"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Holiday season. Here we go

John9999

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Another holiday season, I’ll be alone again, then my birthday in January. This is the worst time of the year to be single. Yeah yeah, I know, focus on myself, my business, workout, All of which I’ll do.

anyone else feel like this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Black Widow Void

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I'd caution against concluding dismal outcomes before they actually arrive. The more you believe that things will turn out undesirably, the more likely they will.

To answer your question, I've been in this club off and on for many years (Birthday is also the same month as Christmas) . I never mention this in public because I don't want pity or some pity invite (which includes Thanksgiving) . I always lie and tell my friends some made up story ... because I don't want to take away from their enjoyment.

Fact is, the older we get, the more likely that we lose older close family members. And... those around our age have their own family dynamic.

The way I see it, I can afford a Chinese meal on Thanksgiving. Some people aren't that lucky. I have also had pleasant holidays in my past. Others also may have not been so lucky.
 

Billtx49

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Another holiday season, I’ll be alone again, then my birthday in January. This is the worst time of the year to be single. Yeah yeah, I know, focus on myself, my business, workout, All of which I’ll do.

anyone else feel like this?
Your future is the direct result of the opportunities you make or take advantage of…
 

John9999

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I'd caution against concluding dismal outcomes before they actually arrive. The more you believe that things will turn out undesirably, the more likely they will.

To answer your question, I've been in this club off and on for many years (Birthday is also the same month as Christmas) . I never mention this in public because I don't want pity or some pity invite (which includes Thanksgiving) . I always lie and tell my friends some made up story ... because I don't want to take away from their enjoyment.

Fact is, the older we get, the more likely that we lose older close family members. And... those around our age have their own family dynamic.

The way I see it, I can afford a Chinese meal on Thanksgiving. Some people aren't that lucky. I have also had pleasant holidays in my past. Others also may have not been so lucky.
Yes good point. I’ll be with my kids on thanksgiving for lunch. So that’s awesome
 
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