Is ignoring or not showing care for your targeted girl a kind of pseudo tactic of attracting her?

[Pajeet Singh]

So ignoring, negging and showing less care for the targeted girl is seem to be a standard technique followed by us. Does it work? Sometimes it does. Sometimes the girl just backfire and stop caring herself. You can apply this to random chick and immediately see the effect. But what is you have a crush/targeted girl. Now don't say you should never go into onetis path, because it is just you want something and are ready to do anything to achieve it. A person wanting a Lambho will work hard to save money to get it and this obsession is not bad if he is 100% dedicated. Nothing bad in chasing your dream. It is just that don't make it too obvious. Because Lambho won't run away by itself but a girl can. Anyway, Can someone give clear explanation of ignoring technique specifically if applied to a girl of your dream.
On the very extreme left of ignoring, someone else would get her before you. On the very extreme right of caring she will run away. Time is important. How do you transition from a perfect ignoring period to actually making her follow your lead?

 

[Robert28]

From my experience the women you have to act like that towards and play all those games, are damaged women mentally and emotionally.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

From my experience the women you have to act like that towards and play all those games, are damaged women mentally and emotionally.

They know who they want so you don't need to use all this time trying to convince them. So ignoring could mean your focused on your purpose and other things.

A woman gave me an example where she had a mans company for many years but never got turned on until a situation caused her to see him in a different light.

He had to assert himself in a calm but assertive way. And it caused her to see his power. She was turned on from that day forward.

 

[Mike32ct]

Women have a lot of options today. Ignoring may be much less effective in 2019.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You’re already invested this trying to ignore her means you care which means you lose. Focus on your life and passions and actually DONT care because you have a world to conquer. Don’t fake it till you make it. Simply make it

"Trying" to ignore means your not in the moment in your own life. You giving her too much thought. It means your in a bad and possibly worsening position.

 

[lamath]

I think ignoring is a very bad strategy. Never worked for me.

When talking with a women imo you should have no expectation and a no big deal attitude, showing too much investment/care is a bad strategy.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I think ignoring is a very bad strategy. Never worked for me.

When talking with a women imo you should have no expectation and a no big deal attitude, showing too much investment/care is a bad strategy.

Yea but what do you do if you find yourself wondering too much about her? I say it means you need to be getting some shyt done or having fun. She should be worried about you and trying to get at you.

 

[lamath]

Yea but what do you do if you find yourself wondering too much about her? I say it means you need to be getting some shyt done or having fun. She should be worried about you and trying to get at you.

I agree need to focus on shyt that need to be done and never invest too much in someone you just met.

 

[Robert28]

I agree need to focus on shyt that need to be done and never invest too much in someone you just met.

90% of the time this doesn’t happen to me. But that other 10% it does and I can’t figure out why. Once I start finding myself becoming way over invested it’s hard to turn off before I start making mistakes.

 

[sosousage]

yes

 

[MadMan]

Oh shhit, this thread reminded me that I just gave a woman a compliment today and lost frame control, and cannot speak to her again now. I feel like a CHUMP. Gonna go lift weights and remind myself not to be average. The path to ALPHA continues.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Oh shhit, this thread reminded me that I just gave a woman a compliment today and lost frame control, and cannot speak to her again now. I feel like a CHUMP. Gonna go lift weights and remind myself not to be average. The path to ALPHA continues.

Always have at least one dead steady and reliable source od puzzy. It may be a gf or fwb thats into you. It makes the game much easier.

 

[chronos]

So ignoring, negging and showing less care for the targeted girl is seem to be a standard technique followed by us. Does it work? Sometimes it does. Sometimes the girl just backfire and stop caring herself. You can apply this to random chick and immediately see the effect. But what is you have a crush/targeted girl. Now don't say you should never go into onetis path, because it is just you want something and are ready to do anything to achieve it. A person wanting a Lambho will work hard to save money to get it and this obsession is not bad if he is 100% dedicated. Nothing bad in chasing your dream. It is just that don't make it too obvious. Because Lambho won't run away by itself but a girl can. Anyway, Can someone give clear explanation of ignoring technique specifically if applied to a girl of your dream.
On the very extreme left of ignoring, someone else would get her before you. On the very extreme right of caring she will run away. Time is important. How do you transition from a perfect ignoring period to actually making her follow your lead?

I was having the same questions. Tried it on this one girl who was a boss basically then she ghosted me. I was kinda confused. I saw her again like at the coffee shop we met at and she said she wasn't a "pick me *****" I agree with the second poster.

 

[touma.akagi]

It's not always that "not showing care" is attractive - it's that too much (almost always) looks needy. And neediness is beta behavior.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Attraction cannot be created, no amount of tricks will.

If she likes you she will make it easier for you, if she doesnt like you she wont even notice that you are ignoring her.

Ignoring a girl to create attraction is like pretending that you dont wanna eat in a restaurant wheter you have or dont have the necessary money, in the first case you are not eating a meal you like while in the second it wont make any difference to the owner.

 

[Dash Riprock]

I don't think ignoring builds attraction, especially if it's someone you're not actually dating. Kind of lame.

Balance is the key to the universe and life. So a winning formula would be:

1) Ask her out but in an assertive way, "I'm going to hike X trail on Saturday, would you like to join me?"
2) Show her a GREAT time on the date (communicative, interesting, witty, a leader and planner)
3) Call her up in 3-4 days with another date idea--preferably something unique and active
4) Show her a GREAT time again (lead, plan, be prepared)
5) Repeat this pattern
6) See her once a week for at least 4-6 weeks, very limited or no (my preference) "check-in" texts between dates. Answer if she preemptively contacts you.

Get good at this and you won't have to play "ignoring" games.

Be assertive, confident, and interesting (95% of all guys are boring as f*uck). Learn to be a good conversationalist. I bet fewer than 1% of all guys can seriously claim all four of the bolded traits--these are the cornerstones . Have a life outside of women. Women should be the small dollop of mashed potatoes on your huge Thanksgiving dinner plate--NOT the main course.

 

[Robert28]

Definitely ignore if they throw “let’s be friends” or stick you in the friend zone after you’ve been seeing them. Not that it’ll build attraction but for damn sure don’t text then first after that.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Women have a lot of options today. Ignoring may be much less effective in 2019.

I agree, but it Works, if you have Time. I tend to see the same women over months, if not Years. I grow on them, but all the while ignore them and their interest. I have observed especially females today under 30 go through more "boyfriends" (I'm talkin live-in boyfriends) than you can shake a stick at. But once she's realized that I ABSOLUTELY WILL NOT have anything to do with her, then she'll Leave my presence forever. She'll move to another state even, never to be seen again. And the "my boyfriend" really gets old, cause I know it's not the "my boyfriend" that she said "my boyfriend" about the last time or a few weeks or months ago.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I believe in kino, and if it's her birthday, I'll say, "Birthday hug!" and get her to come over and I'll give her a very loving hug, like kindred spirit hug, and she will remember it.

 

[Mike32ct]

For me, the only time I feel like it is effective is when I do not care that I'm ignoring them.

Yeah I could see that angle.

I honestly never scored from ignoring a chick.

However, I ignore-hore (or reverse attention- hore) women who friendzone me. She might be hot, and I still want her attention for social proof when other women are around (and get continued practice talking to attractive women). So I’ll ignore her selectively. Then she will initiate the conversations with me and act all friendly lol. It’s just a game, but I play that a lot.