"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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Even I'm puzzled, why would an old ex reach out from nearly a year ago??

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Interesting situation. I've posted before, and even I am perplexed a bit. Dated for several months, I went into the hospital for kidney stones, she basically went on vacation and I ended it. She reached out wishing me a happy birthday a few months ago, never responded. She just texted me a few hours ago wishing me well. I know for a fact she's seeing another dude. They're going to a wedding together for her sister in Florida. Yea, she hotter than the current two I am seeing, but I just cannot get over the fact the way she acted when I was in the hospital and surgery. I knew she'd reach out on my BD, but now, very strange.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Why? You could probably come up with 1,000,001 reasons and you still probably wouldn’t guess it. In my experience the chicks I dated that I didn’t think had much interest in me, they were the ones to reach out months to years later. The ones I thought would reach out I never heard from again.
 
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Robert28 said:
Why? You could probably come up with 1,000,001 reasons and you still probably wouldn’t guess it. In my experience the chicks I dated that I didn’t think had much interest in me, they were the ones to reach out months to years later. The ones I thought would reach out I never heard from again.
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If I didn't respond prior, why would I respond now? I was going to say I'm well, hope the same for you. But I am concerned that would open up a pandoras box. After her actions, I have zero trust in her. The only thing she has is her looks.. I think she's still shocked that I walked away. Not sure.
 
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RickTheToad said:
If I didn't respond prior, why would I respond now? I was going to say I'm well, hope the same for you. But I am concerned that would open up a pandoras box. After her actions, I have zero trust in her. The only thing she has is her looks.. I think she's still shocked that I walked away. Not sure.
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I remember your thread about her, she is far from gfmaterial.

Things with new bf are not going to well.and she is i need of a back up plan.
Or the fact that you ended things with her,, had an effect on her self esteem. She is probably not used to being dump.

Either way stay far away imo
 
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RickTheToad said:
If I didn't respond prior, why would I respond now? I was going to say I'm well, hope the same for you. But I am concerned that would open up a pandoras box. After her actions, I have zero trust in her. The only thing she has is her looks.. I think she's still shocked that I walked away. Not sure.
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I’m honestly so bad with keeping numbers straight that I probably wouldn’t recognize an ex’s number if they text me out of the blue. A few are blocked but the rest are all deleted and I probably wouldn’t be able to guess who it was unless they told me their name.lol

You’ll drive yourself crazy wondering why she’s reaching out. She probably didn’t even know why, could be bored or could be looking to branch back to you. Could be wanting you to help her move.lol
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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lamath said:
I remember your thread about her, she is far from gfmaterial.

Things with new bf are not going to well.and she is i need of a back up plan.
Or the fact that you ended things with her,, had an effect on her self esteem. She is probably not used to being dump.

Either way stay far away imo
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I’m honestly so bad with keeping numbers straight that I probably wouldn’t recognize an ex’s number if they text me out of the blue. A few are blocked but the rest are all deleted and I probably wouldn’t be able to guess who it was unless they told me their name.lol

You’ll drive yourself crazy wondering why she’s reaching out. She probably didn’t even know why, could be bored or could be looking to branch back to you. Could be wanting you to help her move.lol
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I cannot break my rule of taking the trash back in. Yes, that experience.. It was unreal. I was just curious In her actions.. I’ve had ladies reach out, but I do not respond and they move on. This is the second time. Strange. I told her have a good life. Her response, you too. If you want to reach out, I’m here. I even said, not a chance. Her response, well, if you do, I’m here.

Bewildered to say the least...
 
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I cannot break my rule of taking the trash back in. Yes, that experience.. It was unreal. I was just curious In her actions.. I’ve had ladies reach out, but I do not respond and they move on. This is the second time. Strange. I told her have a good life. Her response, you too. If you want to reach out, I’m here. I even said, not a chance. Her response, well, if you do, I’m here.

Bewildered to say the least...
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Women don’t take rejection lightly like men do. She’s not used to guys walking away from her, specially if she’s good looking. So therefor she’s either trying to get even with you on that matter, or the other things the guys mentioned here
 
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