"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Thinking of flaking on this girl

B0redandl0nely

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So I got her number on Thursday of last week and texted her this past Monday. I asked her out for Thursday and she said she would let me know on Wednesday so I withdrew the offer. The girl then suggested Sunday night and I told her I would pick her up around 6 to take her to this Mexican restaurant/bar. She agrees and then a day later she asks me if I want to go to a movie instead. I then ask her what movie she wants to see and she tells me one that is only playing at 10:40 PM on Sunday.

The date is set for me to pick her up at 10:15 on Sunday to go to the movies but I have several reasons why I think I should back out of this. One, I already showed her that I am unassertive by allowing her to change the plans. Two, a movie first date is just a bad idea because most of the date you are watching a movie and not talking. And three, she is likely to flake herself because she is "tired."

I am autistic and I have a low IQ so she likely tried to change the plans to either go to the movies for free or give herself an easy opportunity to flake. People say I am a good looking guy so likely what happens with these girls is that they are attracted initially but become turned off by my weird behavior gradually. I also struggle with confidence and self-esteem issues so that likely shows in my actions as well.

So who agrees with me about cancelling and maintaining the upper hand?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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B0redandl0nely

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Don't cancel just because you want to "maintain the upper hand". That's your ego talking. That's what females do. If you're going to cancel, do it IF you actually have a valid reason.

Your username suggests you definitely shouldn't cancel.
Aren't the reasons I listed valid? She is likely to flake anyway. I would rather just not get rejected.
 

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Reasons your points are invalid and why you are overthinking this ..

She wants to hang out at 10:40 at night, she is probably down to f#ck

Movies are great for getting her warmed up, put your arm around her, rub her thigh.

You are driving, so it will be easy to come up with a reason to “stop by your house” after the movie.


It’s nothing wrong with compromising on an outing, maybe she doesn’t like bar settings ..

If this were me this would be an easy lay ..
 

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Reasons your points are invalid and why you are overthinking this ..

She wants to hang out at 10:40 at night, she is probably down to f#ck

Movies are great for getting her warmed up, put your arm around her, rub her thigh.

You are driving, so it will be easy to come up with a reason to “stop by your house” after the movie.


It’s nothing wrong with compromising on an outing, maybe she doesn’t like bar settings ..

If this were me this would be an easy lay ..
You make good points
 

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Dude plz do flake on her. Let you know is sht, and then suggesting something else........ dude, it's too much sht test, fck that sht. She dont' like you. Next.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dude plz do flake on her. Let you know is sht, and then suggesting something else........ dude, it's too much sht test, fck that sht. She dont' like you. Next.
Maybe you are right. I'll let her flake so I could let her know how much of a deceiving b1tch she is. Girls don't like me and they're all bad people because they lead guys on. I will never bother with another girl again.
 

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You don't hate women. You hate yourself. You need to love yourself first and foremost. It's not about women. It never was. It's about you.

Take action and improve your yourself.
I can't improve myself. I'm disabled and I'm gonna tell this b1tch off when she flakes
 

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I shouldn't have even bothered. She ruined my whole weekend. I was much happier when I told myself I wasn't gonna try anymore. I hate her
 

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You lost as soon as she tried changing the venue. Woman follows, you lead, at least in the beginning stages. She has shown that she is difficult, more of that to come if you stay. Next.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You lost as soon as she tried changing the venue. Woman follows, you lead, at least in the beginning stages. She has shown that she is difficult, more of that to come if you stay. Next.
I know she's a b1tch like all of them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm 27. Ok WOMEN whatever. I hate women and I'm gonna make sure this b1tch who thinks she can call the shots and then reject me knows I am pissed off.
Ignore her. Letting her know of your frustration makes you look weak. Plus its seeking a sort of validation or acknowledgement. Talk to females who like you.
 

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Ignore her. Letting her know of your frustration makes you look weak. Plus its seeking a sort of validation or acknowledgement. Talk to females who like you.
I don't want to talk to other females. I am done with them. Any man who is ever rejected by a woman is a fvcking loser. So I am a fvcking loser. But I want these fvcking cvnts, these miserable disgusting creatures who think they can walk all over me to know I'm not gonna be some chump who is just gonna say nothing. I'm already a loser for getting rejected. I can't dig myself a deeper hole.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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