Blacksheep
Master Don Juan
So one year ago, as some guys here know I took some very difficult decisions in my life. Broke up with my ex-gf and also broke up with the abusive cycle I was living with my parents for my whole life. So I left the house I used to live and my job at my family's company.
Just want to talk a little bit about what I noticed that improved and changed since then. Maybe this can serve you as inspiration, or maybe you can share some of your ideas and experiences too. As I found a lot of help in here... I would like to share my experience since that move I've made in life.
- I'm building a very good self-confidence in life and self-esteem. In the aspect that I feel that I can be assertive in any aspect of my life. Relationships, friends, jobs, etc.
- Some of my compulsive behaviors with sex and alcohol almost disappeared.
- For the sexual aspect, I still have a big desire to have sex with women. But principles are taking place of the idea of only have sex without any filtering. When a woman is not aligned with some basics principles I take as crucial, I just move forward. Not being arrogant... But in most cases I just openly say that its not what I want and that our principles are different. Not trying to change or impose my ideas to someone, I just don't waste time with women I don't think they vibrate in the same frequency I'm.
Examples: what's the meaning to date or have sex with a woman that wastes most of her time drinking/partying, having a lot of male friends, do not have goals or only superficial conversations... Since I'm not up to it or don't believe in those things? What I realized is that, putting myself in a position that I don't agree with, even if it's only casual or only for a moment of sex, was not bringing me anything good, and actually, I could be wasting an opportunity to meet a woman we would have a genuine connection and similar principles.
So I really would love to meet a nice woman to share my life with. But I'm ok with being alone... And if I don't find someone that share similar values/principles, thats ok too. I find out that there were so many other great stuffs to do in life that have purpose, that make this idea of being alone not as painful as it used to be for me in the past.
The same goes for friends... I left a lot behind when I started this change in my life.
- On the professional aspect, I'm not making a ton of money... But in one year I grew up what I didn't in 10 years. And I'm still earning a good amount to keep myself. Also realizing the value I have... And knowing that I'm not perfect and have a lot to learn and grow up.
Maybe what I'm trying to say is that one key I changed in my life, had a great impact in any other aspect of it.
Self-respect gives us the ability to not allow others to disrespect ourselves. And also it seems to gives us better relationships in any field of life.
So: I'm having more genuine relationships, genuinely spending my time with things that matter to me, learning a lot, enjoying the feeling of peace of mind that most of us told me one year ago.
And it's all perfect... I'm starting to notice good changes now. In the beginning, there was still a lot of darkness to clear out. Tons of nightmares and still being really depressed on some days. But slowly this is getting better.
And even if everything went wrong... I know I've made the best decision that showed my inner side that I respect myself.
Hope to share more good stories in the future.
Just want to talk a little bit about what I noticed that improved and changed since then. Maybe this can serve you as inspiration, or maybe you can share some of your ideas and experiences too. As I found a lot of help in here... I would like to share my experience since that move I've made in life.
- I'm building a very good self-confidence in life and self-esteem. In the aspect that I feel that I can be assertive in any aspect of my life. Relationships, friends, jobs, etc.
- Some of my compulsive behaviors with sex and alcohol almost disappeared.
- For the sexual aspect, I still have a big desire to have sex with women. But principles are taking place of the idea of only have sex without any filtering. When a woman is not aligned with some basics principles I take as crucial, I just move forward. Not being arrogant... But in most cases I just openly say that its not what I want and that our principles are different. Not trying to change or impose my ideas to someone, I just don't waste time with women I don't think they vibrate in the same frequency I'm.
Examples: what's the meaning to date or have sex with a woman that wastes most of her time drinking/partying, having a lot of male friends, do not have goals or only superficial conversations... Since I'm not up to it or don't believe in those things? What I realized is that, putting myself in a position that I don't agree with, even if it's only casual or only for a moment of sex, was not bringing me anything good, and actually, I could be wasting an opportunity to meet a woman we would have a genuine connection and similar principles.
So I really would love to meet a nice woman to share my life with. But I'm ok with being alone... And if I don't find someone that share similar values/principles, thats ok too. I find out that there were so many other great stuffs to do in life that have purpose, that make this idea of being alone not as painful as it used to be for me in the past.
The same goes for friends... I left a lot behind when I started this change in my life.
- On the professional aspect, I'm not making a ton of money... But in one year I grew up what I didn't in 10 years. And I'm still earning a good amount to keep myself. Also realizing the value I have... And knowing that I'm not perfect and have a lot to learn and grow up.
Maybe what I'm trying to say is that one key I changed in my life, had a great impact in any other aspect of it.
Self-respect gives us the ability to not allow others to disrespect ourselves. And also it seems to gives us better relationships in any field of life.
So: I'm having more genuine relationships, genuinely spending my time with things that matter to me, learning a lot, enjoying the feeling of peace of mind that most of us told me one year ago.
And it's all perfect... I'm starting to notice good changes now. In the beginning, there was still a lot of darkness to clear out. Tons of nightmares and still being really depressed on some days. But slowly this is getting better.
And even if everything went wrong... I know I've made the best decision that showed my inner side that I respect myself.
Hope to share more good stories in the future.