"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Female matchmaker's rant @ females about their unrealistic standards

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Most women have no need to become a client of a matchmaker. The women that do become matchmaker clients usually fit many of the following descriptions

-33 years old or older
-Careerist. Demanding career paying $90,000/annual or more. You'll see a lot of female doctors and lawyers.
-Overweight
-Few have children. The 30 something women rarely have children. These ones have a roaring bio clock. Many of the 40+ ones have kids and sometimes their kids are 18+.
-They can be either never married or divorced

The most desirable women never make it to a matchmaker. A beta male will settle for a childless, once divorced 35 year old female MD. The alpha males that she would want probably wouldn't interact with her more than a few months of casual sex.

Matchmakers typically have male clients, who are in their 30s or older, and are somewhat beta. This beta male is usually happy if a matchmaker can pair him off with a female who is 2-5 years younger. So if a 40 year old beta male gets an extended relationship out of some 35-39 year old woman, he's probably happy. That's not all that easy for the matchmaker to achieve.

There are a lot of complaints with matchmakers.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Most women have no need to become a client of a matchmaker. The women that do become matchmaker clients usually fit many of the following descriptions

-33 years old or older
-Careerist. Demanding career paying $90,000/annual or more. You'll see a lot of female doctors and lawyers.
-Overweight
-Few have children. The 30 something women rarely have children. These ones have a roaring bio clock. Many of the 40+ ones have kids and sometimes their kids are 18+.
-They can be either never married or divorced

The most desirable women never make it to a matchmaker. A beta male will settle for a childless, once divorced 35 year old female MD. The alpha males that she would want probably wouldn't interact with her more than a few months of casual sex.

Matchmakers typically have male clients, who are in their 30s or older, and are somewhat beta. This beta male is usually happy if a matchmaker can pair him off with a female who is 2-5 years younger. So if a 40 year old beta male gets an extended relationship out of some 35-39 year old woman, he's probably happy. That's not all that easy for the matchmaker to achieve.

There are a lot of complaints with matchmakers.
What gets me is how they say, "Have kids, doesn't want them (or any more)" uh, well, how's that appealing to a dude? I mean I know some dudes that don't mind raising other men's kids, but they're few and far between in my world. Women just show their cards and shoot themselves in the foot by giving that info up front n' center, BUT maybe I'm wrong. Maybe there ARE a boatload of suckers willing to get tied up in a you're-not-my-father-back-talk 24/7 life just in order to get some pvssy/clout (of hey, I'm married and I have a family - to their co-workers/friends/family they want that 'status' or image).
 

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What gets me is how they say, "Have kids, doesn't want them (or any more)" uh, well, how's that appealing to a dude? I mean I know some dudes that don't mind raising other men's kids, but they're few and far between in my world. Women just show their cards and shoot themselves in the foot by giving that info up front n' center, BUT maybe I'm wrong. Maybe there ARE a boatload of suckers willing to get tied up in a you're-not-my-father-back-talk 24/7 life just in order to get some pvssy/clout (of hey, I'm married and I have a family - to their co-workers/friends/family they want that 'status' or image).
Never underestimating the simping that exists. Betas will go to big lengths for scraps of pusssy.

In my 30s, it is no more difficult for me to date a childless woman than it was for me in my 20s. If I am single in my 40s, I will be dating only childless women.
 
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