gf says if you dont want anything to do with me tell me, but dont ignore me

[_sideways_]

That's the message I got after 3 missed calls...
What's the play here?

 

[_sideways_]

Not gf....girl...
It's a habit to write gf

 

[_sideways_]

I was going NC

 

[mjb3617]

Tell her it's over, move on with your life, and never speak to her again. Simple.

 

[_sideways_]

Maybe

 

[Billtx49]

I was going NC

Maybe

So why do you ask what’s up when you won’t talk to her ?

And that’s your reply to the suggestion to end it…

Before you can deal with a woman, you need to deal with yourself first…

 

[_sideways_]

Just getting ideas bruh....
Brainstorming...
Now if you were to say, I think she wants back...then that would give me an idea...
Or...
Usually it is just words....that gives me other ideas.
Maybe I'm not a big player like you....so this is new territory for me.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Until I know more, I'm unsure how to respond.
You mentioned that she was a girlfriend and then followed up by defining her as just a girl.. but then you say that you're going NC (which usually means an ex).

Was she a girl interest, a fling, a date or two girl, girlfriend or an ex (and if an ex, how long where you two together?)

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I was going NC

no contact is a method to help get over a girl and find a new one.

It's not meant to be an attraction increasing strategy.

leave that sleezy shi*t for the ladies.

if you want to see her again, call her and tell her that

if you never want to see her again call her and tell her

Don't reframe your indecision as being some kind of advanced player.

 

[_sideways_]

Thanks guys.

"Stop fcking calling me kunt" im fcking busy"

You said she dissed you. Stop being nice to her dude. Create space and see her when she is at your door. But a new girl would be better.

I needed to hear that

 

[KirthWGersen]

Note the framing of the accusation:

You are not answering, therefore you don't want anything to do with me.

Normal, balanced people don't make statements like that. They understand there could be a hundred reasons why you are not answering, most of which have nothing to do with her.

She is emotionally bullying you into giving her reassurance and attention. Like a young child crying or having a tantrum for attention.

Very annoying. Best ignored.

 

[derby1]

I needed to hear that

his advice needs to be followed with silence, you cant give her a big man speech then let her sit DM'ing you at 9pm

 

[_sideways_]

....fair enough....
But I haven't been contacting anybody.

Not trying to be a player

 

[Romanemp22]

Pointless thread, misleading info just like in the last one.