Bad texter or just not interested?

[Billtx49]

Men, stop putting so much emphasis on texting. Over 90% of communication is nonverbal. Texting should never be a priority.

Exactly right. A text convo can be taken entirely differently by her from what you actually meant.
Same convo done face to face delivers its true meaning to her.

If texting is necessary, keep it short and simple…

 

[backseatjuan]

You are allowed to view it any way you want but don't project that bvllchit on me, that's never how I think or feel about engaging ppl on text.

Ok you see, you first wrote the above, and then added the bellow. You see the chick I'm talking about she has no game, she has husband problems and four kids, she's damaged goods. But what she told me when I asked her is what you told me -- her response depends on her mood, that's all, nothing more. Now we can imagine that her mood depends on the sender's pic, sender's approach, etc, but it's pointless.

People have lives and situations that occupy their time. It's pretty needy of you to assume that, Everytime you text her, she's supposed to be at your beck and call attention-wise. That attitude is not only overly needy, but will have you losing otherwise interested women, who might just not have time at.

If she's not responsive go for the date or back off and let her come to you. There's no reason to allow your anxiety to fill in the gaps, and run some negative narrative, like you have done here

This was added afterwards/.

 

[sazc]

Ok you see, you first wrote the above, and then added the bellow. You see the chick I'm talking about she has no game, she has husband problems and four kids, she's damaged goods. But what she told me when I asked her is what you told me -- her response depends on her mood, that's all, nothing more. Now we can imagine that her mood depends on the sender's pic, sender's approach, etc, but it's pointless.





This was added afterwards/.

Got it.

Ugh, why try to game a married chick? Sport?

 

[backseatjuan]

why try to game a married chick? Sport?

she approach me and gamed me over two years

I guess she saw me roaming around in the summer with lots of 19 year old chicks, lulz.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Exactly. Lamath was on the right track too.

She asked OP ZERO questions, didnt seem engaged in the conversation through text, etc. Low interest. The chit chat without asking her out probably validated what she was thinking of him- someone who is not taking the bull by the horns and LEADING.

So definitely low interest you think based on this small sample? I’ve already been out with her once, so I need to ask her out again I suppose

 

[sazc]

So definitely low interest you think based on this small sample? I’ve already been out with her once, so I need to ask her out again I suppose

Yes, you need to ask her out again. I wouldn't suggest waiting too long in general to set dates. When you do this she thinks she's on your back burner (unless you have low interest). Definitely don't think that texting will maintain interest in between, it's not a good substitute

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Texting is so boring try to meet asap and escalate too much precious time is being wasted on these mediocre looking women and their mediocre lives. I got some strippers number this weekend. Texted her the next day didn't get a reply till 8 9 hours later l, we chatted a bit and my intuition said abort this chick is boring, which she was. She has a lot of options and I'm not putting in work for a stripper the bottom of the trash can type of women. I nexted right away

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I way to intelligent to be talking about being a foodie or what I do for fun Jesus you really do meet the same people in different bodies

 

[sazc]

I way to intelligent to be talking about being a foodie or what I do for fun Jesus you really do meet the same people in different bodies

Sounds like your stripper was trying to get to know you as a person

 

[nicksaiz65]

Yes, you need to ask her out again. I wouldn't suggest waiting too long in general to set dates. When you do this she thinks she's on your back burner (unless you have low interest). Definitely don't think that texting will maintain interest in between, it's not a good substitute

Ok. I will do that and try not to stress it

 

[sazc]

Ok. I will do that and try not to stress it

Just remember, she's either into you, and will make it easy, it she's not into you, and it went be easy. No reason to sweat it.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Just remember, she's either into you, and will make it easy, it she's not into you, and it went be easy. No reason to sweat it.

I guess you can’t really judge that by such a small texting interaction. The real test will be if she accepts the date or not. And I’ll explicitly use the word date.

 

[SoSuave666]

I guess you can’t really judge that by such a small texting interaction. The real test will be if she accepts the date or not. And I’ll explicitly use the word date.

Just ask her out. No need to make it a big deal just ask when she's free and try and match up your schedule.

FWIW I would not advise small talk on the phone like you did. If you're going to chit chat make it flirty and fun, not logical and pointed. You may as well have asked her what he favorite color is...

 

[nicksaiz65]

Just ask her out. No need to make it a big deal just ask when she's free and try and match up your schedule.

FWIW I would not advise small talk on the phone like you did. If you're going to chit chat make it flirty and fun, not logical and pointed. You may as well have asked her what he favorite color is...

Yeah I know. I’m still kinda bad at this tbh. I was hoping to start a whole interesting conversation about music since we’ve had a first date. It’s worked before but this time it went somewhat South...

Any other texting tips?

 

[SoSuave666]

Yeah I know. I’m still kinda bad at this tbh. I was hoping to start a whole interesting conversation about music since we’ve had a first date. It’s worked before but this time it went somewhat South...

Any other texting tips?

Flirty fun and covertly secksual. Less said via text the better, especially early.

In person always escalate and always push for secks. Everything that goes on in the sexual marketplace revolves around....sex! You know it, they know it. Assume interest always

 

[Glassguy]

So definitely low interest you think based on this small sample? I’ve already been out with her once, so I need to ask her out again I suppose

A woman's interest level will drop if you are not being a man and leading her.
Set up the next date. Dont try to be funny when doing it. Just be chill.

 

[lamath]

Just remember, she's either into you, and will make it easy, it she's not into you, and it went be easy. No reason to sweat it.

Picking up your ladies mind if you dont mind


Im thinking of trying OLD,im a bit reticent because to me it does seems like there is lack of overall quality ( Mostly on the personality department) .
Only thing working around here is Tinder.

I hate txting and far from great at it. so after a few txt the conversation can get boring.
I can have some polite chit chat about general stuff, but to me it does seems like boring txting, so would it be a big turn off?
Considering that they they like my pics because we matched what other thing a man can do to screw up with the txting?

 

[nicksaiz65]

A woman's interest level will drop if you are not being a man and leading her.
Set up the next date. Dont try to be funny when doing it. Just be chill.

Okay cool! I’ll just set the dates then and I won’t even worry about it

 

[backseatjuan]

She's fking while you waiting to fk her, she put you on back burner, true player, spinning her man plates!

 

[nicksaiz65]

She's fking while you waiting to fk her, she put you on back burner, true player, spinning her man plates!

I’ll get her out on a date at my earliest convenience