"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should I abandon this plate or am I just being needy/butthurt

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I matched with this girl in medical school, I can't get a date out of her but she suggests going to the beach for a weekend. I don't meet this girl prior because she said she was busy with exams, but the beach trip still happens and I get sex. She also tried doing school work at the beach and I had to tell her to cut that **** off cause it's a vacation lol. It took a couple of tries because she would throw the Jesus/Sin shield at me, but I worked my magic. I meet up with her two more times afterwards and every time I get her close to taking her clothes off she says she doesn't want to sin blah blah blah, but I let it slide.

She has another round of exams and becomes more distant (not as routinely responsive to snaps or texts) and I start to back off and this weekend I ask her if she wants to do something after she is finished with exams and she says she doesn't know because she's overwhelmed and stressing out. I say okay cool and then she just randomly starts dumping walls of texts on me about how stressed she is and how she is losing friends/she doesn't know what to do blah blah. I tell her my insight and I decide to go ghost for a few days. I decided to end the ghost last night by just snapping her a pic of a beer at a bar and she responds and she responded to some my snap story of my gym morning workout, so idk if I'm just getting played or not. I know t at I'm never going to be a priority because of Medical School and Jesus lol. In addition, she seem like she has some inner demons she has to work on.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lookatu

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but the beach trip still happens and I get sex.
So did you have sex with her?

I meet up with her two more times afterwards and every time I get her close to taking her clothes off she says she doesn't want to sin blah blah blah, but I let it slide.
So if you did have sex already, now she's witholding it? If you've already had sex and she witholds it, that is a power move or she no longer desires you. Realize it and move onto someone that will.

I start to back off and this weekend I ask her if she wants to do something after she is finished with exams and she says she doesn't know because she's overwhelmed and stressing out.
You should've gotten the hint the first time and not reached out to her. You should've waited for her to reach out to you when she's of the better mind and less stressed.

I tell her my insight and I decide to go ghost for a few days.
You just listened to all her problems and became her emotional tampon. This is a no no and beta orbiter behavior.

I decided to end the ghost last night by just snapping her a pic of a beer at a bar and she responds and she responded to some my snap story of my gym morning workout, so idk if I'm just getting played or not.
You're looking to play games with her in hoping to get back at her or getting her attention. This isn't healthy. You should be moving on and not worrying about her or what she thinks.

I know that I'm never going to be a priority because of Medical School and Jesus lol.
Exactly. If you are the type that seeks more attention from her. She's not going to be able to offer it. Accept it and move on.
My comments in bold above.
 

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When they play the religion card, jump ship. She will always have that reluctance and it’s best not to mess with a person’s convictions.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Now all of a sudden, she's 'uncertain' about things and is talking about 'God's plan' and 'having faith.'

What's that all about?
Anytime a girl mentions religion in a way that interferes with your relationship moving forward with her in any way is never good. It never ends well. Just a heads up...

As Atom said, jump ship...

When they play the religion card, jump ship. She will always have that reluctance and it’s best not to mess with a person’s convictions.
 

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Back story:

I matched with this girl in medical school, I can't get a date out of her but she suggests going to the beach for a weekend. I don't meet this girl prior because she said she was busy with exams, but the beach trip still happens and I get sex. She also tried doing school work at the beach and I had to tell her to cut that **** off cause it's a vacation lol. It took a couple of tries because she would throw the Jesus/Sin shield at me, but I worked my magic. I meet up with her two more times afterwards and every time I get her close to taking her clothes off she says she doesn't want to sin blah blah blah, but I let it slide.

She has another round of exams and becomes more distant (not as routinely responsive to snaps or texts) and I start to back off and this weekend I ask her if she wants to do something after she is finished with exams and she says she doesn't know because she's overwhelmed and stressing out. I say okay cool and then she just randomly starts dumping walls of texts on me about how stressed she is and how she is losing friends/she doesn't know what to do blah blah. I tell her my insight and I decide to go ghost for a few days. I decided to end the ghost last night by just snapping her a pic of a beer at a bar and she responds and she responded to some my snap story of my gym morning workout, so idk if I'm just getting played or not. I know t at I'm never going to be a priority because of Medical School and Jesus lol. In addition, she seem like she has some inner demons she has to work on.
I guess I am confused -- you did or you didn't already sleep with her? If you didn't, then you can't even call this chick a plate. She is just someone who isn't attracted to you. Even if you had sex once, sounds like she is regretting doing it with you. My guess is the religion angle is simply an excuse not to sleep with you. Next.
 
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