"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Emmitt Smith shows how to properly put a woman in her place when she is being disrespectful

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Read this article about what happened and then especially the way Smith handled himself by remaining calm and composed in his response and how deeply it effected her.

You can tell by the way she is telling the story that she has a very deep respect for him as a man.

“It wasn’t his size or his strength that intimidated me, it was the way Emmitt spoke to me in a composed and controlled voice,” the pro dancer explained. “Instead of yelling at me, Emmitt took the approach of being understated and intense. It had a big impact.”

“Emmitt put me in my place by confronting me, and I deserved it,” she shared. “He gained my admiration and respect for doing that, and he also caused me to take a good look at myself. … I’ve been on the receiving end of blunt criticism for so long… that sometimes that’s just how I communicate. But that night, Emmitt’s words made me realize that criticism delivered without respect is only belittling and rude.”

This is how things should be handled as a man. No yelling or getting upset or out of control. I can sometimes struggle with this as well but this really shows how it effects a woman when you do it the way he did. Notice how she said ahe ADMIRED AND RESPECTED him for doing it. Like a little girl looking up to her Daddy.

 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I’m sure if an average Joe used the same tone and words she wouldn’t have interpreted it the same. It helps to be an NFL hall of famer.lol
 

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I’m sure if an average Joe used the same tone and words she wouldn’t have interpreted it the same. It helps to be an NFL hall of famer.lol
Why not? That had nothing to do with status or anything else. It had to do with the way he handled himself.
 
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