"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Talking to introvert girl

FruitLoops

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I have recently started talking to a girl in my school. She is not in my class. So i have only been able to chat on fb and met her once in school. The problem is that when i talk to her, she simply makes the chat look like an interview. She would simply answer my question and then nothing. If i try to continue the conversation ( i am not very expert at it), she would simply reply with one or two words.
I dont understand if she is playing hard to get or is she just and introvert.
This is the second time i chatted with her today and i simply ended the chat soon. I got frustrated.
I must state here that the girl is from India, here in canada. She certainly looks introvert and into her culture.
How do you get a girl to open up?
In this case, i cant even talk to her properly, asking her out is a far fetched reality.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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AttackFormation

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I would just say exactly what it is you're thinking to her.

"By the way you seem a bit reserved, do I look like disguised satan or something?! or are you just usually shy with new people?"

You'll probably know by her response whether she is interested in you or not, as something like that should get her to open up a little with a small smile and blush & staying in your presence if she is shy but likes you. If she just gives a disinterested response to that and has avoidant body language like she wants to get away, then I would move on to more productive prospects.

If she gives a positive response, then try teasing her a little physically, like challenging her to look into each other's eyes for time and then smiling & laughing and tapping her when she succumbs, teasing her that she can't look at you.
 
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Oh yeah, and of course that would only apply for real life interactions which is where I would advise you to talk to her the next time even if you don't see her that much. I would forget the facebook chat until you have broken the ice irl, it's harder to break the ice online and you risk appearing like just another online orbiter.
 

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Should i ask her this when i see her in person? Or is this ok asking her over chat?
Yea ask her when you see her in person, that's what I would recommend. Texting is a dehumanized form of communication, especially when you are competing with her 10s of other orbiters who are also texting her but not talking to her irl.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have recently started talking to a girl in my school. She is not in my class. So i have only been able to chat on fb and met her once in school. The problem is that when i talk to her, she simply makes the chat look like an interview. She would simply answer my question and then nothing. If i try to continue the conversation ( i am not very expert at it), she would simply reply with one or two words.
I dont understand if she is playing hard to get or is she just and introvert.
This is the second time i chatted with her today and i simply ended the chat soon. I got frustrated.
I must state here that the girl is from India, here in canada. She certainly looks introvert and into her culture.
How do you get a girl to open up?
In this case, i cant even talk to her properly, asking her out is a far fetched reality.
have you been asking questions you're genuinely interested in getting answers to? or are they fluff questions to pass the time? your questions should get her thinking and give you material to go off of. and don't be afraid to playfully assume something about her(it pushes her to correct you and start engaging more). i agree with @AttackFormation , ideally all communication happens in person. chat can be misunderstood and should only be used for logistics. chat comes into play later once a vibe is established. she's sounds super cold so i'd rather catch up with her in person and warm her up a bit before offering a date. maybe offer something super casual like a study session, then if she's receptive and playful at that study session ask her on a date.
 
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