Girlfriend Is Behaving Distant?

[Alvafe]

IMO blocking/unfriending/un matching shows that you are butthurt and should only be done if the other person is toxic.

One my last boyfriend realized I wasnt coming back, he immediately unfriended me on social media (because he was butthurt)

Wouldn't it have been better for him to stay connected and let his happy life be the 'revenge' for me deciding I was done?

not worth, let it be hard to be stalked, maybe its me but, I don't tend to care for exes if they are even alive anymore even less if they will like I unfriendly then or not

 

[soulforge]

AKA- I met someone else who is local and it seems to be going ok with him, so I am not doing this LDR with you anymore.

@soulforge Sorry I am late to the party. I've had a super busy weekend. These situations suck the life right out of you. Been there, done that.

First and foremost, we both know what you have to do- Ghost her @ss.

2 years and she sends you a lousy text? It just goes to show that women can be super cold. Thats ok, there are plenty more to be had.

You give some really good advice on here in your posts to other members. My recommendation is to follow what you would recommend to someone else in your position, which would be to eject and IGNORE. Fvck her and her feelings because she didnt care about yours when she sent you a lousy text. You need to do whats best for you and right now that means ghost her.

She WILL send you the mixed messages in the coming weeks. Dont break frame and fall for it because we both know what those CRUMBS lead to.......her being cold again and it feels like you broke up for the second time.

She is going to say "Are you ok?". "Just checking to see if you're doing alright. I miss you". Blah blah blah. She is only sending them to see if you are still on the hook. ANY response means that you're still on the hook.

Instead I prefer to totally mindfvck these women who do this shyte and let them wonder if I am even getting their messages. Let her wonder how YOU moved on so quickly. Let her hamster run crazy as you walk away.

Instead do your thing. Hit the gym. Get your feet planted in building a new rotation. Live life. There are better women out there.

Its too late now, but I would have sent her a response to the break up text. My response would have been "Yeah I feel the same. The sex has really sucked the last few months and I need something new and exciting in my life too. Take care". I would have ghosted from there. Mind fvck, light the fire and walk away as it burns.

So if she reaches out for validation or because the new guy isnt what she thought, you just remember that your 2 years with her was as meaningful as a lousy text to end it on her end.

Always here if you need any help bro. Go find some new @ss.

Glass guy thanks alot Bro.. Appreciate it.

To be honest, i'm feeling a sense of relief.. This was a long distance relationship, seeing each other once or twice a week.

Already done 2 years with her, but she has a kid, which means long distance for another 4-5 years till he is grown up.

LDRS have a very high possibility of going wrong over long periods of time.

I was seriously considering going along with this for another 4-5 years.. Imagine how much time I would have wasted?

She could have pulled this another 3-4 years down the line, or completely bailed out of moving in with me, once the kid grew up.

This is the wake up call I needed.. Hurts a little man, but its for the best.

I did toy with the idea of sending her a message, and let her know that I am perfectly happy with the decision.. I was actually getting bored with the sex too.

But most people on here advised me to simply ghost her.. So have ghosted her since Thursday.

If she contacts me again, she will get ignored completely!

 

[Glassguy]

I agree with the ghosting. She doesnt deserve anything.

Better to find out now that waste more time. I will guarantee you this- there is another c0ck involved in this scenario and she has been fvcking someone else no matter how accounted for her time away from you has been.

Lesson learned. Onward and forward. Go find a couple younger chicks and pound the shyte out of them and youll feel better in no time flat!

 

[Dash Riprock]

I never raised my voice... as I stated before, i treated this girl with dignity and respect... Why? Because she is or was a good human being.

However sometimes people need a wake up call.. she was a naive individual, and can easily be taken advantage of.. I advised her, not to sign up with sales men turning up at her door.

If that is ALL it takes for woman to resent and walk away from there man... Then I fukin give up!

Read my recent post: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...ecause-they-all-want-sex.257312/#post-2621347

 

[lamath]

I agree with the ghosting. She doesnt deserve anything.

Better to find out now that waste more time. I will guarantee you this- there is another c0ck involved in this scenario and she has been fvcking someone else no matter how accounted for her time away from you has been.

Lesson learned. Onward and forward. Go find a couple younger chicks and pound the shyte out of them and youll feel better in no time flat!

The way it happened point to monkey branching,
I agree that there is more than likely an other **** involved, i would like to think that a good women will have the decency to break up before going for it.

 

[Glassguy]

i would like to think that a good women will have the decency to break up before going for it.

In this day and age a woman is not going to leave until she has another option or more lined up. Its just the way it is.

Thats why when I monkey branch or replace a plate and ghost, I dont feel anything about it.

 

[lamath]

In this day and age a woman is not going to leave until she has another option or more lined up. Its just the way it is.

Thats why when I monkey branch or replace a plate and ghost, I dont feel anything about it.

I meant before starting fvcking the other guy.
In a few week she will see that other guy for what he really is and not her fantasy then she will start txting op again

She broke up with txt imo because she probably was seeing that guy the same night. She wanted a clear conscience.

 

[Glassguy]

I meant before starting fvcking the other guy.
In a few week she will see that other guy for what he really is and not her fantasy then she will start txting op again

She broke up with txt imo because she probably was seeing that guy the same night. She wanted a clear conscience.

More than likely. On a sidenote, this is why LDR's are always a bad idea. I can understand having a plate in an area that you are traveling to frequently but to have a straight up committed relationship is out of the question. I am surprised this one lasted 2 years. Credit OP for doing things right to keep her around this long.

Unless both people are hermits, one will eventually meet someone they are interested who is more local. This is the end result...a woman who starts showing signs of lost interest and then sends "the" text.

 

[Ranger]

The way it happened point to monkey branching,
I agree that there is more than likely an other **** involved, i would like to think that a good women will have the decency to break up before going for it.

She can’t risk it. It’s too much risk to dump the sure thing unless she knows the next one is worth the risk. It’s asking a lot of a woman.

 

[Ranger]

In this day and age a woman is not going to leave until she has another option or more lined up. Its just the way it is.

Thats why when I monkey branch or replace a plate and ghost, I dont feel anything about it.

It has never not been this way. Ever. Blaming it on today’s happenings is camouflaging an important truth.

 

[soulforge]

To be honest man, if she is polishing next mans dik, I don't give a fuk.

I'm just angry at myself for getting into a LDR in the first with her, they are HARD work..

She has done me a favour.. I was seriously considering investing more time with her, even Years.

Glad I got this wake up call now and not 5 years further down the line.

I was enjoying my time with her, and didn't even seriously consider the complications I would face with a LDR like this.

 

[Glassguy]

It has never not been this way. Ever. Blaming it on today’s happenings is camouflaging an important truth.

I disagree. Not too many years ago women were more loyal in general. Social media, OLD and the tons of options their pvssy now has brought it to the level it is today.

I've lived it and seen it. You wont change my mind. Sure some women have never been loyal and have always monkey branched. Today its rampant.

 

[lamath]

I disagree. Not too many years ago women were more loyal in general. Social media, OLD and the tons of options their pvssy now has brought it to the level it is today.

I've lived it and seen it. You wont change my mind. Sure some women have never been loyal and have always monkey branched. Today its rampant.

It make a difference for sure,
Imo its not only the options in men that jade them and make ltr harder

Its the Disney like effect created by those social media, all they see is a unrealistic representation of other people life.
Then those spark unrealistic expectation on how a relationship should be.

 

[stevieLA]

You keep asking the same question over and over again. You are looking for an emotional reaction out of her. just move on. Blocking her is up to you. If you write her you are simply looking to get a reaction out of her for a temporary boost of your ego.

Let. It. Go.

I agree. This thread is circling over and over again like a turd in a toiletbowl that won't flush.

He says he's over her but posts about her non-stop in a disturbingly obsessive manner.

 

[flowtheory]

@flowtheory i think your gf told you the same thing read this thread.

Not the same. At the start of relationship she wasn’t totally emotionally avaible due to her and her ex splitting up months before us meeting.

 

[Ranger]

Not the same. At the start of relationship she wasn’t totally emotionally avaible due to her and her ex splitting up months before us meeting.

They are NEVER free of past boyfriend or boyfriends. She will continually gauge how much you effect her chemically in comparison to exes.

The problem is it gets harder and harder to feel really strong chemicals over time.

 

[SoSuave666]

They are NEVER free of past boyfriend or boyfriends. She will continually gauge how much you effect her chemically in comparison to exes.

The problem is it gets harder and harder to feel really strong chemicals over time.

You speak of pair bonding. Not enough people pay attention to it.

Men need to realize women are cold af these days because they have so many options/so much sex, they legit can move on in days. When you get into a relationship with a woman her ex boyfriends are default more alpha than you.

 

[lamath]

You speak of pair bonding. Not enough people pay attention to it.

Men need to realize women are cold af these days because they have so many options/so much sex, they legit can move on in days. When you get into a relationship with a woman her ex boyfriends are default more alpha than you.

You got a good point there, but i dont think it is always a factor. I would say it depends on many factors of her previous relationship.

 

[Mazer]

Block.
Two reasons why guys don’t block chicks who dump them,

1. They don’t want to close that line of communication. They want the woman to reach out to them, even if they say they don’t.

2. They fear that it will show they are butthurt.

You are in her frame with either 1 or 2. Butthurt?! She is too busy swallowing her new dudes load to even care, doesn’t have an ounce of respect for you and guys are worried about looking butthurt. Block, delete and move on.

 

[Toddz]

I've shared this before but a must watch for this scenario. Dumped through a text message after 2 years and not even a phone call? Move on...