Not sure how to play this

[The_beard]

So on Saturday I went on a tinder date with a girl. Let's call her Girl 1.

After a while some mutual friends of ours came in and we started drinking with them and it quickly wasn't a date.

I'd never met a girl in the group, call her Girl 2.

After a while we all started talking about dating and blah blah. After a little while girl 2 and I were alone talking whilst the others were out smoking. We were talking about relationships and the fact we're the older ones there etc.

'I just want to find a good guy who cares enough to put some effort in'.

So after a bit, they all return and it's my turn to hit the bar and go smoke. Girl 2 follows me to the bar and asks if i have any intention of doing anything wirh girl 1. I reply 'no, she's not my type'.

'Well I think you're such a good guy. Just a genuine good guy'. And writes her number down. She then tells me she's into someone but doesn't see it going anywhere so I should text her. Then she follows me everywhere for the rest of the night.

Text her in the morning and she was making conversation when I didn't leave it open ended at all. As soon as I mentioned getting a drink she went quiet.

Saw her in a bar last night and she did come speak to me in the smoking area, But I cut it short to go back to my buddy.

Should I try to pursue it? If So, how should I do It?

 

[backseatjuan]

Try gril 3 from tinder and fck her. Date suppose to be about two people, no buddies or anything like that, if they come around, you change venues. You can hit girl 2 up in several weeks see if she's down for a drink.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

I'll translate her for you, "Hey, you seem really nice. I'm dating someone now who I'm really into but he isn't as into me as I am to him. I'm looking for nice guys who can help me feel validated, in attempt to recover from the rejection I feel with this guy I really want, and I'd also like to have you on the back burner so if he dumps me or I finally decide I can't take it anymore, I'll have you as a rebound option and won't have to spend a moment alone with my thoughts."

I would move on. You offered drinks already. She went quiet. The only thing I'd do with her is let her chase me into bed. But she'd have to pursue 100%. I would never initiate contact with this girl.

 

[The_beard]

I agree about the 2 people comment. I think it went from being a date to very quickly being a non date but we were still having fun drinking together so it wasn't too bad when they turned up.

Me and girl 2 have a bunch of mutual friends and she's always in the bar at work so I'll see if she's around this week when I go in and judge the situation then I suppose. I'm not going to chase her but I wouldn't turn her down.

 

[Alvafe]

every time I read here someone is called nice I cringe, serious I was once called nice by a girl, good thing I don't care about her lol, but I did cringe inside, I just know now when someone call you nice you ARE doing something wrong

 

[The_beard]

I think

every time I read here someone is called nice I cringe, serious I was once called nice by a girl, good thing I don't care about her lol, but I did cringe inside, I just know now when someone call you nice you ARE doing something wrong

I think her actual word was 'decent' but that's just about the same thing.

 

[TheGambino]

I'll translate her for you, "Hey, you seem really nice. I'm dating someone now who I'm really into but he isn't as into me as I am to him. I'm looking for nice guys who can help me feel validated, in attempt to recover from the rejection I feel with this guy I really want, and I'd also like to have you on the back burner so if he dumps me or I finally decide I can't take it anymore, I'll have you as a rebound option and won't have to spend a moment alone with my thoughts."

I would move on. You offered drinks already. She went quiet. The only thing I'd do with her is let her chase me into bed. But she'd have to pursue 100%. I would never initiate contact with this girl.

Perfect