those places. We went to that street again and tried to have sex, but it doesn't work.

So in my logic, wouldn't it be safer and better to be honest with her mother saying that we want to stay here, that would be safer than lying and pretending we are going out and fcking at motels or in the car?

She is showing high interest and desire for me, and she have some nice qualities like splitting the account on a restaurant, have a nice personality (for what I've known so far).

It seems like a traditional way of dating, but sometimes it seems it might be a red flag too or that there is something wrong. Could you give me some thoughts on that.
Why not go to a Holiday Inn?
 

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She tells her brother to keep his pie hole shut around Mom & Dad. Too easy.
 

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I’d advise not rushing into things (it’s difficult to step back, once you’ve moved forward too soon). Judging by what youve written. I wouldn’t close the door just yet. Most if not all women are going to be complicated in some way.

A woman that’s into you and also willing to split the tab sounds like a legit female to me. She sounds worth getting to know.
Yeah man, I was a bit suspicious but I think it worth going slowly and see how it goes.

She seems really a nice girl.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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