"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Worst first meet of my life

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yea, she said she recently went to India. I asked her how was the experience? What did you do there? She responded what's with all these questions. I feel like I'm on an interview. She broke the silence a few times when I told her about my recent excursion, but she wouldn't tell or talk about herself. Very strange for a woman not to like to talk about themselves.
Because she probably lied about going there.
 

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I kind of wish I never divorced my wife if this is what I have to look forward too.
Yeah go back to your ex wife. It’s going to get much tougher with online dating.
 

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I am new to this online dating thing since my divorce a few years ago, but tonight was my first trek out. It was horrible. Woman looked like her pictures, but the personality of a door. Very little to talk about. She doesn't like sports. She doesn't like to do anything but travel. Has not future plans aside from kids and marriage ultimately. I ordered two beers for us and asked for the check 15 minutes later. When I go out to eat with friends or such, I put it on a credit card, but I needed to end this thing so bad I put down twenty, said nice to meet you and jetted. She ordered a Uber home I guess.

It was as fun and entertaining as watching paint dry. How do you guys deal with this? I couldn't end it fast enough and I was out 20 bucks. Normally, I'd ask her to chip in, but I just wanted to get out of there. It was an unreal experience. I do not think we spent 35 minutes together. She had zero to say. I mean nothing. Zero. Zilch.

I kind of wish I never divorced my wife if this is what I have to look forward too.
I'm guessing that watching paint dry would probably been more fun...lol

It sucks but at least it was quick. Keep your chin up.
 

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Funny how almost every girl put loves to travel in her bio. Some list all the countries or put the country flag emoji in their bio. NEXT :)
Perhaps men should come right out and say we like wild, un-inhibited sex, as often as possible.
That would likely weed out the "travelers", right!!?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hmm, I bought my sports car online thru auto trader. Saved a lot of money. Better warranty than online dating.
LOL yeah I didn't know u can get that online now.. Must needed towing since u don't get to go to the showroom.
 

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Yea, she said she recently went to India. I asked her how was the experience? What did you do there? She responded what's with all these questions. I feel like I'm on an interview. She broke the silence a few times when I told her about my recent excursion, but she wouldn't tell or talk about herself. Very strange for a woman not to like to talk about themselves.
Girl who like travelling must have a good social skills to move around.. Shes lying.. Your guts instinct is your best friend when it comes to women and vice versa.
 

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Because she probably lied about going there.
Anything is possible.

Yeah go back to your ex wife. It’s going to get much tougher with online dating.
Yea, that bridge is burnt. I do not know one of my relationships that ended with us still talking; especially my ex-wife. I never saw the point in continuing communication with a woman after we're done. I sometimes jump the gun on this, but that's my personality. Hit before getting hit.

I'm guessing that watching paint dry would probably been more fun...lol

It sucks but at least it was quick. Keep your chin up.
It was a really bad experience. I do not know if she was uninterested or what. A really strange experience.

LOL yeah I didn't know u can get that online now.. Must needed towing since u don't get to go to the showroom.
Drove down to Virginia to pick up the truck. Saved about 12k plus full factory warranty. Seems you can get everything online now; well, except a woman. lol.

Girl who like travelling must have a good social skills to move around.. Shes lying.. Your guts instinct is your best friend when it comes to women and vice versa.
Yea, agree. Every time I go against my gut feeling, I get hurt or screwed. I tend to now just go with my gut. It doesn't have to worry about emotions and feelings.
 

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Anything is possible.

Yea, agree. Every time I go against my gut feeling, I get hurt or screwed. I tend to now just go with my gut. It doesn't have to worry about emotions and feelings.
This is what to follow, your instincts. And I get screwed over everytime I go against mine. I finally quit doing that a few years ago.

I've had several bad experiences like that in my past. Back when there was nobody to talk to about it. I'm glad for this site.
 

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I am new to this online dating thing since my divorce a few years ago, but tonight was my first trek out. It was horrible. Woman looked like her pictures, but the personality of a door. Very little to talk about. She doesn't like sports. She doesn't like to do anything but travel. Has not future plans aside from kids and marriage ultimately. I ordered two beers for us and asked for the check 15 minutes later. When I go out to eat with friends or such, I put it on a credit card, but I needed to end this thing so bad I put down twenty, said nice to meet you and jetted. She ordered a Uber home I guess.

It was as fun and entertaining as watching paint dry. How do you guys deal with this? I couldn't end it fast enough and I was out 20 bucks. Normally, I'd ask her to chip in, but I just wanted to get out of there. It was an unreal experience. I do not think we spent 35 minutes together. She had zero to say. I mean nothing. Zero. Zilch.

I kind of wish I never divorced my wife if this is what I have to look forward too.
I think of the game pong. It is a dot/ball bouncing. You the man initiated. Like a TD in football, you sort of got to run with it. Pareto distribution 80/20. Once you reach in what pickup godfather mystery calls "the hook point," the redistribution can occur.

Things that help me. 1. I always assume attraction 2. I lead. She follows or next. It sets pace. 3. I begin with the end in mind as in, hit on, chat up baeeees, have a flirt the way i would if I had already gone ass to mouth and fapped on her face. ZERO ****S. 4. NEW GIRLS ARE TURNING 18 EVERYDAY!

You have more or less +/- chemistry with some girls. Fortunately, I have chemistry with everyone. Prerequisite for baaaaes isnt negotiable. Top form SMV 18-23 (preferably). Must be in her 20s no exception. Feminine as ****kkk. Dolls herself up without being told. Fit. Is going to the gym. And is dtf.

Anything feminist, combative, masculine or SJWs need not apply.

Act accordingly.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This is what to follow, your instincts. And I get screwed over everytime I go against mine. I finally quit doing that a few years ago.

I've had several bad experiences like that in my past. Back when there was nobody to talk to about it. I'm glad for this site.
This. Listen to my gut very carefully when it comes to women these days. Especially when it comes to online dating. If I don't feel totally convinced when it comes to meeting someone, I won't waste my time with her.
 

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This. Listen to my gut very carefully when it comes to women these days. Especially when it comes to online dating. If I don't feel totally convinced when it comes to meeting someone, I won't waste my time with her.
+1

I agree with respect to trusting your instincts. Women's intuition and mothers intuition is beat to death. Make instincts aren't and imho, i suspect it coincides with female primary social order. It does not promote men nor does it encourage the following progression in masculinity.

I disagree with you on not going. I 100% go if we have agreed to a time/location and has shown no reason for no showing. I almost ghosted and the chick is cool but shy. Not much for texting. I suggest that you let things play. With respect to any sort of ambiguity for # or meet up, LMR or other, I #NEXTSET without recourse. I #nextSet a chick most recently. Late side of twenty, just a plate as you never know what a dryspell may strike. Clearly, the targeted demographic is top form SMV 18-23. Then again, my **** won't suck it self. I bait her a few times, if she doesn't bite, I next.

I mostly setup outings i partake in. Coffee is cheap and I am a fiend for it. I am a foodie. I have no interest in doing things 8 don't want to do. My phone is full of ebooks, epubs, pdf books, and audiobooks. A burner phone has a archive of crap. I can pivot to other endeavours. Similarly, I would rather strike out then not even swing but I digress.
 
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