"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some girl I know told me this / More women in society messed up?

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She goes and tells me she feels kinda bad about something. She has a boyfriend who shes been dating for half a year or so and she has a best friend who she really likes. She ended up at her best friends house for a "movie sleepover night" . where there were others but she said that she ended up holding hands with him and cuddling with him, and that it felt nice. She didn't know what to say and didn't even really plan on telling her boyfriend. Her concern was more or less not knowing what to do in terms of leaving her bf and pursuing her friend or not

I felt a bit angered by this notion as I feel really upset when I think about how many people don't care for fidelity and it seems like cheating is so common. I feel like we have rewarded bad behavior for women and nowadays being a slut is almost cool. It's like the cool guys are the ones who are rebels and do bad things or sell drugs or have lots of ladies. and now the cool girls are the girls who are sluts or who know how to play a guys heart while sleeping with his friends or something. Sadly, women rappers like Cardi B and Meghan the Stallion are creating this type of energy. I have a friend who says she feels so empowered by their music, and the girl is like a pretty basic girl who almost lacks any sexual energy which makes it ironic.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm going to highlight in bold the passive voice:

She goes and tells me she feels kinda bad about something. She has a boyfriend who shes been dating for half a year or so and she has a best friend who she really likes. She ended up at her best friends house for a "movie sleepover night" . where there were others but she said that she ended up holding hands with him and cuddling with him, and that it felt nice. She didn't know what to say and didn't even really plan on telling her boyfriend. Her concern was more or less not knowing what to do in terms of leaving her bf and pursuing her friend or not

I felt a bit angered by this notion as I feel really upset when I think about how many people don't care for fidelity and it seems like cheating is so common. I feel like we have rewarded bad behavior for women and nowadays being a slut is almost cool. It's like the cool guys are the ones who are rebels and do bad things or sell drugs or have lots of ladies. and now the cool girls are the girls who are sluts or who know how to play a guys heart while sleeping with his friends or something. Sadly, women rappers like Cardi B and Meghan the Stallion are creating this type of energy. I have a friend who says she feels so empowered by their music, and the girl is like a pretty basic girl who almost lacks any sexual energy which makes it ironic.

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This is typical female behavior. She does whatever she wants based on how she feels in the moment, with no regard for loyalty or morality and no concern for anyone else. Then she uses passive language to talk about it as if it's something that happened to her rather than something that she did.

I wouldn't be upset about it though. More slutty women means more ***** to go round.
 

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I would normally assume they did a lot more than "hold hands" but I wouldnt assume the orbiter is better in bed. Women make a lot of lateral moves, often away from guys that are really good looking and good in bed to guys that have other traits.
Say why was she at this sleepover with her "friend" and not her man? It's because she had a bunch of friend activities she didn't shut down or slow down, where he was part of the group but her man is not. Alot of folks do that chit nowadays.
 

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I would normally assume they did a lot more than "hold hands" but I wouldnt assume the orbiter is better in bed. Women make a lot of lateral moves, often away from guys that are really good looking and good in bed to guys that have other traits.
Im not invested in who is good in bed, especially when OP is neither of these guys, more of an off the wall comment
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Worrying about this type of thing is a complete waste of time and energy, not to mention it will actually sabotage your results with women. Girls will do almost anything as long as you can keep things fun and remove the fear of judgment or negative social repercussions. This isn't because of Cardi B or Meghan the Stallion (or Madonna or Marilyn Monroe or whoever came before). It has always been this way. In the past there might have been more social barriers and mitigating factors, but the nature was the same and those behaviors still found ways to express themselves.

The sooner you accept this, the happier your life will be and the easier it'll be to make reality work for you instead of comparing reality to the way you wish things were.
 

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I'm going to highlight in bold the passive voice:

She goes and tells me she feels kinda bad about something. She has a boyfriend who shes been dating for half a year or so and she has a best friend who she really likes. She ended up at her best friends house for a "movie sleepover night" . where there were others but she said that she ended up holding hands with him and cuddling with him, and that it felt nice. She didn't know what to say and didn't even really plan on telling her boyfriend. Her concern was more or less not knowing what to do in terms of leaving her bf and pursuing her friend or not

I felt a bit angered by this notion as I feel really upset when I think about how many people don't care for fidelity and it seems like cheating is so common. I feel like we have rewarded bad behavior for women and nowadays being a slut is almost cool. It's like the cool guys are the ones who are rebels and do bad things or sell drugs or have lots of ladies. and now the cool girls are the girls who are sluts or who know how to play a guys heart while sleeping with his friends or something. Sadly, women rappers like Cardi B and Meghan the Stallion are creating this type of energy. I have a friend who says she feels so empowered by their music, and the girl is like a pretty basic girl who almost lacks any sexual energy which makes it ironic.

**

This is typical female behavior. She does whatever she wants based on how she feels in the moment, with no regard for loyalty or morality and no concern for anyone else. Then she uses passive language to talk about it as if it's something that happened to her rather than something that she did.

I wouldn't be upset about it though. More slutty women means more ***** to go round.
Couldnt explain better.

Thats the reality... We can choose to face it and live like a free wolf enjoying some casual dates or be fcked up with someone who can mess with your mind and emotions.

Might have some good women out there... Well, I prefer to not take the risk again.
 

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Couldnt explain better.

Thats the reality... We can choose to face it and live like a free wolf enjoying some casual dates or be fcked up with someone who can mess with your mind and emotions.

Might have some good women out there... Well, I prefer to not take the risk again.
You will.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe someday I can take the risk... Nothing in this life is permanent.
Don't know how the 000's got there. One day your confidence and mindset will yield incredible opportunities in the world of women. Until then you'll keep getting better.
 

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Don't know how the 000's got there. One day your confidence and mindset will yield incredible opportunities in the world of women. Until then you'll keep getting better.
You mean like improving my mindset will improve the type women I would meet or attract? Like high value women?
 

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You mean like improving my mindset will improve the type women I would meet or attract? Like high value women?
Yes and standards will keep them. Hi value and extremely attractive women. Keep your family out of your life and keep improving your situation.
 

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Yes and standards will keep them. Hi value and extremely attractive women. Keep your family out of your life and keep improving your situation.
When our standard and self respect is strong enough they take you more seriously and won't play many games because they know you'll let them go.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yes and standards will keep them. Hi value and extremely attractive women. Keep your family out of your life and keep improving your situation.
Thats good man!

Im feeling so good being zero contact with them. Things are starting to get better... Every week finding new clients for my graphic designer freelancer job and women are feeling more attracted to me... How a change on environment and people around can be good for us!
 

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Interesting replies everyone. I do think that while that situation made me a bit angry, we can't and shouldn't let this person be a representation for all women. Though, Id o believe many women may quite possibly be sluts these days as old gender stereotypes and constructed notions might be crumbling. That doesn't however mean that every woman is even capable of being a slut, because not everyone is wired that way.. and many get emotionally too involved to do that.
 

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She goes and tells me she feels kinda bad about something. She has a boyfriend who shes been dating for half a year or so and she has a best friend who she really likes. She ended up at her best friends house for a "movie sleepover night" . where there were others but she said that she ended up holding hands with him and cuddling with him, and that it felt nice. She didn't know what to say and didn't even really plan on telling her boyfriend. Her concern was more or less not knowing what to do in terms of leaving her bf and pursuing her friend or not

I felt a bit angered by this notion as I feel really upset when I think about how many people don't care for fidelity and it seems like cheating is so common. I feel like we have rewarded bad behavior for women and nowadays being a slut is almost cool. It's like the cool guys are the ones who are rebels and do bad things or sell drugs or have lots of ladies. and now the cool girls are the girls who are sluts or who know how to play a guys heart while sleeping with his friends or something. Sadly, women rappers like Cardi B and Meghan the Stallion are creating this type of energy. I have a friend who says she feels so empowered by their music, and the girl is like a pretty basic girl who almost lacks any sexual energy which makes it ironic.
I bumped a point of the Bhagavad Gita.

"out of the corruption of women comes corruption of nations." google.

BARRRRRRRs!

Welcome to clown world.

You being angry is red pill rage. Integrate it. Move on. Learn more game not books. More sets. More volume. I approach more on a Monday night then most fellas have in a lifetime.

After enough sets, you know female nature and you can act accordingly. Monogamy is the oldest con job in the book.

As for the game or trp, most of the dudes are married and to just off the cc post wall pr nearly. Buy m6 **** program and read my nonsensical book. Btw I never approach and got married before MySpace.

You wut mate?

Op, your first mistake is listening to women. If she is talking, who is making you a sandwich?
 

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Interesting replies everyone. I do think that while that situation made me a bit angry, we can't and shouldn't let this person be a representation for all women. Though, Id o believe many women may quite possibly be sluts these days as old gender stereotypes and constructed notions might be crumbling. That doesn't however mean that every woman is even capable of being a slut, because not everyone is wired that way.. and many get emotionally too involved to do that.
It is a representation of all women. Female nature and sloot gonna sloot. You got cliff notes on her crawling back to her cuck bf.

Little did you know, she slipped out from the cliff notes having gone ass to mouth.

This ain't Disney on ****ing ice. Learn to be a mercenary. Its why so many chumps end up divorce raped and married t9 Tyrones booty call. Netflix and chill material. Not play house.
 
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