"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how to handle a shy/anxious girl?

Crimson

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Girl I've know for a bit is quite shy although she was showing quite a bit of interest when we first met. She doesn't show as much interest now, probably because I never made a move or made it clear I was interested.
Is it better to be direct with a girl who's shy instead of the usual 'play it cool', teasing, flirty sort of game I usually try to use?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think you should go for the long run. it's risky because you might lose your time with someone who's not interested in you but you won't scare/shock her instantly
 

Crimson

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I think you should go for the long run. it's risky because you might lose your time with someone who's not interested in you but you won't scare/shock her instantly
Yeah that's the main worry, just wasting time. I suppose there's no rush so just take it slow but keep trying to escalate with her.
 
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