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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Attachment Theory
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
TBLA Together but Living Apart
my ex asked the red pill question: what do you have to offer?
I answered one word: submissiveness
He didn't understand. So I further explained... 'you know, homemaking, cooking cleaning, always being available, serving you, you make all decisions...on and on....'
lol.
he wasn't interested. lol.
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Yes I was reading up on the same and it helped me realize some things I was doing wrong with my ex who was a fearful(anxious) avoidant.
It also helps you determine what style your partner or woman you are dating has and how to reach her better and to make your life easier with things to avoid.
And if you are really self analyzing you can determine your own attachment style.
It also helps you determine what style your partner or woman you are dating has and how to reach her better and to make your life easier with things to avoid.
And if you are really self analyzing you can determine your own attachment style.
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Sometimes a man gets tired of making all the decisions, especially if it gets to the point of having to make the mundane basic ones over and over again...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
actually, he said something similar. omg
So guess what happened next?
Or it was already happening....
My screening/vetting got more and more focused until I realised he can't play his role. He's not a natural fit for me.
This is terribly sad.
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Master Don Juan
Whenever I hear a guy deny something like this or that he doesn’t want this type of arrangement, I always question his sexuality...