I need help asap

[ImFrazy]

Recently I just started talking to this girl in December. She said she just got out of a relationship. Within a month she moved in with me. I was looking through her phone because obviously of my trust and insecurity which I should have never done now that I found these forums. She moved out an left a few things she still hasn’t come to get. I’ve reminded her of it once and she said she’ll come get it another day but still hasn’t.

Last night I was texting her an I waited a little bit on her text like between 15-25 mins. She told me she was applying for jobs and all I said was “Nice” she then said sometimes our text are dry and she’s said this before so I said “Ok lmao, and what did you apply for?” She said “A job” at first then a few seconds later opened the messages back up and said that she applied for a few other jobs. She then got mad talking about some girl I use to know because she has a fan page and she goes to assume I’ve been talking to her. I told her she can think as she wishes. When she went through this little for I just told her I was helping my friend with something hence the text “Nice”. I told her I was busy helping my friend.
Ive apologized before for looking through her phone an this is like the second time she’s brought it up.
She text me this morning saying it’s not about you being busy it’s just some things you’ve done that it’s hard for me to trusts you. I’m yet to respond to this. I don’t want to be apologizing again. I feel like that’s the wrong move. That would make me chase her even more.
Note that she respond to me rather quickly within 1-10 minutes. When I was making her wait a little before I responded she would reply with like 1 minute if not less.

what approach should I take here? I’m sure apologizing won’t do any good Because I’ve done that already

 

[ImFrazy]

Note she always ask how my day was too. An we tell each other good morning. 90% of the time we are texting

 

[ImFrazy]

she also goes to say that it’s hard for her to trust people

 

[ThisIsSparta]

You started talking to this girl in December, you let her move in January (juvenile carelessness, i get it), she moved out again (good for you!).

Now, tell her you wish her all the best and block her number.

Then, focus on other women.

(PS: why for fvcks sake do you still spend time on her?)

 

[john1234]

Okay, never date a girl that's just got out of a relationship and take it seriously ( as she moved into yours). You were maybe the rebound guy.

Did she move out because you were a simp and looked through her phone?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Sounds like you have a nice penpal. Letting someone move in after a month screams desperation and neediness, please don't do this anymore.

This combined with your insecurity likely drove her away from being interested in anything more than being a friend.

You need to work on you and improving your mindset to not fall into this same pattern again. Otherwise this will likely keep repeating.

 

[ImFrazy]

Ok so how would I win her back because she said “you think I’m sorry is enough”

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Ok so how would I win her back because she said “you think I’m sorry is enough”

You don't. Stop supplicating to her and lowering your value. Until you view yourself as having high value and behaving in that way nobody else will, including women.

 

[ImFrazy]

I’ve also stired up jealousy before by liking a girls comment on one of my pictures. She also says before she isn’t the type to give up when things get hard

 

[Lone Philosopher]

Read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. All of this sounds like bill pill/beta mindset which will never serve you well. You should take a step back from this and look at who you want to become as a man. You and I are the same age, and what I do know as a 21 year old is that we are too young and have too much potential to be this worried over any girl, and this one especially because she already has multiple red flags.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Recently I just started talking to this girl in December. She said she just got out of a relationship. Within a month she moved in with me. I was looking through her phone because obviously of my trust and insecurity which I should have never done now that I found these forums. She moved out an left a few things she still hasn’t come to get. I’ve reminded her of it once and she said she’ll come get it another day but still hasn’t.

Last night I was texting her an I waited a little bit on her text like between 15-25 mins. She told me she was applying for jobs and all I said was “Nice” she then said sometimes our text are dry and she’s said this before so I said “Ok lmao, and what did you apply for?” She said “A job” at first then a few seconds later opened the messages back up and said that she applied for a few other jobs. She then got mad talking about some girl I use to know because she has a fan page and she goes to assume I’ve been talking to her. I told her she can think as she wishes. When she went through this little for I just told her I was helping my friend with something hence the text “Nice”. I told her I was busy helping my friend.
Ive apologized before for looking through her phone an this is like the second time she’s brought it up.
She text me this morning saying it’s not about you being busy it’s just some things you’ve done that it’s hard for me to trusts you. I’m yet to respond to this. I don’t want to be apologizing again. I feel like that’s the wrong move. That would make me chase her even more.
Note that she respond to me rather quickly within 1-10 minutes. When I was making her wait a little before I responded she would reply with like 1 minute if not less.

what approach should I take here? I’m sure apologizing won’t do any good Because I’ve done that already

What's your goal with this girl? We can't advise you well without knowing wtf you want to do.

If it's to have a relationship with her then back off and let her come to you. You've apologized but your future actions are what will really make up for anything she feels has wronged her. Call her bluff and let her stay mad as long as she wants, meanwhile improve yourself in other fields, talk to other girls. Mad girls should make you feel aversion, not make you want to apologize and give them attention.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

She also says before she isn’t the type to give up when things get hard

It doesnt matter what a woman says, it only matters what she does.

She moved out, she is done with you and uses you as her simp.

 

[ImFrazy]

So what should I say to her response

obviously I want a relationship but it’s clear I need to raise my value at the same time.
Her latest response was “well you haven’t done things that aren’t so great either. I understand you are busy sometimes, so it has nothing to do with that. It’s the other things you have done that is hard to trusts you” note I do want a relationship

 

[ImFrazy]

Should I just leave it on read? I thought about saying I’ve overcome a lot of things in short time and if you can’t see me over coming this then peace

 

[ImFrazy]

Because she is also very religious. She didn’t want to have sex when she moved in an said that it isn’t the right time and she wouldn’t have any feeling toward it

 

[ImFrazy]

I need some advice here my don Juan’s especially on this reply

 

[ThisIsSparta]

She didn’t want to have sex when she moved in

I knew you would say that........

I need some advice here my don Juan’s especially on this reply

You do not listen boy......

 

[ImFrazy]

So what should I say to her response

obviously I want a relationship but it’s clear I need to raise my value at the same time.
Her latest response was “well you haven’t done things that aren’t so great either. I understand you are busy sometimes, so it has nothing to do with that. It’s the other things you have done

 

[Nycmfer]

Recently I just started talking to this girl in December. She said she just got out of a relationship. Within a month she moved in with me. I was looking through her phone because obviously of my trust and insecurity which I should have never done now that I found these forums. She moved out an left a few things she still hasn’t come to get. I’ve reminded her of it once and she said she’ll come get it another day but still hasn’t.

Last night I was texting her an I waited a little bit on her text like between 15-25 mins. She told me she was applying for jobs and all I said was “Nice” she then said sometimes our text are dry and she’s said this before so I said “Ok lmao, and what did you apply for?” She said “A job” at first then a few seconds later opened the messages back up and said that she applied for a few other jobs. She then got mad talking about some girl I use to know because she has a fan page and she goes to assume I’ve been talking to her. I told her she can think as she wishes. When she went through this little for I just told her I was helping my friend with something hence the text “Nice”. I told her I was busy helping my friend.
Ive apologized before for looking through her phone an this is like the second time she’s brought it up.
She text me this morning saying it’s not about you being busy it’s just some things you’ve done that it’s hard for me to trusts you. I’m yet to respond to this. I don’t want to be apologizing again. I feel like that’s the wrong move. That would make me chase her even more.
Note that she respond to me rather quickly within 1-10 minutes. When I was making her wait a little before I responded she would reply with like 1 minute if not less.

what approach should I take here? I’m sure apologizing won’t do any good Because I’ve done that already

Do you have a sexual relationship with her? Any feelings for her?

 

[ImFrazy]

Like she wanted to she would grind on my dock an jerk me off