"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Restarting a convo when you see shes back on dating app a few months later?

dk1990S111

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Was messaging this gorgeous girl for 3-4 days about 2 months ago before she ghosted. I did try to get her out on a date right away but both of our work schedules were crazy at that time. Whatever, have two other plates right now so no big deal. Just saw she logged back on for the first time since. Might have been an accident so I'm waiting to see if shes on again in the next few days. If so, how do you guys start things back up?

Small town with not many options so worth taking another shot at it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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marmel75

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You dont have many options. She has tons of options. How do you think this is going to work out for you?
 

RickTheToad

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Was messaging this gorgeous girl for 3-4 days about 2 months ago before she ghosted. I did try to get her out on a date right away but both of our work schedules were crazy at that time. Whatever, have two other plates right now so no big deal. Just saw she logged back on for the first time since. Might have been an accident so I'm waiting to see if shes on again in the next few days. If so, how do you guys start things back up?

Small town with not many options so worth taking another shot at it.

@marmel75 is correct. If she reaches out to you, maybe entertain it, but chances are that will not happen. It's best to move on to greener pastures. How are are you from a major city?
 

backseatjuan

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@dk1990S111
You will not understand the dynamics of OLD until you create fake HB8 profile and start speaking with men. Most convos go like this, literally - hi, you have hot photos, how are you, let's meet.

Absolutely no one flirts with a girl, nor even knows how to.

Go ahead and give a go with fake profile, you won't be disappointed.

So anyway, waiting for her to reply is wrong. Does she have a lot of options, yes, a lot of boring options she does have. Plenty of men who want to meet right away as well, except they are all boring.

What you do is write her a flirty message saying hello. You look like the kind of girl I would have got detention in middle school just to hang out with. Haha hi :) Probably gonna be a reply something like hi. You follow it up with SOI, I have waaay to many friends, but you sound like someone special. Then get her number and give her a call, keep conversation 10 to 15 minutes, let her talk, flirt. Setup an evening date.
 

matteo-d

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Just send any random message to say hi, the most important is to calibrate to how she responds

If she responds warmly with tons of words, that's good,
but if she responds very cold or wait ages before answering, do the same, never give her more attention than she gives in the beginning, then increase slowly the amount of attention you give her (longer messages, more direct questions about her, etc.) and see if she follows.

Seduction is always about meeting her where she's at, and then moving toward what you want with her. Some guys miscalibrate and begin too strong, and some are too shy and never pass second gear. just begin with a random conversation and calibrate if she is very engaged or not at all.

And if she really doesn't make any effort to answer, then move on. Living in a small town is not an excuse to devaluate yourself and bring down your own value.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Medina

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I've been in this situation before = disaster

If she had any interest in you she would get in touch, believe me

She's logged back in to see if there is anything "new" around
 
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