"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do most of you guys get women by going online nowadays? Like is that the main way to meet women now. Is it considered old school to walk up to a woman and ask them out or get there phone number in person?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TheCharmingGuy

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Cold approach all the way. I used a dating app once, it sucked. You can’t tell if you’re getting something good because every girl on there makes themselves out to be perfect so it’s always a letdown when you turn out not to match at all. Waste of time for me the one time I did it. People who do it usually say it’s the “modern” way to connect, but that’s BS. Cold approach works more often and produces better results.
 

manfrombelow

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Online is one of many ways, not the only way.

Actually I think OLD apps are making guys more and more coward in the sense they don't have the balls to approach girls in real life anymore, which gives DJs like us big advantage.
 

EyeBRollin

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I did mostly online. The rest from social groups. Social groups were better for flings and one night stands.

Online is only hard initially. Once you have a solid system it is like clockwork. Before I met my current girlfriend, I had 3 plates and about 20 active matches, and 2-3 first dates in the pipeline at all times. And this was during the pandemic.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SW15

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Online is only hard initially. Once you have a solid system it is like clockwork. Before I met my current girlfriend, I had 3 plates and about 20 active matches, and 2-3 first dates in the pipeline at all times. And this was during the pandemic.
I believe online is hard initially. I could never figure out how to make either websites (pre-2012) or swipe apps (post 2012) work for me. Lots of flaking, ghosting, failed first dates (one date, no sex, no second dates). I exited the format.
 

EyeBRollin

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I believe online is hard initially. I could never figure out how to make either websites (pre-2012) or swipe apps (post 2012) work for me. Lots of flaking, ghosting, failed first dates (one date, no sex, no second dates). I exited the format.
Take professional photos. My matches skyrocketed after that. The chicks that responded were usually 1-2 points higher SMV also
 

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Social circle all the way for me. I always look uglier on pictures (or I’m just uglier than I think I am) so I’ve had terrible results on OLD. I should start cold approaching but I don’t have the balls for it atm.
 

SW15

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Take professional photos. My matches skyrocketed after that. The chicks that responded were usually 1-2 points higher SMV also
Did that before one swipe app blitz. Did not change outcomes.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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