lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
I hear that 100%, I know I shouldn't but more and more I'm finding myself doing this after my split.Men though tend to wall off people to be alone with their grief/helplessness.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I hear that 100%, I know I shouldn't but more and more I'm finding myself doing this after my split.Men though tend to wall off people to be alone with their grief/helplessness.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Say to them, "That's my problem. Don't you fret about it.Its something i get confronted with from time to time.
How do you guys deal with that topic?
Being married or in LTR doesnt mean you will have (or want) that wife in your last years with you.
Having kids doesnt guarantee they will be there in your later life, though they could.
What does the red-pill-philosophy provide for the elderly?
Does spinning plates become pointless/unsustainable (due to lack of SMV) at some point?
What does the plate spinner do when he doesnt give a f... about f...ing anymore?
Does the plate spinner also hit a wall?
For me the red-pill-philosophy is all about keeping men out of financial and emotional trouble and get them what they want from women. (sex, children)
But what then, when your finances are not in danger anymore, sex is of secondary interrest and you have made your peace with or without kids?
Don't say sh1t. They're trying to guilt you into putting up with bull sh1t. As long as you take care of Business you'll have options.Say to them, "That's my problem. Don't you fret about it.
Or, "I'm finding myself."
Excellent article and its the truth. This mindset is required more than ever.
-Augustus-
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Awesome - I was looking for this to cite.
-Augustus-
At 37, I'm starting to think about this. I have rarely encountered single moms in my dating sphere over the years. In the Millennial generation, childlessness is quite common. I don't think I'll have too difficult a time in 5 years finding childless 40 year old Millennial women when I'm 42 if I have to date at 42.What would I want with a single mom who's not having/incapable of having any kids?
Well, as far as I'm concerned that argument is a big fat lie. instead of wasting my time chasing woman, I am chasing more meaningful things in life, like knowledge, do something that is productive and helpful to other people. I tend to mentor people now when the opportunity presents itself.Its something i get confronted with from time to time.
How do you guys deal with that topic?
Being married or in LTR doesnt mean you will have (or want) that wife in your last years with you.
Having kids doesnt guarantee they will be there in your later life, though they could.
What does the red-pill-philosophy provide for the elderly?
Does spinning plates become pointless/unsustainable (due to lack of SMV) at some point?
What does the plate spinner do when he doesnt give a f... about f...ing anymore?
Does the plate spinner also hit a wall?
For me the red-pill-philosophy is all about keeping men out of financial and emotional trouble and get them what they want from women. (sex, children)
But what then, when your finances are not in danger anymore, sex is of secondary interest and you have made your peace with or without kids?
I am solution oriented for sourcing women and Dating. I have constantly looked at game and to level up. I have no idea what to do for kids in western society.Its something i get confronted with from time to time.
How do you guys deal with that topic?
Being married or in LTR doesnt mean you will have (or want) that wife in your last years with you.
Having kids doesnt guarantee they will be there in your later life, though they could.
What does the red-pill-philosophy provide for the elderly?
Does spinning plates become pointless/unsustainable (due to lack of SMV) at some point?
What does the plate spinner do when he doesnt give a f... about f...ing anymore?
Does the plate spinner also hit a wall?
For me the red-pill-philosophy is all about keeping men out of financial and emotional trouble and get them what they want from women. (sex, children)
But what then, when your finances are not in danger anymore, sex is of secondary interrest and you have made your peace with or without kids?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Multiple women top form SMV 18-23 were on podcast talking about their 40 and 50 year old bf. At 40, I am more open to the horizons of the time and Dating pool. Even at forty in less than a decade, i have no interest Dating women late 20s. Classic baby fever.At 37, I'm starting to think about this. I have rarely encountered single moms in my dating sphere over the years. In the Millennial generation, childlessness is quite common. I don't think I'll have too difficult a time in 5 years finding childless 40 year old Millennial women when I'm 42 if I have to date at 42.
I have no interest in a single mom and will continue to date childless women only.
Jlaix buddybe like evil stiffler.
As a single father with a child left at home....I looked for maternal characteristics in an LTR. The childless 30 year olds were either self absorbed or had animals they treated like their children.At 37, I'm starting to think about this. I have rarely encountered single moms in my dating sphere over the years. In the Millennial generation, childlessness is quite common. I don't think I'll have too difficult a time in 5 years finding childless 40 year old Millennial women when I'm 42 if I have to date at 42.
I have no interest in a single mom and will continue to date childless women only.
I have interacted with many never married, childless 30 something women. More than half have pets, which is annoying. I am also allergic to cats. A lot of never married, childless 30 something women don't have appealing personalities either. Even with that said, I still prefer childless women to single moms.As a single father with a child left at home....I looked for maternal characteristics in an LTR. The childless 30 year olds were either self absorbed or had animals they treated like their children.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Aug mate, the hardest part is perspective. You will be staring down the barrel of a loaded shotgun. All your mates are married with kids. You have family cheering you to do the right thing. STAYING POWER is the key. A older Tyler vid he describes the ride. You want off sometimes. Its alienating. Its not the die alone thing but the tribal element that are daunting. From a evolutionary psychology point, it was ideal to follow the herd or die. The herd is to great though individually easily taken out. Following the tribe is safe. In the modern era, it is a death sentence to be a conformist.
-Augustus-
Yes, the world is full of people that want to tell you how to live your life and would love to pass judgement on you.Aug mate, the hardest part is perspective. You will be staring down the barrel of a loaded shotgun. All your mates are married with kids. You have family cheering you to do the right thing. STAYING POWER is the key. A older Tyler vid he describes the ride. You want off sometimes. Its alienating. Its not the die alone thing but the tribal element that are daunting. From a evolutionary psychology point, it was ideal to follow the herd or die. The herd is to great though individually easily taken out. Following the tribe is safe. In the modern era, it is a death sentence to be a conformist.
Its shows character to GYOW. Choose your destiny.Yes, the world is full of people that want to tell you how to live your life and would love to pass judgement on you.
-Augustus
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.