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The Myth of Chad (Who Has a Thousand Lays)

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I often wonder why the name Chad was picked. I knew two Chads in school. Both were smart, but they were either really ugly or 300+ lbs. Most Stacy's I knew were above-average in looks. Coulda f ucked two of them, but I second guessed myself both times in high school.
I learned the term from the guy who did that incel van attack in Toronto. Prior to that I never heard such a name as meaning anything. I know there are guys who have it easy but did not know there was one catch all name that was popular like.that.
 

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This is what I’ve found out after 7 years of going balls deep in game. The “naturals” out there are actually chumps underneath who are still blue pulled and only got girls due to good looks and early experiences with girls early on.
Now who do I find to be the BEST with girls? Those who study pickup, game, and dating who sucked with girls at first. Yes, at first they are dorks but in a few years those that stick with it fvckimg DESTROY. That’s because they learned and analyzed. They educated themselves. Same goes for.wealth. Yes that rich kid May be rich and have a good understanding of money and a good job but they don’t have that hunger that someone who is poor may have. The person that’s poor values every bit of information and money he gets.
This was the case with me with girls. I was the loser who didn’t get girls in hs of my friend group. I would always wonder how this one friend kept getting girls. Then I said ENOUGH. And went on this site and read book of pook and worked out. Now I realize those that girls back then always had girls CHOOSE THEM. Best feeling in the world is getting a literal 9 at the club with your buddies in high school who look at you like a god because they remember you being a dork with girls. And the best part is I can keep them now because of what I’ve learned. So yes don’t be scared of natural chads. Be scared of those aware of this sh1tnyour learning here. They are the ones who know the best.
 

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I learned the term from the guy who did that incel van attack in Toronto. Prior to that I never heard such a name as meaning anything. I know there are guys who have it easy but did not know there was one catch all name that was popular like.that.
Not sure where they get these names. Weird.
 

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The natural advantage my friend has of being 6'4" helped a lot. At 5'10", I have fewer natural advantages. You're right that he put in the work of approaching. He never had spectacular openers in bar. I often had better openers when judged on a content basis. Many other men likely did as well. His openers were just good enough, which is what they needed to be. It would be erroneous to say he had unlimited choice.
Chad doesn't need to open - chicks open him, and all he needs to do is not screw up. I guess you could say that Chad is going to screw one way or another - up or in.
 

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All you need to do is look at Jeff Bezo's text messages to his mistress to see how high-status men Game women. It's pathetic, entitlement-style "bang me because I'm rich and trade me your pvssy for a holiday" Game. It's Transactional Sex.
Well, Bezos is closer than any other PUA to being able to have that holiday be on another celestial sphere. :eek: :eek:
 

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The natural advantage my friend has of being 6'4" helped a lot. At 5'10", I have fewer natural advantages. You're right that he put in the work of approaching. He never had spectacular openers in bar. I often had better openers when judged on a content basis. Many other men likely did as well. His openers were just good enough, which is what they needed to be. It would be erroneous to say he had unlimited choice.
Chad doesn't need to open - chicks open him, and all he needs to do is not screw up. I guess you could say that Chad is going to screw one way or another - up or in.
I never saw a woman approach my friend.

The “naturals” out there are actually chumps underneath who are still blue pulled and only got girls due to good looks and early experiences with girls early on.
I'm surpirsed how my friend is at his essence blue pilled despite having a period of his life where he was getting massive quantities of vagina due to be a 6'4" athlete/former athlete.


Now who do I find to be the BEST with girls? Those who study pickup, game, and dating who sucked with girls at first. Yes, at first they are dorks but in a few years those that stick with it fvckimg DESTROY. That’s because they learned and analyzed. They educated themselves. Same goes for.wealth. Yes that rich kid May be rich and have a good understanding of money and a good job but they don’t have that hunger that someone who is poor may have. The person that’s poor values every bit of information and money he gets.
This was the case with me with girls. I was the loser who didn’t get girls in hs of my friend group. I would always wonder how this one friend kept getting girls. Then I said ENOUGH. And went on this site and read book of pook and worked out. Now I realize those that girls back then always had girls CHOOSE THEM. Best feeling in the world is getting a literal 9 at the club with your buddies in high school who look at you like a god because they remember you being a dork with girls. And the best part is I can keep them now because of what I’ve learned. So yes don’t be scared of natural chads. Be scared of those aware of this sh1tnyour learning here. They are the ones who know the best.
I am a solid approacher. Even this 6'4" Chaddish friend is impressed that I can do non-bar approaches in venues like the grocery store or a walking path during the day while sober. He never did those types of approaches and never had an inclination to learn how to do that.
 

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2018 I smashed 26 chicks after a breakup in Jan 2018 - that was fun but I wouldn't want to go back there again, it's hard work
 

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I never saw a woman approach my friend.



I'm surpirsed how my friend is at his essence blue pilled despite having a period of his life where he was getting massive quantities of vagina due to be a 6'4" athlete/former athlete.




I am a solid approacher. Even this 6'4" Chaddish friend is impressed that I can do non-bar approaches in venues like the grocery store or a walking path during the day while sober. He never did those types of approaches and never had an inclination to learn how to do that.
Keep going bro. Learning this **** is the best **** I ever did for mysef
 

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Chad has access to the top 10%. He's not interested in sub 8's

Believe it or not, when you're a good looking guy, you don't actually want to sleep with every woman in sight. Incels and beta males do... because it's something they don't have

Chad gets the cream of the crop in university / or the workplace. Which is a much better deal btw and even more of a brutal pill for the non-good looking guys to swallow. He has it so good, he doesn't need "thousands"

But that's exactly how incels and beta males view it from the outside
This as a guy who is in a social circle with a few Chad's and Tyrone's I can tell you from experience OP Is wrong
I have doctors, pilots, cybersecurity guys in one of my social circle all these guys make 6 figures and work anywhere from 40-70 hours a week.


The doctor always got a chick his schedules somethinglike 4 days on and 3 days off. On the 4 days on he may work 12-16 hours a week but the the 3 days off he's partying hard and bunkerbustering different women. A close buddy of mine in that circle makes over 6 figures a week and goes on 3-5 dates a week and this is right now during covid. These girls are all 7+'s and he smashes his share.

There are many more examples of this but the top guys have access to the hottest chicks and their success not just with women but also in other aspects make them more attractive. These guys have average to above average game you don't need to be super PUA the doctor has the worse game and even his game is better than most guys and he bangs hot tail

You'd think working nearly 70 hours a week he doesn't have access or time to women but even if he doesn't go out he can always meet a chick via social circle (he lives in the same condo as all his friends or swipe right on a dating app and invite a hot college slut over to have fun with
 

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You are an example of a guy who is a resentful sabotager of sexually successful men, and a perfect example of why sexually successful men need to keep quiet about it. Guys like you Hate It, and don't want to believe it's real.

The Sexual Market Place is a raw deal for most men, so I don't blame you for feeling bitter about it. But it's better to face reality rather than concoct BluePill fantasies that "Chads don't get laid much" so you can cope with it.
from what I know , top level players are around 30-40 girls a year . And this guys mainly only do this

there ofc , really successful guys out there that have a higher notch count per year , but this is not necessarily because they are really good with women , but because fame plays a high role in this equation

I would say that the chad myth is exaggerated , but for sure they do exist
 

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Keep going bro. Learning this **** is the best **** I ever did for mysef
did you really need to 'learn' this stuff, though?
Like, most people who have been properly socialised already know how to hold eye contact or that saying 'hi' to a stranger can open a convo and everything else in PUA books. (normal people tend to tease and 'neg' from time to time, ask questions, flirt when a girl is receptive etc)
I've always slightly internally cringed when people say 'just learn game, bro'. I think it can give newbies the idea that saying some words can make a girl attracted to you when you're just not her type when in truth, there's nothing you could say or do to make her sexually attracted
 

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I never saw a woman approach my friend.
even at night? I've not seen my chad friends get approached in the day time (huge IOI's of course, though) but at night time it's a very regular thing. I'd say maybe 5 times per night?? (typically girls pretending to recognsise him or just a flirty comment etc)
 

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did you really need to 'learn' this stuff, though?
I think what he is saying is that he is glad he learned it through PUA/Red Pill VS learning it through the way naturals do (normal upbringing, dad/older brother were good role models), cuz he now gets as much ***** as his 6'4 friend only that he isn't blue pilled. think he said his friend is now married to an ugg cuz he folded under social pressure seeing his other 30 yr old friends getting married. also that he can approach girls in venues where normal people wouldn't like grocery stores (normal people stick to approach girls in bars while tipsy, including me) and get numbers to go on dates with them.
even at night? I've not seen my chad friends get approached in the day time (huge IOI's of course, though) but at night time it's a very regular thing. I'd say maybe 5 times per night?? (typically girls pretending to recognsise him or just a flirty comment etc)
ya this was the only thing I was skeptical about. I'm "chad-lite" and I'd still get approached by hot girls when I went out.
 

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The most dangerous men are men who understand female nature, and can think like a woman. Combine this with good-looks and sociopathy, and you have an extremely dangerous player who can bang unlimited women.

Women are very, very easy to understand once you remove your BluePill ideology about what women are, and stop projecting your male fantasies onto her. If you accept women, and take them for what they truly are, then you've basically solved 99% of the problem.
I was reading your posts in other threads , and found quite interesting your line of thoughts

can you please expand more this part about what is the female nature in what you were referring in the quote above ?
 

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Females nature is dualistic. They have a desire for comfort and provisioning, and a desire to be ravaged and treated mean by a bad boy alpha. They struggle to find these qualities in 1 man, so they typically find a beta to pay for her sh!t and orbit her, while she gets impregnated by the alpha (ideally getting the beta to raise the kid, because they alpha doesn't stick around).

The issue for most men today is women get provisioning and comfort from the government, who is essentially the giant beta provider of all women. This means that beta males are now redundant.

Women have comfort and provisioning from daddy government, so they are only really interested in alpha fux today. Alpha fux are basically men who are mean to them, but in an attractive way. Basically a loveable a$$hole.
Nice points.

And that why men should NEVER commit.
 

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did you really need to 'learn' this stuff, though?
Like, most people who have been properly socialised already know how to hold eye contact or that saying 'hi' to a stranger can open a convo and everything else in PUA books. (normal people tend to tease and 'neg' from time to time, ask questions, flirt when a girl is receptive etc)
I've always slightly internally cringed when people say 'just learn game, bro'. I think it can give newbies the idea that saying some words can make a girl attracted to you when you're just not her type when in truth, there's nothing you could say or do to make her sexually attracted
Yes. I wasn’t a loser in hs but hooking up
With girls terrified me because of blue pulled beliefs (got to have looks money status to get girls). I can talk to them normal but getting sexual with them? No. Then I read book of pook and learned to
Become more dominant at 17. This led me down a rabbit hole that I don’t need to live how others want me to live. I can create my own life and write my own ticket in life. Now I see the “naturals” ALWAYS beinf broken up with first. I know what’s going on socially.
In fact now I CRINGE when people don’t study this stuff. Just as how people don’t study working out properly and always think they know what they are doing, they will get outpaced by those that study and learn. The greatest arrogance is thinking you “get it”. It’s called social SKILLS for a reason
 

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On one end of this conversation there's racking lays as a means of being validated as "chad".

On the other end is focus on your purpose self improvement to becoming "chad".

In my opinion, it's a balance.

Getting girls is a numbers game.

Probability. Math. Basic stuff really.

A better life and purpose enhances our probability to get laid more.

Our game and approaches gives the women an opportunity to experience it.

One lacking region would drag the other down to.

It's a sport. Take it easy.
 

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A man's "job" i.e. Doctor, NFL player etc. is just social proof - it's Transactional Sex.

Why does a woman like a Doctor or an NFL player? Money and provisioning. This is beta comfort stuff.

Also, many NFL players and Doctors have weak game. They purely rely on Provider Game. "Want to fvck, baby? I'm a Doctor. I'll take you on a holiday to Dubai, please gimme your pvssy"

All you need to do is look at Jeff Bezo's text messages to his mistress to see how high-status men Game women. It's pathetic, entitlement-style "bang me because I'm rich and trade me your pvssy for a holiday" Game. It's Transactional Sex.
Both right. Doing the work to become top level man gets the bombshell dime and so does running flawless game-more than 10, 000 hours has to be put in on running flawless game....doing work to become top level man? at leeeeaassst 10,000 hours typically but probably 15 years or morethough.
 

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Yes. I wasn’t a loser in hs but hooking up
With girls terrified me because of blue pulled beliefs (got to have looks money status to get girls). I can talk to them normal but getting sexual with them? No. Then I read book of pook and learned to
Become more dominant at 17. This led me down a rabbit hole that I don’t need to live how others want me to live. I can create my own life and write my own ticket in life. Now I see the “naturals” ALWAYS beinf broken up with first. I know what’s going on socially.
In fact now I CRINGE when people don’t study this stuff. Just as how people don’t study working out properly and always think they know what they are doing, they will get outpaced by those that study and learn. The greatest arrogance is thinking you “get it”. It’s called social SKILLS for a reason
yeah, I can definitely see how if someone was autstic and stuff they'd need to 'learn' what's in PUA books (learn to hold eye contact and not speak monotone etc), but I remember getting into this years ago, and never read anything I wasn't already aware of in the various books and courses, tbh. Was a bit like reading books about how to tie my laces which I already knew, but for a while has you second guessing and over-analysing how you've been tieing your laces all this time lol

I realised 'game' is really just about not completely screwing yourself over and doing stupid **** and losing girls who thought you were hot who you would have banged if you didn't mess it up and tell them you love them on the first date or whatever! haha.
 
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