jnMissouri
Master Don Juan
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So we went a week without talking recently. I put my foot down about her "situation" and she wanted to talk about it in person (last time she did this 4 months ago, we ended up moving forward with things despite that not being her intention of the meeting, she was trying to back track).
Anyways, I asked her if it was going to be more of the same if we meet up. She didn't respond. We went a week without talking. A week later she texts me good morning like she did every day prior to this as if nothing ever happened. Starts to push to meet up. We met up, made out, fooled around etc. until she had to go home. We talked about things and she was like look I'm only staying for the kids, I can't leave like this right now. She was like here is my phone (an indicator of interest/trying to salvage things IMO) look I'm not talking to anyone else and if I was not tied down with him I'd already have left him for you (this is NOT your typical girl. She is in an arranged marriage and deeply religious/no sex before marriage type. She was a virgin before getting married to this guy 13 years ago. She had never even french kissed anyone until me. In her religion and culture, it's very taboo to split and in her family nobody get's divorced and parents essentially disown them if they do per their culture).
I pushed more and she was like yeah, I need to make a decision, you're right. I was like yeah, you grill me about whether I'm out with other women yet you sleep in bed with another man every night. She said But look he knows and he hasn't said anything, I'm waiting for him to file but he hasn't. Mind you he calls her twice while we are hanging out, I'm pretty sure to check up on her (her phone is GPS tracked via an app the entire family has due to her mother in law getting lost all the time), which she claims is not the case because he doesn't do stuff like that, he is very passive. You could tell she was trying to get him off the phone as quickly as possible.
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She also noted that she was disappointed I didn't reach out to her during the week we didn't talk. I was like, what was I going to say, hey, haven't heard from you, what's going on? She said, yeah, that would have been good.....
So she went home and did not text me that night like she usually does. I initiate conversation the next morning. We text back and forth and I end the conversation first. I text her Saturday morning and she responds back but I didn't read her messages for a while and I didn't respond (they were comments not questions). Sunday we talk again and she ended the conversation first. No good mornings or good nights, just like the week we didn't talk.
So the question: is she waiting for me to reach out again like she did last time and why? Is this the rare exception it's OK to text? Or wait for her to reach out again despite her saying she was disappointed I didn't reach out. We didn't exactly have a break up and she said she was disappointed I didn't text her during the week we didn't talk and that she had to reach out. And this isn't some girl I haven't been on a date with, she and I have exchanged I love you's.
Anyways, I asked her if it was going to be more of the same if we meet up. She didn't respond. We went a week without talking. A week later she texts me good morning like she did every day prior to this as if nothing ever happened. Starts to push to meet up. We met up, made out, fooled around etc. until she had to go home. We talked about things and she was like look I'm only staying for the kids, I can't leave like this right now. She was like here is my phone (an indicator of interest/trying to salvage things IMO) look I'm not talking to anyone else and if I was not tied down with him I'd already have left him for you (this is NOT your typical girl. She is in an arranged marriage and deeply religious/no sex before marriage type. She was a virgin before getting married to this guy 13 years ago. She had never even french kissed anyone until me. In her religion and culture, it's very taboo to split and in her family nobody get's divorced and parents essentially disown them if they do per their culture).
I pushed more and she was like yeah, I need to make a decision, you're right. I was like yeah, you grill me about whether I'm out with other women yet you sleep in bed with another man every night. She said But look he knows and he hasn't said anything, I'm waiting for him to file but he hasn't. Mind you he calls her twice while we are hanging out, I'm pretty sure to check up on her (her phone is GPS tracked via an app the entire family has due to her mother in law getting lost all the time), which she claims is not the case because he doesn't do stuff like that, he is very passive. You could tell she was trying to get him off the phone as quickly as possible.
tl;dr:
She also noted that she was disappointed I didn't reach out to her during the week we didn't talk. I was like, what was I going to say, hey, haven't heard from you, what's going on? She said, yeah, that would have been good.....
So she went home and did not text me that night like she usually does. I initiate conversation the next morning. We text back and forth and I end the conversation first. I text her Saturday morning and she responds back but I didn't read her messages for a while and I didn't respond (they were comments not questions). Sunday we talk again and she ended the conversation first. No good mornings or good nights, just like the week we didn't talk.
So the question: is she waiting for me to reach out again like she did last time and why? Is this the rare exception it's OK to text? Or wait for her to reach out again despite her saying she was disappointed I didn't reach out. We didn't exactly have a break up and she said she was disappointed I didn't text her during the week we didn't talk and that she had to reach out. And this isn't some girl I haven't been on a date with, she and I have exchanged I love you's.
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