"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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article: The coming wave of sex negativity

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Point 5 is good:

Expect lawsuits against any and everything that contains endocrine disrupting chemicals and big, big scandals to start coming out. Many people will realize that as much as they want to rebel, they can’t rebel—there’s something wrong with them physiologically and it has everything to do with what’s in the water, what our mattresses are being made with, what’s in our food and clothes,

Wow?
 

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Point 5 is good:

Expect lawsuits against any and everything that contains endocrine disrupting chemicals and big, big scandals to start coming out. Many people will realize that as much as they want to rebel, they can’t rebel—there’s something wrong with them physiologically and it has everything to do with what’s in the water, what our mattresses are being made with, what’s in our food and clothes,

Wow?
Our environment is fvcked and causing all kinds of issues hormonally with people no matter how careful they are. Still have to take showers and the skin is the largest organ in the body in terms of absorption. Still have to breath the air.
 

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Point No 8
The lack of honesty surrounding all manner of sexual and gender issues, but particularly sex work, is going to bite us in the ass with an overcorrection. We are going to have a generation or more of women who feel incredible shame about their sexual histories and experiences. They may boomerang or they may stay the same and cope. But the “end the stigma” while silencing anyone who has anything negative to say? Great work! We’ve created a tinder box.
Dont women already feel incredible shame about their sluttiness and prefer to give a false impression in public. That's why when they realise they arent valuable to most men, women marry the AFC with no options. That's why they say the past is the past or that was a different time I was young and made many mistakes.
Reformed sluts and the ones even an AFC will not want to be within 6ft of. Some of them dont marry and become cat ladies.

Just as there is a generation of lost women there is a generation of lost men. More promiscuous women = more male wizards
 
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This is as much a problem of community as anything else. Eroded relationships have a lot to do with the fact that most middle and upper middle class people in the West lack any sort of identity, inclusion to a group they believe in in a real sense, and connections.
This is very true, we have no real sense of community in the west. Everybody is divided against each other.

Like my neighbourhood for example, i don't even know who most of them are, they never go outside unless it's to get in their car and drive to work
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I really hated how that blog/advice was written.
It was a difficult read.

It looked like it was written by a mathematician that sits in his basement, calculating how many germs travel through the air and puts that formula into an equation of how it effects Millennials.
And when he shakes his magic 8-ball after midnight, it predicts how everyone becomes Amish by 2030.

It's a bunch of nonsense!
 
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I really hated how that blog/advice was written.
It was a difficult read.

It looked like it was written by a mathematician that sits in his basement, calculating how many germs travel through the air and puts that formula into an equation of how it effects Millennials and how his magic ball predicted how everyone becomes Amish in 2030.

It's a bunch of nonsense!
lolz
 
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