The only time calling women out is in the beginning when you’re setting boundaries. you can attempt to shift it later, but once things are built, it’s surely difficult to reconfigure it, because of patterns.
Calling them out: You don’t need to be angry or up in arms about it when a line is crossed (this would be weak masculine frame), just simply state that you have a line that’s not to be crossed, and once it’s been crossed again after the overt communication of said boundary ? Silence and distance until she comes back and apologizes. And sometimes that silence will echo for eternity depending on the severity of her transgression.
She will test all your boundaries and so just refer to silence and distance when you’re unhappy with certain treatments. And when she comes back submissive to that area, I’m sure she will inquire what the heck just happened and communicate her ill, possibly-unintended-intention, and thats when true communication can happen in vulnerability, which will deepen trust and intimacy. If a LTR is the goal. But if it’s a plate? No need for the latter part of this, because that’s investing too much for what your objective is.
Everything generally comes down to how you view yourself. The higher the standards generally entails greater respect you believe you deserve which showcases to people how you wish to be treated and what you will and won’t put up with.
women are covert, remember? So calling them out in a confrontational manner will just justify them to go victim mood manipulator and shirk responsibility then make the issue about your inability to be emotionally strong/dependable/safe, for her. And then you’ll be the one apologizing and that triggers the pattern of her putting the leash around your neck because she will gain the power and through that recognition you will see her point that you are in fact being emotional, which doesn’t make you the leader you both need in the relationship dynamic. And women simply are just seeking to be in their feminine around a man, and to be led most of the time; that’s why they go after the ever-loved alpha male.
believe it or not, women don’t want drama in relationships. They want excitement and passion. But when they aren’t in feminine mode because of their ‘man’ being unable to provide to himself and her, they are in masculine mode and that generally translates to stress. And with stress, that’s where the naggy woman trope steps in and she begins to tear at the male. And drama will suffice for excitement; for a while.. at least until one of you can’t take it anymore. All because the natural harmony of male/female dynamic is off.