Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I agree with what you wrote in general but am highly skeptical of this, it actually sounds like what a woman would rationalize. Getting pissed off because a man has a different perspective for spending his own time than pleasing her whim sounds to me as simply entitlement, not naivety.
I hear you but honestly, that's how men think. We are very conscious and logical with our purposes, intents, or even manipulations. Women do everything by feel. That's why they always say "I'm confused....." "I just don't know.....". I think a lot of guys give women too much credit - thinking that they are consciously devising this diabolical strategy of gaining orbiters and blah blah blah. Oh they do it alright, but I think it most cases, it's totally subconscious. But that's my hypothesis based on my experience and observations. It would be a fascinating subject for a psychological study!
Yep I agree that she isn't mentally going through putting him in orbit like a computer script or android, I do think she is behaving subconsciously to some extent. However, I also think she knows she won't grow more attracted to him - and any belief she has to the contrary, as you describe her having, is just a doublethink rationalization to prevent cognitive dissonance over how she treats him. In the end I won't give the benefit of the doubt, fvck that.
Not to mention her saying "Friendzone is just a label YOU put on it". She knows damn-well what the friend-zone means. And it means what she is looking for. When you go from saying you want to date to then "just be friends"....
Yep, OP dodged a radiation poisoning with this one. Truly a toxic person. Again, just reading the nonchalantly entitled and demeaning way she phrases herself makes me feel anger.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.