"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Logistics: Clean Apartment

TechnoScotch

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So I am constantly running into a logistics issue, and wonder how others have dealt with it.

I work. A lot. I have other family obligations I simply can't shirk. So I have very little energy left to keep my apartment clean.
It's not completely terrible - no piles of trash or anything like that, but things like:
  • Carpet stains
  • Grime between tiles
  • Dust on shelves
  • Kitchen dirty from cooking
I simply can't keep up with it. So I am often hesitant to bring women to my place. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Spaz

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A man's house should be clean - always.

Make it a habit to clean as you go, so that it doesn't seem like a monumental task that cleaning at one go does.

Meaning, after eating dinner wash ur own dishes, making up ur bed when you wake up in the morning, etc.

Learn how to be disciplined.

And as for the rest, I hire a part time maid that comes over every Monday.

That's how I maintain my residence.
 

Bokanovsky

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So I am constantly running into a logistics issue, and wonder how others have dealt with it.

I work. A lot. I have other family obligations I simply can't shirk. So I have very little energy left to keep my apartment clean.
It's not completely terrible - no piles of trash or anything like that, but things like:
  • Carpet stains
  • Grime between tiles
  • Dust on shelves
  • Kitchen dirty from cooking
I simply can't keep up with it. So I am often hesitant to bring women to my place. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Like others have said, hire a cleaner. It's not that expensive, especially if you live in an apartment as opposed to a large house.
 

backseatjuan

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How would a kitchen be dirty? It's only dirty because you're not cleaning after yourself. Same with other places around your apartment. What you need is a general cleaning day. Dedicate a free day to clean your place. Buy chlorine and clean everything.
Once you clean it, you can clean again, less actively in a month.
Kitchen you'll be cleaning after each time you use it.
Bathroom every week or twice a week.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bible_Belt

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...or, be 100% non-hesitant about inviting them over, dirty kitchen and carpet stains nothwithstanding. Don't aplogize or even mention it when you bring them over. This is you...take it or leave it. Which at least proves that you are ballsy enough to un-impress them.
Warning: this technique will make women view you as being not relationship material and only good for cheap, casual sex.
 
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