Are there still people out there that aren't 100% selfish?

[user252009]

I've been wondering, with the society as it is nowadays and women's nature as it is as well, do you believe there are still people (women, but also men) out there that have wish for genuine connections and growth together, or do they even in the dating process and vetting potential partners, act (even if they would never admit it) purely out of selfish reasons (whatever they may be)?

 

[firstbornunicorn]

Yes.

 

[Bandolero]

I think most of us are good people.
It just happens to be that this whole social media BS feeds our narcissist traits.
Everybody thinks they are the next big thing , nobody wants to live a regular life.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I've been wondering, with the society as it is nowadays and women's nature as it is as well, do you believe there are still people (women, but also men) out there that have wish for genuine connections and growth together, or do they even in the dating process and vetting potential partners, act (even if they would never admit it) purely out of selfish reasons (whatever they may be)?

I think everyone is selfish to some degree, some more than others. But none of us is 100% unselfish or sinless. We are inherently kind beings, but over time society, standardized education, and media chip away at anything pure/innocent in us.

But I get your question, to be practical yes you can still find kind and genuine people there that you can trust. And that you can believe want good for others, including you.

Modern Man Advice

 

[Blacksheep]

I've been wondering, with the society as it is nowadays and women's nature as it is as well, do you believe there are still people (women, but also men) out there that have wish for genuine connections and growth together, or do they even in the dating process and vetting potential partners, act (even if they would never admit it) purely out of selfish reasons (whatever they may be)?

I think evil try to inflate it by fear and manipulations to make you believe there is no good in this world.

There are people that are good, not selfish or ignorant. And I don't think it's few people.

What I think is that Evil are manipulating stuffs so we become passive, afraid and with the sense that the good side is so small, that there is nothing we can do.

We are just being blinded.

 

[Robert28]

If you want to meet an unselfish woman, avoid single moms. I’ve never met one that wasn’t 100% selfish.

 

[derby1]

If you want to meet an unselfish woman, avoid single moms. I’ve never met one that wasn’t 100% selfish.

they dont care about men they care what men can supply, they were brought up by a death cult feminist themselves and raised to be single.
Welfare came along and reinforced what clowns men are.

whenever my daughter comes to me, I spend the first 12 hours unravelling all the radicalisation shes been exposed to.

women have safety nets and their next four boyfriends lined up, never been forced to lack anything.

 

[Plinco]

In a broader context, selfishness is not the problem. It is the lack of personal character (such as rationality)

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I think everyone is selfish to some degree, some more than others. But none of us is 100% unselfish or sinless. We are inherently kind beings, but over time society, standardized education, and media chip away at anything pure/innocent in us.

But I get your question, to be practical yes you can still find kind and genuine people there that you can trust. And that you can believe want good for others, including you.

Modern Man Advice

Degrees of selfishness, exists same as degrees of lying, same as degrees of violence same as degrees of evil and degrees of good to keep it a little positive. Values zero through 10 on each quality.

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

Degrees of selfishness, exists same as degrees of lying, same as degrees of violence same as degrees of evil and degrees of good to keep it a little positive. Values zero through 10 on each quality.

Everybody lies and ultimately it's everyone for themselves. Trust nobody completely.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Everybody lies and ultimately it's everyone for themselves. Trust nobody completely.

It's degrees of it though. Cause one person might be 50 or 60% helpful in your cause, and not causing you trouble with others, and another will be ZERO percent helpful and usually working against you.

 

[AttackFormation]

Growth definitely. Genuine connection is pretty low down the list honestly. There are not too many women that haven't walked away from genuine connection several times

Maybe it's because they are high in Bipolar/Borderline traits? I read about them yesterday and am checking it again now, stuff like this stands out:

Sense of self
People with BPD tend to have trouble seeing their identity clearly. In particular, they tend to have difficulty knowing what they value, believe, prefer, and enjoy.[45] They are often unsure about their long-term goals for relationships and jobs. This can cause people with BPD to feel "empty" and "lost".[45] Self-image can also change rapidly from healthy to unhealthy. People with BPD may base their identity on others, leading to chameleon-like changes in identity.

... Etcetra. So what is a "genuine connection" in one moment just isnt there in the next.

 

[Mazer]

Yes. Maybe 1% of the population.

 

[Black Widow Void]

We are all selfish.
When I offer a forum member (what I believe to be) positive/constructive advice, am I being altruistic? No.

I’d like to think that I’m a compassionate person, but Underneath... If I prevent someone from repeating my past blunders, my past seems less in vain.

Also, if we can enhance the well-being of others, we get that ‘good feeling’ from within.

I’d like to think that I’m self-less, but I’m not, nor are any of you.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Still?!? Humans have always been selfish!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Still?!? Humans have always been selfish!

Degrees of it! Everyone is not a level 10 out of 10 selfishness. Of course many are. Those 9's and 10's won't "help" you in anyway unless somehow it fvcks you over more than what you gained or it gives them a leg up on you.