Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Just Tell Her How You Feel...

RickPound

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I’ve personally gotten this advice from friends;

Have had a chick recently say this to me: “I’m hesitant because I just don’t know how you really feel about us, it seems you can take it or leave it”;

And just this past weekend, a girlfriend of a girl that has been flaking on my buddy said “maybe he just needs to tell her how he feels, she said she’s unsure of him”.

What’s your take on the “just tell her how you feel” idea? My experience is that it’s a trap, but is there a time and place that it would actually work in your favor?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Poonstra

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You don't tell her. You show her. By taking het on dates, invading het personal space and touching her. Later you show her by remembering important anniversaries and ensuring that the relationship doesn't get boring. Don't ever verbalise it.
 

Bigpapa

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I’ve personally gotten this advice from friends;

Have had a chick recently say this to me: “I’m hesitant because I just don’t know how you really feel about us, it seems you can take it or leave it”;

And just this past weekend, a girlfriend of a girl that has been flaking on my buddy said “maybe he just needs to tell her how he feels, she said she’s unsure of him”.

What’s your take on the “just tell her how you feel” idea? My experience is that it’s a trap, but is there a time and place that it would actually work in your favor?
depends if he sexualized the convo or not , basically letting her know indirectly that he is interested in her in a sexual way and being constant

if sometimes he is showing her in a sexual way , and sometimes he acts like he just wants to be friends , it is normal for her not to know if he is trully interested or not
 

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I’ve personally gotten this advice from friends;

Have had a chick recently say this to me: “I’m hesitant because I just don’t know how you really feel about us, it seems you can take it or leave it”;

And just this past weekend, a girlfriend of a girl that has been flaking on my buddy said “maybe he just needs to tell her how he feels, she said she’s unsure of him”.

What’s your take on the “just tell her how you feel” idea? My experience is that it’s a trap, but is there a time and place that it would actually work in your favor?
Don't ever tell a woman how you feel.

If she's unsure, that's great work. Keep doing what you're doing.
 
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