Is there anything wrong with seeing escorts?(long, personal story)

[Guy69JackBlue]

I'm about to fly to Barcelona tonight. I'm looking forward to some of this type of fun.

 

[corrector]

So you're a fan of ASMR JOI?

No.

 

[corrector]

So what time in the day does it become legal again?

Seriously what do you mean by that? Its always illegal here to buy.

 

[corrector]

Can actually be quite good fun. Where it can actually be a very good experience is when you’re fit, healthy and confident anyway.

I visited a lot when I was at my peak. I was lean as hell, very well off and just loving life. I liked it as a luxury. It was all for me. There was no baggage, I have to say, I really like that idea. No games, no worries. Shake hands and say goodbye.

why it’s good when you’re in very good shape is that the high class girls (ONLY go to good ones, the lower sex industry is an immoral cess pit) obviously like working with you. Often they enjoy it. The kind of arranged aspect of it I think can somewhat turn both parties on. They are being paid to screw a guy they would likely want to screw anyway. I mean, it’s probably not as they would ideally like it butnature is nature and some got into the line of work because they get a rush from it

I stopped when the novelty of “hey - no strings sex” kind of wore off and I realised fapping was quicker and cheaper.
I think it’s a younger guy thing. I think it can be good for young guys who aren’t confident. The girl, if she’s good, won’t get upset by a lack of experience, if you don’t make her cvm.

I would even say for incels it could be highly beneficial. Once a month with a good escort might soften their attitude to women and chill them out. Only fear is they would obsess over the woman.

anyway, nothing wrong with it but as a man approaching middle age, I have no need of it. I’ve done it, it holds no novelty for me and I’m married and have different priorities in life

You said realized fapping was quicker and cheaper and did that once the novelty worn off. What do you mean by that. How many escorts did you see before the novelty worn off? Does your wife know about your past using escorts?

Yonge men are probably going to use low tier escorts in your immoral cesspit and lets face it, the majority of yonge people are generally poor, they may not be able to afford a high class escort, maybe mid tier at best, but would likely use the low tier. Imagine a first experience being with one of them?

The issue with incels is feeling wanted and if you are too ugly then you may more likely get mechanical service rather than a hot session. But for some it could be helpful and motivate them to make money.

 

[MatureDJ]

I'm about to fly to Barcelona tonight. I'm looking forward to some of this type of fun.

Do you speak Romanian? Oh, and the area these gals hang out is crawling with all sorts of seedy non-Europeans, so be careful.

 

[MatureDJ]

Seriously what do you mean by that? Its always illegal here to buy.

You made it sound like it was illegal after midnight, which would imply that it was legal before midnight, and therefore had to change from illegal to legal at some time in the day - kind of like liquor sales in hick towns.

 

[corrector]

You made it sound like it was illegal after midnight, which would imply that it was legal before midnight, and therefore had to change from illegal to legal at some time in the day - kind of like liquor sales in hick towns.

No, that is not what I meant at all. It means a law became effective as of midnight, December 6, 2014. There is no government that will reverse or change the law but its up to police to determine what their focus and priority is in enforcing the law to prevent sexual exploitation of vulnerable or kidnapped women who were forced or coerced into this thing. This is what they have done so far here. There is no true enforcement of the law on the principle of two consenting adults making a no strings attached arrangement punctuated by an exchange of money. Toronto police does not seem interested in policing people's bedrooms at the moment but I cant say about other jurisdictions.

 

[MatureDJ]

No, that is not what I meant at all. It means a law became effective as of midnight, December 6, 2014. There is no government that will reverse or change the law but its up to police to determine what their focus and priority is in enforcing the law to prevent sexual exploitation of vulnerable or kidnapped women who were forced or coerced into this thing. This is what they have done so far here. There is no true enforcement of the law on the principle of two consenting adults making a no strings attached arrangement punctuated by an exchange of money. Toronto police does not seem interested in policing people's bedrooms at the moment but I cant say about other jurisdictions.

I've heard that Toronto is the absolute worst place in the non-Muslim world to mack women.

 

[SW15]

I've heard that Toronto is the absolute worst place in the non-Muslim world to mack women.

I have heard the same.

 

[Georgepithyou]

I've heard that Toronto is the absolute worst place in the non-Muslim world to mack women.

I believe Sydney would give Toronto a run for it's money

 

[ubercat]

I kinda feel like the Op would be better with co-ed team sports. If he is chadlite as he says it's got to be a social interaction issue. IDK i'm not pretty or rich and i've never hung out anywhere for long without having some girl show interest. Of course it's never the right one but I think that's just called life.

 

[Epicwinguy]

I believe Sydney would give Toronto a run for it's money

Hmm. I wonder what you think of Denver.

 

[MatureDJ]

Hmm. I wonder what you think of Denver.

Oh, you mean Menver? I spent a few winters there. I could tell right away that is was completely OVER for ShortCels there, unless desiring a very round little Mexican. The strip joints were quite good though, as they were very lap-friendly. It's obviously a town that attracts men for the skiing; I know that it attracted me for that reason.

 

[bat soup]

Shortly before COVID hit last March I had decided to hire an escort to have time with. Now, to clarify this would be considered a higher tier one, meaning more money, that also goes to socials, parties, etc. and wasn't just some cracked out meth head that basically stays at a hotel having one guy after another.

Anyway, this was something that I had considered going through with for a while, as for a very long time I was having issues with my dating life. Through 2017, 2018, and 2019 I was just having nothing but horrendous experiences with women (dating, approaches, numbers,etc.). I was getting women to approach me or ask me out, just to get flaked on. I was getting no results with dating apps or sites. I was forcing myself to approach women that I often felt little to no attraction to, as "practice", and they would just awkwardly stare at me. This was getting to the point where I felt my mental health was starting to legitimately suffer and I noticed I was feeling tons of anger and anxiety. I've already posted this a million times on here but the repetitive thoughts going on in my mind were "I'm 6'4", go to the gym regularly blah blah blah and yet I can't even land a date with a 3?". I was at a stage where I was considering just full blown giving up, as the quality of my overall mental health and well being was not worth compromising. However, during this time I had also started posting on this forum, which made me realize that the issues I had were far more prevalent throughout men of the general population than I had realized at the time.

February of 2020 I had contacted this escort that I had found through tons of research and searching online. We texted back and forth a lot and I explained what I was looking for, etc. We met at a local coffee shop for half and hour, it was part of her screening process and it allowed me to see if it would be a good fit for me or if I'd bail. She actually came across as very normal and interacting with her was much more enjoyable than all of these women I had been approaching despite the fact I wasn't even attracted to half of them. A couple weeks later we met at an incall location that she hosted, it was a small guest house that was in a neighborhood near the downtown area of my city, lots of apartment complex around, etc. Without getting into details, I basically just spent time talking with her, making out and I had a sexual finish. After that I had considered going back for more but I refrained from doing so, as while I did enjoy it I also was aware that this was not a habit to develop. I do remember afterwards that I felt a surge of confidence and that I was approaching women pretty readily afterwards and seemed to have better interactions, but shortly COVID hit and everything was closed down.

Since COVID hit I've had next to no interactions with the opposite sex and I feel that I need to have a confidence booster. For a couple months I was considering meeting up again with this same woman but I hesitated until more recently where I decided to follow through with it and scheduled something later this week. Can something like this be of benefit or is this potentially a bad habit that could develop that could stunt me in some ways in regards to dating? I have the power to be able to call this off and it's something that I've been debating internally, weighing the pros and cons, etc.

I also have behaviors related to experiencing emotions in regards to getting hooked on different things, though I have enough awareness to be able to cut them off early. I really enjoy poker and have experienced and resisted the feelings of enjoying this thrill regularly, though every so often I allow myself to go to the casino to play in tournaments. I also have had similar experiences with partying, investments, etc.

I think you should make an appointment with her every week or every month, depending on what you can afford.

That will take the pressure off: now you only need to find girls for the other 6 days of the week.

 

[2Rocky]

Austin, TX is pretty rough too. Unless you like granola chomping tree women.

Just gotta bait them from what I see......

 

[Zimbabwe]

Once your brain associates sex with cash
payments, and you interact with enough prostitutes to develop the impression that all women are “wh*res,” your ability to have standard relationships is compromised.

 

[metalwater]

Once your brain associates sex with cash
payments, and you interact with enough prostitutes to develop the impression that all women are “wh*res,” your ability to have standard relationships is compromised.

that doesn't sound right. why do you think this?

 

[eli77]

What website did you use?

 

[corrector]

Yeah, those pandemic days of 2021...remember Zimbabwe was cool. My parents were all healthy and mobile and was collecting covid benefits and trying out American Income LIfe. When pandemic days look nostalgic that really means things really suck now, lol

 

[BaronOfHair]

Calling upon women such as these, whenever the urge strikes, can become highly addictive + Burn a crater in your savings account

As someone who learned this lesson the rough way, I don't encourage men to do likewise