"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What constitutes Alpha frame

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So male feminist Justin Trudeau is an alpha male?

I'm not saying you're wrong, I'm just saying that not everyone who is elected is necessarily alpha.
I was reading that in the European Union they want to pass a law in which you will not be allowed to use terms like : mother , father ,daughter , etc in official documents
 
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So male feminist Justin Trudeau is an alpha male?

I'm not saying you're wrong, I'm just saying that not everyone who is elected is necessarily alpha.
Your definition of alpha is not an actual alpha. You can be as hard ass and introvert as you want but if people don't elect you to lead then you aren't alpha period. I went over this in my male chart topic or just watch this video.

 

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Your definition of alpha is not an actual alpha. You can be as hard ass and introvert as you want but if people don't elect you to lead then you aren't alpha period. I went over this in my male chart topic or just watch this video.

I see you're a newer member, not even here 2 weeks. I assume you're here because you want to get better with women.

Why are you so insistent about being "right" about everything?

Lots of good info here. You should read, take it in, and follow-up with some questions to members/posts who know their s*it. Don't fall into the Newbie Know It All trap many do. Good members won't help you.

Just some advice.

Good luck to you.
 

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Labels are comical at best and limit people in so many ways.

Males should always strive to be men again. That has been lost over the years. Simple as that.

Once you put a label on something, you confine it and limit it's potential.

It's ok to use it to describe traits/personality but not to define someone IMO.

A well rounded male should have a combination of these traits at various times/situations.

Nerdy types are always obsessing about the semantics. The rest of us has more important things in life. My $.02
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Labels are comical at best and limit people in so many ways.

Males should always strive to be men again. That has been lost over the years. Simple as that.

Once you put a label on something, you confine it and limit it's potential.

It's ok to use it to describe traits/personality but not to define someone IMO.

Nerdy types are always obsessing about the semantics. The rest of us has more important things in life. My $.02
to define is to limit
 

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alpha is just a state of mind that's all

it comes from a state of abundance , in terms of women , you just have to realize there will always be more, and you should work on your fitness , mental game , social game and any other weak points in yourself so that you can increase your success as far as maintaining respectful, fulfilling relationships with women . another alpha trait is resilience , not giving up. im pretty sure mayweather lost some amateur fights , but he kept going because he understood every dog has its day,everybody fails at some point. , if you quit now you will never make it.
frame is just short for frame of mind
i'll give you an example of frame by giving you a re-frame of the classic ''she not yours its just your turn''
instead of having that frame of mind think of it as ''its not my turn its her turn with ME , and i can make that turn last as long as i want''
that frame of mind puts you in a mindset of being the prize. the idea behind this is that overtime the frame is permanently imbedded and your behaviors consistently remind her you are her best option

good luck brother
 

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I was reading that in the European Union they want to pass a law in which you will not be allowed to use terms like : mother , father ,daughter , etc in official documents
And that is exactly the left wing,right on, woke madness that infects this world today.Unless there are other issues that affect a very tiny % of people,we are biologically male,or female.Only born females can give birth (mother) You can huff and puff,try and be politically correct,deny it and obfuscate the issue, and all that shizzle,but that is a fact,and the sooner the woke crowd wake up to biological realities then so much the better. I mean,here in the UK,some hospitals have been ordered to call breast feeding, chest feeding!! Yep,good luck getting a bloke to chest feed...and a father should be called "non birthing partner" is like,anyone,offended by the terms Male & Female ?? Utter madness.The lunatics have taken over
 
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And that is exactly the left wing,right on, woke madness that infects this world today.Unless there are other issues that affect a very tiny % of people,we are biologically male,or female.Only born females can give birth (mother) You can huff and puff,try and be politically correct,deny it and obfuscate the issue, and all that shizzle,but that is a fact,and the sooner the woke crowd wake up to biological realities then so much the better. I mean,here in the UK,some hospitals have been ordered to to call it chest feeding!! Yep,good luck getting a bloke to chest feed...and a father should be called "non birthing partner" is like,anyone,offended by the terms Male & Female ?? Utter madness.The lunatics have taken over
gonna have to leave earth soon , if they are doing this madness now who knows what they will be up to 10-20 years from now
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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