Magic words for unacceptable female behavior

[John9999]

I see so many threads about how to deal with a woman who is behaving in an unacceptable way. I’m not sure when I picked up the following phrase but it has worked miracles for me.

All you have to do is ask the woman one question. “If I did ( fill in the blank with her stupid behavior) how would you feel?“

I have used this on women who have cheated on me, no show gates, cancel dates, ghost me, etc.

 

[Desdinova]

It depends on what the acceptable behavior is. If she tries to 5hit test you, just dont play along. If she invites her guy friend for a sleepover, dump her.

You can't teach a murderer a lesson with a $500 fine, so don't expect to treat a woman's disrespectful actions the same regardless of what she does.

 

[Serenity]

Yeah, that line appeals to empathy and works (given the woman actually has any empathy). However all the examples you mentioned has a level of seriousness higher than what I'd bother using that line for. Maybe except cancel dates if there's a very good reason (like a funeral etc.).

For many unacceptable behaviors there's another line that works great, that's "no". It solves the issue one of two ways, she stops it or she leaves. Either way it solves the problem.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

IMO that is pretty weak.

It's trying to convince her to see your side of things.

It's best to just DQ unacceptable behavior.

You're trying to find a compatible human, not train a puppy.

 

[cola]

I have tremendous success stating with a stern tone and piercing eye contact

“I’m disappointed in you” ..

I’ve had several tearful apologies as a result of this. I don’t know what it is, but that statement really bothers them.

 

[Medina]

I see so many threads about how to deal with a woman who is behaving in an unacceptable way. I’m not sure when I picked up the following phrase but it has worked miracles for me.

All you have to do is ask the woman one question. “If I did ( fill in the blank with her stupid behavior) how would you feel?“

I have used this on women who have cheated on me, no show gates, cancel dates, ghost me, etc.

Yes I used this a few weeks ago to great effect

Her plan was to make me jealous, it didn't work and I used the reverse on her

In the end she made herself extremely jealous over a situation that hasn't even happened LOL

Idiot

 

[sazc]

Meh, tbh, all of it sounds like you're trying to parent ..... an adult

I feel the only way is to walk away. IF she comes back and wants to know why THEN tell her - but ONLY explain yourself if you are planning on walking away for good because that is the only way the lesson MAY take for the next dude.

Explaining yourself, explaining your boundaries, and then taking her back is a slippery slope. If you do that her 'get out of jail free card' is used. One more fvck up and you walk

 

[Spaz]

I have used this on women who have cheated on me, no show gates, cancel dates, ghost me, etc.

When it becomes unacceptable with the examples you're given, there is no need for further conversations, there's only action and punishment.

You punish them by removing your favor, your love, your protection, everything under the umbrella of ur strength and influence is removed.

 

[Serenity]

I have tremendous success stating with a stern tone and piercing eye contact

“I’m disappointed in you” ..

I’ve had several tearful apologies as a result of this. I don’t know what it is, but that statement really bothers them.

This also appeals to empathy, that's why it bothers them. If you got angry it's easier for them to handle that than disappointment. They wish to be good people like most people do, being disappointed in their actions makes it very clear they're not as good as they wish to be.

I reacted the same way as a kid, so I know this from a personal perspective. If my parents got angry, no problem, even more reason to be a little b!tch. However, disappointing them was THE worst thing I could do, it just feels like sh!t.

IMO that is pretty weak.

It's trying to convince her to see your side of things.

It's best to just DQ unacceptable behavior.

You're trying to find a compatible human, not train a puppy.

Can't say I fully disagree, but it depends I think. If it's something minor and such occurrences are very rare, then I'd say this. You may think this is weak from a mans perspective, but it hits perfectly with the way women think. It's effective.

 

[Epic Days]

I just look at them until they look away.
Women feel empathy for hopeless cases and whining upset babies and puppies.

In the world of her sexual appetite? No empathy.

 

[John9999]

I have tremendous success stating with a stern tone and piercing eye contact

“I’m disappointed in you” ..

I’ve had several tearful apologies as a result of this. I don’t know what it is, but that statement really bothers them.

Oh man. That’s gold.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

what cola said, and add

"no wonder why your mom is lonely and you father hates you"

 

[Tilex]

That doesn't work on sociopaths/BPD.
There are a lot of women out there with sociopathic tendencies.

This one chick I knew a long time ago played her dominant feminist game on me and decided to disrespect me nonstop for several hours, and then I threatened her with my dominant masculine game to shut her up and scare her away.
Got rid of her and never contacted her again. She was too toxic to deal with anymore.

Sometimes you need to treat these women as if they were men.

 

[John9999]

That doesn't work on sociopaths/BPD.
There are a lot of women out there with sociopathic tendencies.

This one chick I knew a long time ago played her dominant feminist game on me and decided to disrespect me nonstop for several hours, and then I threatened her with my dominant masculine game to shut her up and scare her away.
Got rid of her and never contacted her again. She was too toxic to deal with anymore.

Sometimes you need to treat these women as if they were men.

You are 100% correct. Those words did nothing to affect the behavior of my ex fiancé. Hence that’s why she became an ax. She is an untreated BPD and has no concept of right from wrong.

 

[greatsnake]

unacceptable behavior is a sign that she doesn't respect you. By my standards, I'd warn her once and if it happens again I'd cut her loose.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

If it's something minor and such occurrences are very rare, then I'd say this. You may think this is weak from a mans perspective, but it hits perfectly with the way women think. It's effective.

To be sure there are way too many variables for any hard and fast rule. The OP alluded to them as "magic words" which suspected this was useful in ALL situations.

The longer you are with anybody, the harder it is to next, and the more inter-relationship-game techniques you'll need.

Which, of course, will differ from person to person. AND will depend on who's using them.

@cola's technique may work fine for him but would backfire for many others without proper frame.

Any ideas about "magic words" that work for all people and all places is ridiculous.

 

[Serenity]

To be sure there are way too many variables for any hard and fast rule. The OP alluded to them as "magic words" which suspected this was useful in ALL situations.

I was being moderate in the comment I made before the one you replied to. It mainly works if the woman gives a fvck to some extent, if she doesn't then nothing will work.

The longer you are with anybody, the harder it is to next, and the more inter-relationship-game techniques you'll need.

Which is why it shouldn't be needed, but might be useful still. As I said, minor things that might happen very rarely. Kinda stupid to walk out over small things after having invested much time in a woman, but again and I can't stress it enough, rarely! If you find yourself having to play games a lot then obviously it's better to walk away.

@cola's technique may work fine for him but would backfire for many others without proper frame.

Valid point. Using this isn't a bypass for having a strong and firm frame, it is in fact absolutely necessary to have a solid frame for this to have a chance at working.

Any ideas about "magic words" that work for all people and all places is ridiculous.

That is correct, although I didn't claim this to always work. I interpreted the use of "magic words" by OP to just be sensational writing, but that doesn't invalidate the entire point. That it works often enough to be useful, especially if she hasn't really lost all respect for you or is a sociopath.

It seems the main thing you're responding to is that this is something that always works. I did not intend to be interpreted that way as I fully agree with you.

 

[Epic Days]

She understands perfectly well how a man wants to be treated. She understands the whole relationship dynamic from start to finish.

There’s nothing to explain.

The real irony is that if you have completely validated her. Paid the correct amount of homage to her self assumed value. She then, will act up.
She can manipulate in both spheres. Manipulate in the sphere of treating you very well and manipulate in the sphere of treating you poorly.
Depending upon the state of your fragile ego.

What is the purpose and impetus behind treating you well and treating you poorly?
The idea is to increase her value in your eyes to the point that she runs the show. If you react to things so easily, she already does have you.

The real state of masculine/feminine is that she is there to feel and experience that state where each are in their roles. She comes to you for her intimacy and sex. She’s not after anything. She there to be a feminine woman and for you to be masculine.

Relationships are a battleground unless you are completely stable.