"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Caught off guard,

ace88

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I had a date planned for a week, and the day before it was supposed to happen she cancelled saying she forgot about a trip and probably wont make it, and she will join later.

Should i accept the new terms?

Should i cancel and re schedule?

Should i ignore the message and just not answer when she calls to meet up for drinks when she gets back?

I'm oriented towards the last option, but im here to ask for DJ's help.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Victory Unlimited

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A woman who cancels a date and does NOT counter offer with a "make up" date---is guilty of having low interest in you.

When she said she will "join later"---this gives you license to not initiate any contact with her whatsoever.

Whenever you think about calling her---call, pursue, or hunt for OTHER women instead.

Make this woman pursue YOU instead. Put her in the back of the babe "queue". Let her get in wherever she can fit in.

You'll know you have your priorities right when your level of "active" interest I'm her perfectly matches her level of active interest in you.

No more. No less.

The hardcore is this:

Whenever the FAVOR that you extended to a woman is devalued or disregarded, then that's when you start operating from a position of meting out JUSTICE "only".

V U.
 

glass half full

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When she said she will "join later"---this gives you license to not initiate any contact with her whatsoever.
^^^ This, is how you end a last minute drop. Always leave her with the option. It's her call now.

If a woman doesn't say that, tell her if "she's still interested when she gets back, call me. Have a nice trip."

And go find other plates.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Glassguy

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Its simple-

She canceled. She didnt give a specific counter offer.
Let it be. If she is truly interested she will reach back out. If she isnt, you have wasted no more time with her.

Any initiation from you means you have a scarcity mindset and low worth in her eyes.
 

btownbuck2012

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Its simple-

She canceled. She didnt give a specific counter offer.
Let it be. If she is truly interested she will reach back out. If she isnt, you have wasted no more time with her.

Any initiation from you means you have a scarcity mindset and low worth in her eyes.
Yeah man this is the truth. Anytime a woman hits you with some indication she wants to break things off or see other people you straight up walk the fck away and go strict NC. The most powerful tool we as men have is walking away from a woman after she’s fccked us. Blows their mind and let’s them know you’re a MAN
 
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She "forgot about" a trip she had planned?

At least she was decent enough to tell you she wouldn't make it before the day. If she doesn't work to earn a second chance with you move along.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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1) Do not reply in any form whatsoever.
2) She cancelled date, she should try to reschedule
3) If she will call you to just chat, be friendly but don't propose anything else unless she will drag conversation (dragging = she wants you to invite her again and she is actually working her ass off for you to spot it)

If no GREEN NEON from her for you to ask her again, DIS-PHUCKIN-ENGAGE.

Don't suck up to a woman.
Agree. I wont respond. Next her. Go get more baeeeees. If she hits you up, change the location, and she's in IOU op.

New girls are turning 18 everyday.

Proceed accordingly.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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John9999

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I had a date planned for a week, and the day before it was supposed to happen she cancelled saying she forgot about a trip and probably wont make it, and she will join later.

Should i accept the new terms?

Should i cancel and re schedule?

Should i ignore the message and just not answer when she calls to meet up for drinks when she gets back?

I'm oriented towards the last option, but im here to ask for DJ's help.
Oh hell no! She forgot she had a trip. Common! Really. Forget her and move on. And if she hits you up, ignore her.
 
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