Did too much dread drive her away?

[matt_uk]

Hi gents,

Im interested in your thoughts on this concept. I was in a 2 year LTR recently with a very traditional, conservative Hindu girl (another post on this entitled LTR ended...). She ended due to dread and pressure from family to conform.

Do you think there’s such a thing as ‘too aloof’/‘too much dread’? I tried providing as much comfort as I felt okay with but it may not have been enough. How can I handle this better next time around? (she’s walked away hurt, and don’t think there’ll be a second time round)

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I think you are of the belief that the type of game that gets you into a relationship is the same type of game that is needed to sustain a relationship.

You are wrong.

 

[Bigpapa]

You have to work on your attainability , as I previously mentioned in the first thread you opened about this girl

the family was only a catalyst for what she already felt in regards to the relationship , and not the root cause as you might think

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Hi gents,

Im interested in your thoughts on this concept. I was in a 2 year LTR recently with a very traditional, conservative Hindu girl (another post on this entitled LTR ended...). She ended due to dread and pressure from family to conform.

Do you think there’s such a thing as ‘too aloof’/‘too much dread’? I tried providing as much comfort as I felt okay with but it may not have been enough. How can I handle this better next time around? (she’s walked away hurt, and don’t think there’ll be a second time round)

Comply or bye.

Women will disown family members to get the alpha. Your biggest problem is that you are wasting time backwards rationale for your ex gf who likely is getting piped by Tyrone and a Chad. Together. Women break up to 1. Money branch to higher tier man or 2. Ski down cawk mountain. #next #nextset

If you had a harem of girls newly 18, would you be posting this?

 

[matt_uk]

You have to work on your attainability , as I previously mentioned in the first thread you opened about this girl

the family was only a catalyst for what she already felt in regards to the relationship , and not the root cause as you might think

Thanks. I think I struggle with the concept of attainability vs a blue pill simping kinda mentality. This was the first LTR I applied any real kind of RP lense to so it’s good to see where I can improve

 

[matt_uk]

Comply or bye.

Women will disown family members to get the alpha. Your biggest problem is that you are wasting time backwards rationale for your ex gf who likely is getting piped by Tyrone and a Chad. Together. Women break up to 1. Money branch to higher tier man or 2. Ski down cawk mountain. #next #nextset

If you had a harem of girls newly 18, would you be posting this?

I won’t deny that you’re spot on. I’m trying hard not to rationalise it. It’s frustrating because there’s this anger that my actions led to this. I hope these feelings are all normal and I’ll feel better once I start moving forward with new women

 

[Bigpapa]

Thanks. I think I struggle with the concept of attainability vs a blue pill simping kinda mentality. This was the first LTR I applied any real kind of RP lense to so it’s good to see where I can improve

you can read this thing to have a better understanding on how attainability works

Attainability Woes; or, Why Girls Who Like You Reject You

Commenting on “I Can’t Get Girls Because Girls Only Want [BLANK]”, TR asks the following about girls who appear to like you, yet ultimately sabotage their interactions with you due to hang-ups: “I've noticed that even though I can have an outstanding interaction with a woman that clearly likes...

www.girlschase.com

 

[Bigpapa]

Comply or bye.

Women will disown family members to get the alpha. Your biggest problem is that you are wasting time backwards rationale for your ex gf who likely is getting piped by Tyrone and a Chad. Together. Women break up to 1. Money branch to higher tier man or 2. Ski down cawk mountain. #next #nextset

If you had a harem of girls newly 18, would you be posting this?

if you look at the billionaires who are getting divorced , this theory about monkey branching to a higher value guy is kinda overrated

I would say that this happens less often than we would like to admit , and guys just hamster wheel this to make them feel better about themselves . “ dude it was not my fault , she is a b1tch because she is always looking for higher value guys “

 

[r4zorsharp]

She simply regards her parents more than she does you and it makes sense. Don't feel bad. Some cultures things are really embedded deeply and encompass their entire life of a person.. So it becomes a real battle to go against the grain.

 

[Medina]

I'm also from the UK and had a similar issue with a hindu girl years ago, although I'm fairly sure she was just $lut tbh like most girls from religious communities... they live to break the taboo

In any case, these things NEVER end well

 

[matt_uk]

I'm also from the UK and had a similar issue with a hindu girl years ago, although I'm fairly sure she was just $lut tbh like most girls from religious communities... they live to break the taboo

In any case, these things NEVER end well

Thanks man. This girl was probably as close to ‘truly great’ as I’ve found. And yes she was absolute dynamite in bed, submissive as you like!
However her insecurities were overwhelming, despite reassurances she just couldn’t settle the thought that I was going to have fun elsewhere. Just made me think about the concept of attainability.

 

[Bigpapa]

Thanks man. This girl was probably as close to ‘truly great’ as I’ve found. And yes she was absolute dynamite in bed, submissive as you like!
However her insecurities were overwhelming, despite reassurances she just couldn’t settle the thought that I was going to have fun elsewhere. Just made me think about the concept of attainability.

If you like her and she needs more reassurances from your end , then do that

but you also have to think that if this would be something that you will not like on the long term . Like for example seeing a little bit less the boys , and spending more time with her

or just tagging her along to whatever your are doing , so she feels that is more part of your life

 

[matt_uk]

If you like her and she needs more reassurances from your end , then do that

but you also have to think that if this would be something that you will not like on the long term . Like for example seeing a little bit less the boys , and spending more time with her

or just tagging her along to whatever your are doing , so she feels that is more part of your life

We’re not in contact right now. I did the standard last minute ‘oh but I can be so much more attainable’ bull**** so I f*cked up. I should have shown this not just said it.

 

[Bigpapa]

We’re not in contact right now. I did the standard last minute ‘oh but I can be so much more attainable’ bull**** so I f*cked up. I should have shown this not just said it.

well that is called supplication

next time when you talk with her , just tell her that you miss her too and to join you to do an activity that you like ( ideally would be something that she also likes ) that is not sexual

 

[matt_uk]

well that is called supplication

next time when you talk with her , just tell her that you miss her too and to join you to do an activity that you like ( ideally would be something that she also likes ) that is not sexual

Thanks man. I’m just going to leave her to it for a bit. Hopefully things settle down and I’ll see where my head is at in a few weeks! Your responses show that I’ve much to learn. I have definitely been too brutal in applying the RP imo.

 

[Bigpapa]

Thanks man. I’m just going to leave her to it for a bit. Hopefully things settle down and I’ll see where my head is at in a few weeks! Your responses show that I’ve much to learn. I have definitely been too brutal in applying the RP imo.

like jay z said “ you dudes treat the ones you loving with the same respect as the ones you humping “

seduction game is quite different than relationship game

 

[derby1]

Women will disown family members to get the alpha.

Ive seen them literally lose interest in their own kids, whilst they run round like theres a fire drill, as the alpha deemed them unworthy. youre 100% spot on

 

[matt_uk]

Ive seen them literally lose interest in their own kids, whilst they run round like theres a fire drill, as the alpha deemed them unworthy. youre 100% spot on

I think someone mentioned (and I agree with it) that the family weren’t the root cause of this. As I’ve alluded to I believe my lack of attainability was the main factor. I continued the strategy that got us together in the first place rather than diluting my alpha slightly to meet her hind brain needs.

 

[Bigpapa]

I think someone mentioned (and I agree with it) that the family weren’t the root cause of this. As I’ve alluded to I believe my lack of attainability was the main factor. I continued the strategy that got us together in the first place rather than diluting my alpha slightly to meet her hind brain needs.

You do not have to be less alpha , you just have to be more attainable

Like spending more time bonding and doing things togheter . This does not mean that you are less alpha , it means that you just show that you really like her as a person

 

[Bigpapa]

Ive seen them literally lose interest in their own kids, whilst they run round like theres a fire drill, as the alpha deemed them unworthy. youre 100% spot on

the bond between a mother and a child is super strong . I would say that those cases that you are mentioning is more about the woman being crazy from the get go