dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
Or do you just wait for her to tell you when she broke up with her last bf and why? Looking at the rebound thread seems like something you should find out before getting too involved
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When should you ask about previous relationships?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
In2theGame
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If there's something you want to know, I would just go ahead and straight up ask her.
Kotaix
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That's a two way street, you ask and you open it up for you to answer the same questions. Overall, telling women about your past is a bad idea. Don't operate in the past, be in the here and now and make up your own mind.
I personally never ask, why would you need to know this? How this information servers your needs?
If you are a rebound, is it a bad thing?
Usually women bring up those questions to try to get more information about your value and test you a bit.
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Never ask. She will being it up if she's interested in a relationship.
Why are you being beta and worried about it? Just bang her, wash, rinse and repeat.
Stop worrying about everything else. That's her job to worry.
Why are you being beta and worried about it? Just bang her, wash, rinse and repeat.
Stop worrying about everything else. That's her job to worry.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's how i'm used to this situation. They always come up with this by their own. Lay back and wait.
dk1990S111
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Not really worried about it, was just curious how guys here handle it. Rebound thread is a good example of investing time in someone and it’s a waste. Ya fine to just bang em for a while but also good to know where she’s at (couple months single after a 4 year relationship or something) before agreeing to an LTR.
dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
I’ll have to do some reading. Met this chick that is the first in a while that seems too good to be true. Probably just a matter of time but so far she has been great, everything we talk about here she passes. Best of all she was born in Russia so by far the most feminine woman I’ve ever dated
rule is never to even care, even less ask, plus what make you think she will not paint her ex as a bad guy? actually bringing that up would be a red flag, why should she even care?
so asking about her ex would not be helpfull
so asking about her ex would not be helpfull
Why?
It’s always his fault for not meeting her emotional / financial / mental / physical needs.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
Asking "Why are you single" just seems weak, beta, and supplicating to me. Like you're so enamored with her you just cannot believe she's available.
I NEVER ask that or anything like it. Frankly it makes no difference to me and I really DGAF.
Once I get to know a girl, occasionally, I'll ask how long their longest relationship was. I've found this can be a good early indicator of FWB vs possible GF status.
I NEVER ask that or anything like it. Frankly it makes no difference to me and I really DGAF.
Once I get to know a girl, occasionally, I'll ask how long their longest relationship was. I've found this can be a good early indicator of FWB vs possible GF status.