If you as a woman did go "older", he should be sexy and attractive to you. If it turns you on then it's good to go.
I told you/wrote here that I tried a date from OLD last March 2020? He was cool to meet me same day instead of endless chatting, to walk around the big park in the cold weather. Bigframed guy but not muscular. Cataracts and I'm pretty sure he took almost 20 years off his age on the profile, all older pics from when he lived in Barbados.
Ok. Still. He showed up. Was enthusiastic and positive, excellent courtesy so I decide to go on the walk anyways. (about an hour to go around the park)
At one point we politely, maturely talked(not crudely)about how important 'fit' is genitally speaking in a relationship. (I can't fail chit tests like that. I can speak on any subject to qualify for guys)
We sat on a bench close and after the walk I complied by getting in his car to get a small hot chocolate and went driving across city to see his old employer and to see a popular hiking place as if planning another date.
So I really tried to manufacture desire for this guy, I really tried by accepting kino and trying to be more intimate sitting closer on the bench and in his car driving and chatting and joking.
Its the first time I've ever been on a date with someone more than 1 year older than me. I'm going to guesstimate he was early to mid 70's
I have thought and thought and thought about why I couldn't muster up a sexual spark and I've determined it was NOT because of his age. He walked with military posture and easy languid movements of an athlete.
It was simply that he wasn't muscular, mrgoodstuff!
That 'fine piece of steak' raw hunger that I heard in a youtube lady's voice kind of feeling just wasn't there.
He knew it too. His facial expression was so sad when we returned to the park parking lot where my vehicle was.
My word, I'm so glad I tried by spending time with him on a date I may have never tried before. Yes he tricked me, but I'm glad I had the experience.
I'm willing to try again with an older man on a date but I don't know how I can fake it if I don't see bursting muscles, that glowing skin and bright eyes that comes with lifting. That thrown aura of testosterone that makes other people move out of their way automatically. That feeling I get just being in that protective bubble of masculinity. Its unreal how much I miss this and crave this.
I'm literally getting weakkneed thinking about it. Its deeper than carnal lust, it feels like survival and life force.
This isn't just a fetish mrgoodstuff.
My word.
Maybe I should have took my shot and took the risk and told him this.
But I didn't know then that was what was missing. Anyways, a guy probably wouldn't appreciate a girl from a date saying "If only you started lifting weights, I would probably feel the spark to sleep with you"
Its not until in this past year of constant meditation on what do I want, that my sorting computer of a brain has finally crossexamined and compared and zeroed in on the memories of when I felt most attracted and the final form is the muscular archetype as my type. It just exudes health and safety and longevity. Flips a switch in me.
The first muscular guy I ever date will probably take whatever he wants of me. I will probably struggle to remember all of the lessons I learned here. Lol. Thank God I'm a woman. I won't have to remember everything from this forum except for the simple facts of never letting my selfimprovements and femininity slip again.
I feel positive I can get this. It gives me a burst of energy every time I think I can be successful in improving even more to get this type of guy and to keep this type of guy.
Knowing his chronological age will be superfluous.
