"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Keeping the connection

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After you guys bang a chick a few times and she starts to get attached, do you continue being the aloof ******* spinning other plates and only using her for sex? I have one plate I am interested in for a possible relationship but don’t want to stop going out with other women. She is starting to get attached to me, what is the best way to play this?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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After you guys bang a chick a few times and she starts to get attached, do you continue being the aloof ******* spinning other plates and only using her for sex? I have one plate I am interested in for a possible relationship but don’t want to stop going out with other women. She is starting to get attached to me, what is the best way to play this?
Still see her but make it less often. Don’t have a schedule.
 

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Tell her that before she started to resent you..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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By asking how to play this you already lost the “game.” You pedestal her such a degree where you need to win her, where she, not you, becomes the sovereignty of your thoughts.

Does a King contemplate how to win his subject or does the subject have the onus to win the King’s good favor?

Change your vantage point and your need to create all these threads about specific women will no longer be.
 

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By asking how to play this you already lost the “game.” You pedestal her such a degree where you need to win her, where she, not you, becomes the sovereignty of your thoughts.

Does a King contemplate how to win his subject or does the subject have the onus to win the King’s good favor?

Change your vantage point and your need to create all these threads about specific women will no longer be.
You obviously didn’t read my post. I ****ed this chick already, and took off to Italy. She’s already telling me she has feelings for me. And is nervous about be banging other chicks. There is nothing left to be “won” lol

I am just at the age where I am tired of playing the field. I need to become more of a nice guy and settle down, my player days are over and dating 3-4 girls at once is just too expensive when you live in Los Angeles
 

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You obviously didn’t read my post. I ****ed this chick already, and took off to Italy. She’s already telling me she has feelings for me. And is nervous about be banging other chicks. There is nothing left to be “won” lol

I am just at the age where I am tired of playing the field. I need to become more of a nice guy and settle down, my player days are over and dating 3-4 girls at once is just too expensive when you live in Los Angeles
You asked what is the best way to play this? I answered but you didn’t soak it in. You’re caught up in the words and lose the meat.

Act within your sovereignty and you will answer your own question. No poster can give you a better answer than yourself in your superlative mindset.

I rather build your best mindset, not provide a bandaid. What does your sovereignty say is the best way to play this?

Mine speaks to me as follows: “she has to earn your exclusivity by proving to YOU that she is the best contender of the bunch. Give her the room to win that right.”
 
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