What's the lowdown on the "kink scene"?

[buddhafukko]

Some gal I've been dating has already revealed her involvement in the kink scene.
I know about the swing scene but not much about the kink scene.
My impression of it was a lot of slightly beta dudes in leather letting their GFs ***** round.
Is this an accurate assessment?
Is this a huge red flag I should run with or from?

 

[2Rocky]

"So baby.....What's YOUR kink?...."

 

[Billtx49]

I have no idea what this kink thing is, but I’ve always had the desire to urinate on a girls head while she jumps up and down with her lubed thighs wrapped around a giant pogo stick. Does that qualify ?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Met a girl on Tinder who said she was ‘kinky’. She was very, very horny. Literally wanted to fvck in every room in my house. Nothing else. Just fvcking. Fingering & giving me bjs. I think ‘kink’ just means she’s horny and knows it. Fvcked on the first date.

 

[Hal9000]

Self professed kinksters can be a lot of fun. Don't think you'll find anyone you want to settle down with in that scene but you can certainly have some wild nights.

 

[Josh Davidson]

Where can I find such women?

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

Some gal I've been dating has already revealed her involvement in the kink scene.
I know about the swing scene but not much about the kink scene.
My impression of it was a lot of slightly beta dudes in leather letting their GFs ***** round.
Is this an accurate assessment?
Is this a huge red flag I should run with or from?

I went to a bondage club a few times near where I live. It seemed like amateurs who weren't very good in bed. Average looking and boring girls who thought it was excitement to be tied, whipped, and even burned.

The guys = aside from the 1 or 2 owners/managers of the place, there were guys trying to act like a "dungeon master" but it was clearly all an act... Along with the "beta" types who brag about eating their girlfriend out for hours at a time.

 

[bat soup]

I went to a bondage club a few times near where I live. It seemed like amateurs who weren't very good in bed. Average looking and boring girls who thought it was excitement to be tied, whipped, and even burned.

The guys = aside from the 1 or 2 owners/managers of the place, there were guys trying to act like a "dungeon master" but it was clearly all an act... Along with the "beta" types who brag about eating their girlfriend out for hours at a time.

When I was living in Italy there was some guy that wanted me to call up a company for him in the US and ask if they had any videos of women dressed as nuns locked in cages whilst someone tortured their feet. They didn't have that but the guy on the phone told me that they did have the Dungeons of Doom and a version of Pinochio where it´s not his nose that grows.

Personally I don´t really understand it. If anything, it's offputting but there are people that like all kinds of weird things.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Where can I find such women?

Fetlife

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

To me, anything revolving around sex is sex, kink is when you are deriving pleasure from activities that aren't wholly related to sex and a guy can very very easily find himself over his head.

I met this chick who had an edge kink, where she would suck your D until you were just about to nut, but then would "Edge" you closer to nutting but you couldn't nut and if you did shed squeeze the CRAP out of your balls.. she said she liked to sit there and watch the faces guys would make... Sounds pretty sweet, right? 10 minutes of this, I could of experienced intense sensations of pain from just having a rub against my underwear, I could feel the little nubs on her tongue, it was painful, I wouldn't want to do that again, but the second she started talking about her kink I was all for it

 

[SargeMaximus]

I’ve noticed that the uglier/rounder the girl, the more extreme her kink

 

[Billtx49]

I’ve noticed that the uglier/rounder the girl, the more extreme her kink

Undoubtedly, the more not on dates free time a woman has, the more mental fantasy time she has available. If those times are too long, the fantasies can get weirder…

 

[SargeMaximus]

Undoubtedly, the more not on dates free time a woman has, the more mental fantasy time she has available. If those times are too long, the fantasies can get weirder…

The sad part of this is, most of the attractive 7.5-8’s I’ve had were very vanilla

 

[Billtx49]

The sad part of this is, most of the attractive 7.5-8’s I’ve had were very vanilla

Probably get enough IRL sex with their free time to not delve into the fantasy kink obsession realms…
Add boredom though as in unfulfilling marriage or stale LTR and it could happen.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

The sad part of this is, most of the attractive 7.5-8’s I’ve had were very vanilla

What do you need that isn't "vanilla"?

To me, the "kink" stuff is just weirdo wannabes who want to act hardcore.

 

[SargeMaximus]

What do you need that isn't "vanilla"?

To me, the "kink" stuff is just weirdo wannabes who want to act hardcore.

Yeah I agree but I was with a 7.5 who wouldn’t even do doggystyle or *******s just wanted missionary. There’s vanilla and then there’s stale

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

Yeah I agree but I was with a 7.5 who wouldn’t even do doggystyle or *******s just wanted missionary. There’s vanilla and then there’s stale

Yea that's just stale.

But no reason to bring out the nipple clamps lol

 

[SargeMaximus]

Yea that's just stale.

But no reason to bring out the nipple clamps lol

Truth

 

[dasein]

Much more detail needed. When they say "kinky" they could mean anything from 50 shades of gray, romance novel dom/sub "naughtiness" and mild roleplay... to scat. pee, crushing, blood, biting, ****... to highly specialized or dangerous fantasies and acts.

The latter usually means a burned out dopamine/pleasure system which I would avoid personally. Vanilla normalish women are "thrillseeking" and impulsive enough already.

 

[Solomon]

I've messed with a few girls who are in the "kink life" not seeking them out but by chance.
These are the girls that are on fetlife and like sex a bit uhm spicer
I would never wife one because these women have been not only ran through but typically are super wh0res