And you will find your paradigm shifts immensely. Lots of guys have a chip on their shoulder on some incel chit when it comes to women...having a negative outlook towards them will yield you negative results. Viewing women as a walking fleshlight is as bad as women who view men as a walking atm/wallet.
"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
Stop lking at females as purely sexual beings
- Thread starter Julian
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RickTheToad
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What do you look at them for? Friendship? As bad as it sounds, ladies are here for two things, companionship and breeding. Dudes, in theory, are here for supporting and providing for their family and/or offspring. Come on @Julian, you're better than just friends with a lady.
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Newsflash- Women use men for ways that benefit them.
I use women for ways that benefit ME.
Go ahead and try to use women for ways that benefit THEM and let me know how that works out for you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
How are you avoiding the dark triad female or any other who wants to just get in your business or raise her status by effing with you?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Please tell me what else they are good for except sex and helping you raise happy children. They are good for nurturing and sex. They are happiest in those two roles.
Be friends with women. Just friends. Bend over backwards and do all sorts of favors for them, while expecting nothing in return. Don’t ever expect sex from any woman, remember, just friends.
try this and see what your results are and get back to me lol
try this and see what your results are and get back to me lol
zekko
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Results are he'd probably end up with a lot of female friends. But law of averages says one of them would probably crush on him.
I get your point, but if he's really "expecting nothing in return", he doesn't fit the community's definition of a Nice Guy.
Even if the guy was a genuinely decent person and one that is willing to help out someone in need, compared to the textbook definition of a “nice guy” he’s still being taken advantage of. Women might act aloof about taking advantage of a genuinely good guy with no other intentions, but from the outside looking in I see exactly what’s going on.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Sex drive will be lost. Masculine swagger reduced over time. They doormat those types intime dont appreciate shyt. I hope you charge them $$$ for help.
I tend to agree that a lack of sexual energy with a woman is an indicator you shouldn't be spending much other energy on her either. Doesn't mean women are only good for sex or that you shouldn't treat them with respect however.
RickTheToad
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True. At one time, they used to raise a family, cook, clean, and stand by their dude. Now? Kids go to daycare @ 800 bucks a week, either the dude cooks (no issues with that) or she orders take out / uber eats, cleaning is done by an outside firm (or not at all), and many will abandon ship when times get tough.
Good stuff.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Sexual energy, appreciation and respect. A man needs to be aware of all of these factors when dealing with women and people in general. It's not to say that women can't be great comrades and boost your life in other ways other than sex, but you must be aware of how that interaction is COSTING you. But it is TRUE. A man who gets all of his female attention from 10 close female "friends" whom he bathes in NON SEXUAL attention from all 10, he will not be sexually attractive to anyone, since his friends fed him a diet of non sexual energy.
The positive side of this is if your 10 friends all find you sexually attractive, your sexual masculine swagger will be amplified, and in the presence of other women many will strangely find themselves also sexually attracted to you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
And if he goes along with it, his energy will be adjusted to more of a non-sexual and helpful vibe. She will find her self always drawn to men other than him, most who would never agree to be that helpful to her.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That’s a great observation about sexual energy. While it may seem harmless to keep around women friends, what you’re doing that you may not be aware of, is allowing them to project all their non sexual energy and non sexual attention on to you. You may not see the negative effects right away but they will read their ugly head in time and you will have a lot to undo. Not to mention the time you’re wasting with these 10 ladies that you could be spending with 10 ladies that want to project sexual energy and attention on to you. They can’t do that while those other 10 are hanging around taking up all your time, resources, attention and getting your best effort.
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I call a spade a spade man, if she's worth it she gets more.