An aggressive first date?

[TheNewStyle123]

What are your thoughts gentlemen on asking a girl (can either be to her place or yours) to cook for her on your first date? There is a plate I'm spinning from bumble who I wanted to offer to cook a meal for on our first date, and she can supply the alcohol of her choice for our consumption.

Is that too aggressive? This girl is nothing special and I have a few other dates lined up, that's why I'm trying to keep the costs low and hopefully get straight to bucking on this one if all goes according to plan. The way I see it, I have nothing to lose. If she refuses I could always ask for a formal date, or move on.

 

[dustmuffin]

First off, a plate is a woman that you screw on the regular. You haven’t had a first date yet. I would ask her out for drinks at a place near you. If it goes well ask her to your place.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What are your thoughts gentlemen on asking a girl (can either be to her place or yours) to cook for her on your first date? There is a plate I'm spinning from bumble who I wanted to offer to cook a meal for on our first date, and she can supply the alcohol of her choice for our consumption.

Is that too aggressive? This girl is nothing special and I have a few other dates lined up, that's why I'm trying to keep the costs low and hopefully get straight to bucking on this one if all goes according to plan. The way I see it, I have nothing to lose. If she refuses I could always ask for a formal date, or move on.

Cook WITH her. That is the key. It's way more fun and way more flirty when you both are cooking and she is helping out, etc...

And the term plate infers that you are regularly banging a woman. Talking to someone prior to even meeting for the first time is a very long stretch to referring to her as a plate.

 

[TheNewStyle123]

Cook WITH her. That is the key. It's way more fun and way more flirty when you both are cooking and she is helping out, etc...

And the term plate infers that you are regularly banging a woman. Talking to someone prior to even meeting for the first time is a very long stretch to referring to her as a plate.

Oh yeah you're right - I was incorrect about the terminology. Thanks man!

 

[Lookatu]

What are your thoughts gentlemen on asking a girl (can either be to her place or yours) to cook for her on your first date? There is a plate I'm spinning from bumble who I wanted to offer to cook a meal for on our first date, and she can supply the alcohol of her choice for our consumption.

Is that too aggressive? This girl is nothing special and I have a few other dates lined up, that's why I'm trying to keep the costs low and hopefully get straight to bucking on this one if all goes according to plan. The way I see it, I have nothing to lose. If she refuses I could always ask for a formal date, or move on.

Personally I don't see anything wrong with it and if she's game, it further signals interest and the possibility that she may be DTF.

Now's the best time to suggest those things with Covid and shutdown without making you look creepy in any way. And it also gives the girl plausible deniability and not be judged by her peers or be shamed in any way. Win Win

Remember girls will always forgive you for being too aggressive but they won't if you aren't aggressive enough. Always error on the side of being too aggressive than being a pvssy. Pvssies aren't given a second chance in the current dating climate.

 

[TheNewStyle123]

Cook WITH her. That is the key. It's way more fun and way more flirty when you both are cooking and she is helping out, etc...

And the term plate infers that you are regularly banging a woman. Talking to someone prior to even meeting for the first time is a very long stretch to referring to her as a plate.

That is great advice man. I am going to another woman's apartment this Friday. The original offer is that I would cook us a meal (we have already banged and went on a first date.) Think it would be too last minute or rude to have her help out when I get there? Something like maybe joking around and having her prepare the salad or something? I am worried I am going to seem to desperate or giving of my time/attention to her now if I go to her place, bring wine, and cook for her. But then again.. I'm pretty sure this is a guaranteed buck since it already happened once.

Thoughts?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That is great advice man. I am going to another woman's apartment this Friday. The original offer is that I would cook us a meal (we have already banged and went on a first date.) Think it would be too last minute or rude to have her help out when I get there? Something like maybe joking around and having her prepare the salad or something? I am worried I am going to seem to desperate or giving of my time/attention to her now if I go to her place, bring wine, and cook for her. But then again.. I'm pretty sure this is a guaranteed buck since it already happened once.

Thoughts?

No, make her your kitchen assistant and put her on chop duty. She has to earn her keep as part of getting a meal cooked. And it needs to be more than sex or you come off looking a little too eager maybe.

They also usually love when a man takes charge in the kitchen and gives them instructions on what to do.

 

[TheNewStyle123]

No, make her your kitchen assistant and put her on chop duty. She has to earn her keep as part of getting a meal cooked. And it needs to be more than sex or you come off looking a little too eager maybe.

They also usually love when a man takes charge in the kitchen and gives them instructions on what to do.

Good advice man thank you. I am putting her on sous-chef duty.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

There have been many first dates where she peeled potatoes at my place, its a common thing I do, it's almost like a reversal, you think I'm coming in hot when in reality we're gonna make dinner, it's also great because you can be a pr1ck to her, ask her sensitive questions and it's not like she's gonna leave, she's helping you cook, you want to eat what you help cook.

Then you have the women who outright refuse to peel potatoes and you just pose the question "What did you think we were gonna do?" and you know your in, she knows your in, what, she's gonna fight you on it now?

Only bad part is the potatoes turn like purple if you leave them out too long once peeled.

I love it though, like is she really gonna complain either way, being fed, having fun cooking, plus your already at home, the hard part is over before the date begins

 

[bcude]

Yeah, don't feed her before you fvck her is a common saying around the manosphere.
Don't cook FOR her, cook WITH her, very important distinction. For her, is coming from a supplicating frame where you're trying to impress someone you don't know yet. Cooking with her is a normal fun activity that sets up touching and escalating to sex should be straight forward from there since she knows what it means to enter a man's home on the first date already.
The way you word it and then at the end say you could always "ask" for a formal date tells me you need to work on your mindset. You're doing these girls a favour by giving them your time, not the other way around. Your future success will depend upon this mindset shift.

 

[SW15]

The drinks date where she does more talking has been the most common date I've done. Pre-COVID, that was fairly standard date unless there was some amazing activity (there usually wasn't). I was in favor of trying to escalate to sex on the first date. It didn't matter where the sex was. I would settle for at least some kissing. If no kissing on the lips, no second date would be offered.

COVID changes the dynamics of it. Unless you can go to outdoor bars/patios now, the bar drinks date would be more difficult. Even at outdoor venues, you might get stuck with a table where you are sitting across from each other and it is likely to be more difficult to escalate.

No dinners in restaurants before sex.

 

[bat soup]

What are your thoughts gentlemen on asking a girl (can either be to her place or yours) to cook for her on your first date? There is a plate I'm spinning from bumble who I wanted to offer to cook a meal for on our first date, and she can supply the alcohol of her choice for our consumption.

Is that too aggressive? This girl is nothing special and I have a few other dates lined up, that's why I'm trying to keep the costs low and hopefully get straight to bucking on this one if all goes according to plan. The way I see it, I have nothing to lose. If she refuses I could always ask for a formal date, or move on.

It sounds like a good idea. A good pretext to get her back to your place. However, I knew a guy that used to do this and women would come over and talk all night about their boyfriends and then leave saying "thanks for the free food and attention, sucker".