"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RickTheToad

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Not sure why you are second guessing yourself. You had every right to decline. No one wants to get sick. She should had respected your decision instead of giving you your walking papers, then offer to take you back, but only with an ultimatum. It sounds she dumped you, then immediate saw the mistake and tried to make up for it and in turn you dumped her back. Strange. If you ask me, you saved yourself a world of hurt and disappointment. She can't make up her mind. Seems her first was a bluff to see how'd you respond. She didn't expect you to walk, and you did. A+ on that. Stop second guessing yourself.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Shrubber101

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You were just being pragmatic. Silly bint just had a cold. She's not dying and she's not six years old. She doesn't need anyone to look after her. Why should you get sick just to baby her.
It's your job as the man to be the practical one. You have to take the lead straight away. If she's not willing to get with program and recognise the value of your male pragmatism then bollocks to her. You want a woman. Not a baby.
 

SoSuave666

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Pay no attention to this whole sickness mess. She was being bratty/bitchy and you didn't stand for it. Good job.

What you should be paying attention to is the way she spoke to you about other men. Respectful women never bring this type of thing up. They don't talk about exes (much, maybe a very little bit) and they don't mention other men that are interested in them and she is entertaining. Even if she is fvcking 5 other guys a respectful woman doesn't bring it up.

It's red flag for someone with low self-esteem. You do not want to date these women they will always be seeking validation from men. Either by text, Instagram, or even in public right in front of your face. Then she will pretend like she wasn't doing anything and gaslight you and tell you to stop acting jealous. Be glad you got out of this one, she seems very disrespectful. Problem with these insecure women is the sex is usually very good as they will do anything to please you.

How old was she?
 

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Pay no attention to this whole sickness mess. She was being bratty/bitchy and you didn't stand for it. Good job.

What you should be paying attention to is the way she spoke to you about other men. Respectful women never bring this type of thing up. They don't talk about exes (much, maybe a very little bit) and they don't mention other men that are interested in them and she is entertaining. Even if she is fvcking 5 other guys a respectful woman doesn't bring it up.

It's red flag for someone with low self-esteem. You do not want to date these women they will always be seeking validation from men. Either by text, Instagram, or even in public right in front of your face. Then she will pretend like she wasn't doing anything and gaslight you and tell you to stop acting jealous. Be glad you got out of this one, she seems very disrespectful. Problem with these insecure women is the sex is usually very good as they will do anything to please you.

How old was she?
It was a strange interaction. I swear, two days before, she was having a great time and the sex was amazing. As she left my place, she even said that was intense. My p-ssy is still wet. I was just so confused with that text conversation. Even surprised more that I've not heard back. She even sent me weeks prior a text saying she cannot believe she found me and she doesn't want to lose me. So, I don't know. She's 37. Lives with her sister. They both share a condo. Divorced, no kids.
 
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