"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Should a man ever seek emotional fulfillment in a woman?

FloggingDavid

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It seems the biggest Don Juan see women as a source of enjoyment and not some goal of life. How does one get to this point?

Thanks everyone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's called "being indifferent." Meaning: it's not that the biggest Don Juan's don't have emotions; it just means they don't let women be the thing that controls them.

Men that are looking to validate their egos will always have their emotional states tied to whether or not women like them. If you live your life that way, you'll never be happy. Women are an emotional rollercoaster, and if you fall into the trap of riding that rollercoaster with them, you'll never be fulfilled. You have to be fulfilled within yourself, knowing that your life will be great regardless of if you have a woman or not. This is why it's important to focus on your own goals and your own happiness. Ironically, by doing this you will become more noticable to women, who will want to enter into your world as a result.
 

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It seems the biggest Don Juan see women as a source of enjoyment and not some goal of life. How does one get to this point?

Thanks everyone.
Really? Did you come out of the womb focused solely on obtaining women? Did you not play with toys or run around with friends? Have you never had goals or problems you like to apply yourself to solving? Did you never have friends who’s company you enjoyed?

I honestly don’t understand how so many men reach a point where life and everything in it is meaningless and unenjoyable without a woman. I guess it’s about the grass being greener and wanting what they don’t have and can’t get. I’ll let you in on a little secret: Women can be fun, but try living with one or being in a relationship with one. It isn’t all raindrops on roses and most will drive you absolutely insane. Not to say it can never be worth it but I just don’t understand why so many men think being with a woman is the thing they need in order to finally be happy.

Get some friends, hobbies, and a career you enjoy. Do some volunteer work that fulfills you. Face and conquer all your fears. Understand that happiness comes from within.

It’s that simple.
 
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