Reyaj
Master Don Juan
Part of me thinks this is the path and the other part of me feels like I shouldn't subject a child to this crappy world we live in.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ok but if you don't procreate you're dead with no one carrying on your DNA.It's to experience, learn, grow, live out your dreams.
True. Even the midwest where you're from has become highly populated. I still think girls are easier there thoughThere are way too many humans on this planet as it is.
Who cares? Not everyone is meant to have a child nor does everyone want one. I'm totally fine with not leaving my DNA behind. This world is going to chit in a hand basket and there is already too many people. Some of the happiest marriages I've seen have no kids. They use the money they would have spent on the child to travel the world, eat good food and enjoy life creating amazing memories.Ok but if you don't procreate you're dead with no one carrying on your DNA.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Another point is that your dna will disappear anyway. Your dna already exists in the rest of humanity, it's just your specific arrangement that you have. So both your consciousness and your individual dna arrangement will end with you, while your dna as a whole will still exist in the rest of humanity, children or no children.Who cares? Not everyone is meant to have a child nor does everyone want one. I'm totally fine with not leaving my DNA behind. This world is going to chit in a hand basket and there is already too many people. Some of the happiest marriages I've seen have no kids. They use the money they would have spent on the child to travel the world, eat good food and enjoy life creating amazing memories.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I can't disagree with anything you wrote here because this is how I often feel. However whether you want to admit it or not you are aging. There comes a point where scoring young attractive women will be difficult. Heck even for someone who is young it's difficult let alone an older man.We are raised to believe procreating is our purpose. I would not want to raise a child in todays phuked up world. It's too toxic and getting worse by the day. "Most" all the married couples I know are miserable, in debt, rarely have sex, complain, ect. The many single moms I know. Sloots are getting wifed up, good guys get dogged, women are loyal to trash men, the good girls are single and the ungrateful have everything.
As you get older your view on purpose changes. IMO live out your dreams, travel, be a good person, stay healthy, have sex, try not to stress that much and just live the life you want to live with zero phukes.
I don't disagree. So is the alternative to not having kids to have a life a partner? I guess the question is how many older "single" people do you know who are happy?Who cares? Not everyone is meant to have a child nor does everyone want one. I'm totally fine with not leaving my DNA behind. This world is going to chit in a hand basket and there is already too many people. Some of the happiest marriages I've seen have no kids. They use the money they would have spent on the child to travel the world, eat good food and enjoy life creating amazing memories.
RightIt's the natural purpose of life. You are here today, because for billions of years lifeforms before you made it their priority to procreate. That is still the baseline programming for every animal on earth, including the 7bn humans.
It's not a fitting purpose anymore though. Back in the days, couple of millenia ago, you could just bite dead other people's offspring to ensure your own offspring had enough resources to flourish. But now we live in an "everybody has a right to live" world and population is out of control.
These days I'm wondering whether it'd be more interesting to pass down my "philosophical DNA", rather than my physical. But then again, the animal in me wants to spread physical DNA.
Or maybe your kid does have offspring and his offspring doesn't procreate.... At least you did your part thoughI've thought about this, but you could have a kid and that kid might not procreate. What's the difference?
So it is our biological purpose then?Biological purpose but plenty of unfulfilled people with kids.
I will say this, I NEVER thought I would have kids or wanted them but when you meet a girl you really like the whole family thing starts to make sense and your purpose as provider role is empowering/focusing. I do suffer existential dread when these relationships end.
Better to focus on spiritual/life purpose in 2018 for obvious reasons.
I'm not a scientist to try and debate facts about what you said lol But most kids sure do resemble their parentsAnother point is that your dna will disappear anyway. Your dna already exists in the rest of humanity, it's just your specific arrangement that you have. So both your consciousness and your individual dna arrangement will end with you, while your dna as a whole will still exist in the rest of humanity, children or no children.
I've always been a recluse due to my mental disorders. I have no issues being alone forever, but will not for a sec deny a life partner would be ideal for me. Someone who shares some of the same interests and at the end of the day call my best friend. Finding that these days is tough but they are out there.I don't disagree. So is the alternative to not having kids to have a life a partner? I guess the question is how many older "single" people do you know who are happy?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.